[MtnMan]

I hooked up with this girl a couple days ago, started out escalating while watching a movie. Purposely spread it out over an hour or so, she was super wet and ready to go, she basically jumped up at ran up to my bedroom. We start going at it on the bed, i go down on her while fingering.

Shes into it, starts to feel like she is working towards an orgasm within a couple minutes. Then she gets super sensitive, and says she is overstimulated. Didn't appear to have a legit orgasm, but sometimes clits get mega sensitive after an O, so I figured it was time to bang.

Throw on a condom, start going at it. After a minute, she says she wants to get on top. I'm cool with that, so i let her. She goes at it and appears to enjoy herself for a couple minutes and then stops claiming she is overstimulated again. And that pretty much was it for the night aside from some random half-asleep fingering and dry humping.

I don't have a super high notch count, but I have not experienced this before. Its like she gets close to cumming, and stops enjoying it. Every other girl I have banged, I have managed to get them off multiple times, never had one stop me before. I have been quite a bit more dominate in the last year or so, and every other girl has responded excellent to this. This chick appeared to be in pain when things started getting a bit more intense. Needless to say, I never really got to lay it down with any authority, and I was left somewhat confused? Is this chick just a fluke?

Not feeling to confident about getting a repeat customer since I never really got a chance to lay down my best pipe. I don't mind a quick, intense bang, but wearing a condom I can't get off that fast. Probably if i was raw with this chick I would have had a much better time with this short session.

[Christian McQueen]

Are you sure she didn't get off and then was done?

I've noticed a trend of girls "getting theirs" and then being done.

Or...

Sometimes girls get nervous about cumming because they feel like they're going to pee when they cum.

How old is she?

[Horus]

There's no need to let this affect your confidence. This is her problem, not yours. Try it again with her a few more times and then let her go. Or, you could keep her on as a research project. A similar thing has happened to me with two girls before. The first hadn't had sex in months and sex was painful for her, but after a few more times she was into it. I've no idea what the problem with the second one was and I didn't keep her on long enough to find out.

[MtnMan]

i am quite sure she didn't cum from the sex, maybe a little O from the oral. If she came, it was pretty anticlimactic. I did notice the first time I hooked up with her (didn't get the bang that time) I was giving her the ol two finger g-spot rub, as the G filled up she stopped me before she would start cumming. She stopped me a few times that night.

Maybe she is just self conscious about it? Hard to imagine, since she seems pretty confident about every thing else. Doesn't seem to have self image issues or anything.

She is 24, def has sexual experience, not sure how much, but I would assume an average amount for a 24 y.o. chick.

[MtnMan]

(05-09-2014 03:14 PM)Horus Wrote:  

There's no need to let this affect your confidence. This is her problem, not yours. Try it again with her a few more times and then let her go. Or, you could keep her on as a research project. A similar thing has happened to me with two girls before. The first hadn't had sex in months and sex was painful for her, but after a few more times she was into it. I've no idea what the problem with the second one was and I didn't keep her on long enough to find out.

trying not to let it effect my confidence. My frame is still shakey, only really 4 months into my game training, so I am pretty much a newb with game. However, I am confident in my ability to lay down a very good bang. Problem is, I felt like it was over before it began with this chick.

She made it clear she was concerned that I didn't get off during the bang, she didn't appear to be acting this way for selfish reasons.

[Texas_Tryhard]

Seconding Christian's comment about the piss thing. About 1/5 girls I smash can't handle g-spot stimulation, it makes them feel like they need to pee. This can also happen if you try to have sex afterwards. I'd go for a second bang and try to avoid g-spot stimulation with fingers or positions. She might just have a shit bladder.

No reason to panic. Keep on carrying on. Next time make her suck you off to finish though. If she won't do it, she's a cunt.

[Horus]

(05-09-2014 03:12 PM)Christian McQueen Wrote:  

Sometimes girls get nervous about cumming because they feel like they're going to pee when they cum.

If this is the case she's probably a squirter but doesn't know it yet. Girls have told me that it feels like they're going to pee just before they squirt. However, squirting≠orgasm in most cases.

[MtnMan]

Beats me guys. She seems pretty comfortable sexually, not repressed.
Any point in talking to her about it? Or just try again and experiment?

[DaveR]

She's probably a squirter... Just ignore what she says and keep banging.

Edit: just noticed Horus beat me to it.

[Ensam]

Sounds like her mind is too engaged and she's getting overwhelmed. Try more dirty talk and dominate language/positions; that should get her out of her head. When you're doing it right she won't be able to remember her name.

[MtnMan]

update: chick came over again last night. Banged a couple more times. First bang I went caveman on her, and she just wasn't having it, she came pretty quickly and as soon as she came she didn't want to bang anymore. I told her she didn't have a choice because I wanted my nut so she went with it, but did not appear to enjoy too much.
I think she is just insanely sensitive. I could make her come with my fingers in like 30 seconds easily. We banged again later and I made it quick and fast and was able to time my nut with her orgasm. Much better, than the previous time. I haven't ever been with a girl like this at all, she seems to love banging, but can only do 3-5 minute sessions and then NEEDS a break.

[Beyond Borders]

Some women are afraid of orgasms because they don't like losing control. She may not even realize that's what it is - the sex and her body's response just makes her feel weird as she nears the breaking point. I'd bet money that she's never fully given into an orgasm before.

You have to lead, carry her through, and just keep going. She'll really go apeshit when she sees what it's like.

In fact, keep her right there where she's at when she starts getting nervous and trying to stop and keep hitting that same exact spot because she's probably right on the brink.

I've seen women go through this a couple times. One was a girlfriend who would get really nauseous just before she orgasmed and would try to stop. A lot of times she'd feel sick after sex, but I think it was just the stopping and trying too hard to control it that was fucking with her - because once she relinquished her grasp on composure, the nausea disappeared.

I think these girls have intense reactions to sex too because she was about the wettest woman I've ever been with when she was horny.

Also, like Mqueen said, some women get nervous about peeing themselves. I've had at least two buddies tell me a girl shit herself while they were banging her....Yeah, I know - fucking disgusting - but with that type of thing happening, you can understand their reservations.

You're going to have to convince her to trust your lead and not fear the feeling. After she goes over that first crest, she probably won't be so afraid of letting go. Chances are that she won't know what the fuck hit her, as she's never experienced sex fully, so expect her to go nuts once you get her there.

It might help to talk about it beforehand some time when you're not getting it on. Listen to the language she's using when she describes why she stops, and if there's any hint of her fearing the loss of control or being overwhelmed by the orgasmic sensation, than it's clear to me that this is what's going on.

[MtnMan]

BB, I think you may be right, this girl is highly sexual and always very wet within milliseconds of any kind of foreplay. She seems to be into it the more comfortable she gets with me, so I suspect I can get her to have a legit orgasm with a bit of perseverance. Sounds like a fun challenge.

[MtnMan]

The fact that you mention loss of control also rings a bell with this girl. I took her on a motorcycle ride (she had never been on one) and the biggest problem she was having was "not being able to control what was going on". She said this multiple times, and I can totally see it translating into sex. The girl does not appear to be controlling of other people at all, but she does seem to want control over her own situation 100% of the time.

[Beyond Borders]

(05-13-2014 08:25 AM)MtnMan Wrote:  

The fact that you mention loss of control also rings a bell with this girl. I took her on a motorcycle ride (she had never been on one) and the biggest problem she was having was "not being able to control what was going on". She said this multiple times, and I can totally see it translating into sex. The girl does not appear to be controlling of other people at all, but she does seem to want control over her own situation 100% of the time.

In that case, you've got a wild ride ahead of you when you do get her to submit.

Have fun.

[Foolsgo1d]

Fuck her in the shower and see if she is going to hold back.

[JayTx]

Lowering her inhibitions might help her loosen up as well.
McQueen, "I've noticed a trend of girls "getting theirs" and then being done."
Damn they are getting away with this?
One thing to help you and the next guy is explain to her just because she's done doesn't mean you are.

[MtnMan]

I am going to resurrect this thread.

I saw the original girl from this thread a few more times, and the bangs got progressively better, but still lackluster. Never really did figure it out. Too bad, because I actually jived real well with the girl, but lackluster bangs and no head is kind of killing it for me.

Anyways, I got a new notch this weekend and sort of ran into the same situation! This new girl was super into getting banged, zero LMR, but after a few minutes of moderately rough banging I could tell she started to be less into it, like it was hurting a bit. She was plenty wet, but I tried slowing it up and getting a bit gentler and that seemed to help. The next morning we were fooling around and I started to finger her, she didn't want fingers in her, but she wanted her clit rubbed, apparently she was still sore from last night?

Am I just getting unlucky here? I wasn't going completely caveman on these chicks, but I gave it to them decently. My cock is 8 or 8.5, but it’s not a porno sized monster, so I don’t think that is the problem.

New notch girl gave me a nice BJ in the morning so I returned the favor and it took her a WHILE to get into oral, but suddenly she really started liking it, and couldn’t get enough. Later she kept complimenting my skills. Maybe she isn’t very experienced? She seemed like a pretty quiet introverted chick.

I am still used to my last LTR chick who could take a pounding from every angle for as long as I wanted, and then take some more.

I read other dudes posts on here about dominating the hell out of women and how much they love it, but the last two chicks I have banged did not respond as well as I would have hoped. When I started dominating my last GF she LOVED IT.

[Handsome Creepy Eel]

Quote:

My cock is 8 or 8.5, but it’s not a porno sized monster, so I don’t think that is the problem.

I don't know if that's the cause of their discomfort, it's probably not; I just find the combination of these two assertions funny. It's as if you said "I'm 130 cm tall but I'm not a dwarf or anything".

[MtnMan]

(05-27-2014 03:01 PM)Handsome Creepy Eel Wrote:  

Quote:

My cock is 8 or 8.5, but it’s not a porno sized monster, so I don’t think that is the problem.

I don't know if that's the cause of their discomfort, it's probably not; I just find the combination of these two assertions funny. It's as if you said "I'm 130 cm tall but I'm not a dwarf or anything".

i realize its above average, but I don't think its so damn big that most women cant handle it. A lot of those porno dudes have insane cocks, mine would look small in comparison. Anyways, I'm not trying to brag, just trying to lay out the situation. I don't feel like it is the size causing the issue, but perhaps. Other girls i have been with had no issue. I like to be able to bang how I want, and usually girls respond well to being thrown around, man handled and fucked like a dirty hoe. Maybe I am just dealing with a couple outliers here?

Apparently the latest girl mentioned wasn't too put off from it since she just hit me up to get together again.

Hopefully these chicks are just a coincidence, otherwise my sex game is apparently needing some serious correction.

[Alpha_Romeo]

Alcohol?

[LaserBear]

Man, you gotta adjust your form for your build.
I'm unusally thick.
If I dont go down and leave a bit of spit for lube, I don't get in.
Its a friction thing.

If that's your legit length, go three quarter stroke for a bit, gauge response then proceed... you're probably pounding on their cervix and that's an intense no bueno pain for a lot of girls.
Go gently into the full experience ha

If youre parking in a tight spot you don't pull in at highway speed, you go slow so no one gets damaged in the process.
Feel out the spot, you can powerslide a damn smart car into a compact spot, but you're driving a hummer. Make sure you have room before you go petal to the metal. Or someone who wants to be part of a demo derby of destruction as you rage.

I took a petite virginity once that literally took me ten seperate times to pop the cherry (that level of tight is hell on stamina ha)
Had to fight for every inch, call that shit trench warfare.

Ease the girls in, if you're hitting up quiet reserved chicks their life may have been dick deficient to this point.
Up the dose over time to increase tolerance and foster an addiction as a result.

And be happy, these are grade A problems to have.


Also, handsome creepy eel, literally laughed out loud at your comment, golden.

[Mongo]

I've had a couple girls complain about being sore after I banged them, and what I noticed was that most of them were pretty tight when I first got in, but I treated it like we were shooting a porno. I'm talking redline, petal to the metal intensity for as long as I could go. However, the next time I got down with either of them I eased into it, started off slow, then built my way up, it was much more enjoyable for them and in turn for me, because I got to go for as long and as much as I wanted.

You gotta remember, a vagina is a muscle, and every muscle needs to be warmed up before exercise. The rough, manhandle shit is great, and throw that in there. But when you first start with them, ease into it. If you take a little longer to work that thing open some, I'm 83% sure you can go 160 mph to poundtown and they will love it.

[Saweeep]

Sounds to me like you're perhaps a little too rough to start with?

[MtnMan]

i guess i am maybe a little to rough from the start, perhaps a reaction to my past AFC behavior. I used to spend tons of time forplaying a chick, going down on her, sexing her all romantically, now I go caveman pretty quick on them. Might need to blend a little chump back into it.
Got a date with the second chick mentioned friday, so ill give it a go.