[Gringo]

I logged into OKC earlier to check on a few messages I had and a chick from another continent IMs me because she loved my profile photo. I had a quick look at her profile and she came across as a boring, semi-religious nut, but within 5 minutes she's talking dirty & telling me she's playing with herself. Good for some amusement if nothing else.

[oldnemesis]

(07-02-2011 05:00 AM)Neo Wrote:  

Individuals? No. Groups and types yes. A profile that's going to attract say a hippie girl who is 20 is different than one who's going to attract say a grad student who is 25, which is different than one who's going to get a go getter type of chick who is 29.

Why not then just have three different profiles?

[GOOSE]

Hey guys, some great advice in this thread, was hoping to keep the conversation going with you expert alphas lol..

Has anyone had any success with getting the number and, after some chatting and game, then just inviting the chick over to watch a movie or something, skipping the bar/drinks aspect and getting closer to business...

I've been texting with a few girls who seem DTF I was wondering if you guys think this would work on 6s or 7s? Or if anyone has tried this?

[Vicious]

Goose, you don't want to do that. In the event that they don't look anything like their pics or are generally psycho it is far easier ditching them if you meet up on the town. They don't know where you live until you've screened then that way either.

[Neo]

(07-19-2011 09:22 PM)GOOSE Wrote:  

Has anyone had any success with getting the number and, after some chatting and game, then just inviting the chick over to watch a movie or something, skipping the bar/drinks aspect and getting closer to business...

I've been texting with a few girls who seem DTF I was wondering if you guys think this would work on 6s or 7s? Or if anyone has tried this?

It almost never works. I'm sure some guys can pull it off, but it doesn't matter how dtf or slutty a girl is 98%(unscientific number) won't do it. A bar or drinks are your best bet, a coffee shop may work but it'll take longer. Also 6s and 7s are equal 3s and 4s in real life since they are getting messaged by so many guys that a 3 or a 4 will think she's a 6 or a 7.

[Gmac]

I have to agree, your odds of getting her to your place after just meeting her online are slim to none.

[Riker]

Hey guys how do you change the thumbnail pic profile picture on OKCupid?

[Gmac]

(07-20-2011 09:10 AM)Riker Wrote:  

Hey guys how do you change the thumbnail pic profile picture on OKCupid?

Whatever your first picture is, that's the thumbnail. Move them around in the edit pictures section.

[GOOSE]

Thanks for all the help guys, just reading this thread has boosted my e-game dramatically,regularly loggging onto 5 or 6 messages on OKcupid now after a slow start, so I'm just trying everything on different people to see what works more often and what doesn't. This forum is awesome!!, I'm glad I found it..

The online game is great because the females put out so much information about themselves ahead of time, you can get inside of their head, it becomes so much easier to reel them in than cold approaching. And like others have stated, there is a bit of a learning curve online, but you begin to develop a sixth sense for what will work and what approach you should take just based on the profiles.

[dermanus]

OKC is my main source; I've picked up some good tips here.

I agree with GOOSE that it can be easier to build rapport with the info they put out, with the risk of picking out the one thing every guy does and then falling back into the crowd.

One tactic I've been trying lately is taking something in their profile and suggesting that it means they're a criminal (usually a drug dealer, but I've also gone with enforcer and spy).

[evanb]

(02-04-2011 01:12 PM)Kid Strangelove Wrote:  

I've been a long time reader of the blog and forum, so I feel like I should contribute something to the discussion because I've been getting way above average results with dating sites, okcupid in particular.

Figured I'd add my own two cents. I just signed up...LAST NIGHT...I have a date set for Saturday as well as a date set with a differect girl for tmrw happy hour...both are 7's. The one I'm seeing tomorrow was willing to meet up on the spot, right now. But the bar I 'wanted her to check out" had last call and by then it'd gotten a bit too late.

Recap: 20 hours member. 2 dates locked in.

[Basil Ransom]

(07-19-2011 09:22 PM)GOOSE Wrote:  

Hey guys, some great advice in this thread, was hoping to keep the conversation going with you expert alphas lol..

Has anyone had any success with getting the number and, after some chatting and game, then just inviting the chick over to watch a movie or something, skipping the bar/drinks aspect and getting closer to business...

I've been texting with a few girls who seem DTF I was wondering if you guys think this would work on 6s or 7s? Or if anyone has tried this?

I always have the girls meet me at my house. I tell them to park there, and we'll walk to the venue from there, which is true. This makes it way easier to bring them back to my place after the bar. A small minority has protested coming to my area, due to the distance, but not my house. Only one explicitly objected to coming to my house - I ended up blowing her off anyway because I found her facebook and she was too ugly.

On three occasions, I never left my house. I simply escorted the girl in, and proceeded to have drinks at my place. One was a girl I met elsewhere, briefly, the other two I met online.

How to do it: Tell them to park by your place. Be vague about what follows. Greet them outside, and tell them "hold on a sec." Show them into your house, and before they know what's what, crack open a beer and stick it in their hand. Do the same for yourself. Donezo.

[Caligula]

I'm declaring GMac's tv dinner and grape juice opener on OCKupid officially dead. Girls in NYC have received it multiple times. Time to come up with a new script.

[Vicious]

(08-13-2011 09:36 AM)Caligula Wrote:  

I'm declaring GMac's tv dinner and grape juice opener on OCKupid officially dead. Girls in NYC have received it multiple times. Time to come up with a new script.

There are plenty of sad guys that have female profiles up only to steal lines which they parrot back without any editing.

This is a large reason why your script should be very loose. Cut & paste openers just won't do anymore.

[kbell]

So what do you do if your only 5' 4"? Lie about height?

[Gmac]

(08-13-2011 10:12 AM)kbell Wrote:  

So what do you do if your only 5' 4"? Lie about height?

Most guys do (I don't) by about 2". She'll find out, you can always leave it blank.

[Tuthmosis]

(08-13-2011 09:36 AM)Caligula Wrote:  

I'm declaring GMac's tv dinner and grape juice opener on OCKupid officially dead. Girls in NYC have received it multiple times. Time to come up with a new script.

This is the problem with sharing certain aspects of your game--especially online stuff. I like throwing out knowledge, but some motherfuckers are so lazy, thirsty, and unoriginal that they spam 100s of women with your exact shit verbatim. This is especially a problem since the material is available to random Internet lurkers.

I really don't blame @gmac now for not sharing his DC hotspots. Sausages would bombard those places in a heartbeat.

[Docter]

This is pretty funny. Some girl has this under "message me if..."

Quote:

Also, if you won't make it on to this list...
“Do you like milk with ice?”
“You look like my grandma. You have no idea how much I love her.”
“Let us be cereal for a midget. How do I get girls to stop talking to me?”
“I’d like to pour you some grape juice, after which I’d pull you close and whisper in your ear, ‘There’s a frozen dinner in the freezer with your name on it.’”

[Menace]

How many girls do you message with a given strategy before you decide it doesn't work? I'm trying a custom short response strategy on POF right now, but it's not as effective as might have hoped (of course it could be other shit in my profile that's not helping).

[Vicious]

(08-19-2011 12:29 PM)Menace Wrote:  

How many girls do you message with a given strategy before you decide it doesn't work? I'm trying a custom short response strategy on POF right now, but it's not as effective as might have hoped (of course it could be other shit in my profile that's not helping).

It's not like a certain "strategy" works flawlessly with all women and others score nil. Every woman is going to respond in a different matter.

These days I think of the canned opener as kind of dead as women on the net has heard so many copypasted lines that they can sense quickly when you're just going shotgun.

[Basil Ransom]

(08-19-2011 01:14 PM)Vicious Wrote:  

(08-19-2011 12:29 PM)Menace Wrote:  

How many girls do you message with a given strategy before you decide it doesn't work? I'm trying a custom short response strategy on POF right now, but it's not as effective as might have hoped (of course it could be other shit in my profile that's not helping).

It's not like a certain "strategy" works flawlessly with all women and others score nil. Every woman is going to respond in a different matter.

These days I think of the canned opener as kind of dead as women on the net has heard so many copypasted lines that they can sense quickly when you're just going shotgun.

The advantage of the canned opener is that it gets a girl to look at you. Some girls will think, ok, I know he shotgunned this, but he looks pretty cute, his profile's funny... Maybe the success rate is 5-10%, but you make it up in volume and time per contact slashed.

I've also noticed, with both canned and targeted openers, plenty of girls will laugh and write back, but really have no interest. It's like opening a hottie at a bar with a great line - she may laugh, but that doesn't mean she likes you.

[Vicious]

(08-19-2011 01:21 PM)basilransom Wrote:  

The advantage of the canned opener is that it gets a girl to look at you. Some girls will think, ok, I know he shotgunned this, but he looks pretty cute, his profile's funny... Maybe the success rate is 5-10%, but you make it up in volume and time per contact slashed.

Yeah, in the end it's all about your profile... and to be frank, your photos.

[Menace]

(08-19-2011 01:33 PM)Vicious Wrote:  

(08-19-2011 01:21 PM)basilransom Wrote:  

The advantage of the canned opener is that it gets a girl to look at you. Some girls will think, ok, I know he shotgunned this, but he looks pretty cute, his profile's funny... Maybe the success rate is 5-10%, but you make it up in volume and time per contact slashed.

Yeah, in the end it's all about your profile... and to be frank, your photos.

Yeah, I'm under no illusions that photos matter, perhaps more than anything else. I think I'm reasonably attractive (girls have checked me out IRL, but I'm super un-photogenic). Could well be my profile is lacking. I think I'll just try what Superman does, and fool around with my profile and try it on out of DC girls.

[Gmac]

The thing most of these chicks have told me about their bad dates is that guys are A) needy, B) clueless, C) submissive/passive. All easy to remedy with game. Just be aggressive in going after the dates (via messages) once you've built some rapport. And by aggressive, I don't mean literally.

[silent_scope]

I use a copy and paste opener. Got me more replies than custom crafted to profile openers.