Hi all, this is going to be quite a long post so I'd really appreciate some constructive feedback from some experienced guys here.
First of all my, I've only banged 1 girl and I'm going to Poland for a few months in a few weeks and I've got a few chicks to meet with when I get there, the girl I banged was Polish and I've met with another one before which I kissed and everything but no bang.
Anyway the reason I'm asking advice is the girls I've pipelined are from Ukraine/Belarus (studying in Poland) and last month I met a Ukrainian girl in Poland and in contrast to my previous 2 meeting's which went really well with Polish girls this went really badly and I really felt lost what to do to escalate/build attraction with this Ukrainian girl.
The problem was I only talked to this other girl for a few days in vk prior to meeting and there wasn't really any flirting or anything in the internet, it was just general casual chat, while with the other girls I'd talked to them for months, got nude pics etc. so it really was just a case of showing up with these other girls and that was it.
Due to my lack of game in real life (I've been reading it for a while but sometimes I just freeze up in real life situations when I have to act fast) I couldn't escalate or build any attraction with this girl and I really don't want this to happen every time, so I'll now give a break down of how my meeting with the UKR girl went and some pointers/advice for future situations would be greatly appreciated.
We met in a public place, first off I wasn't looking my best as I had really chapped lips and they were red and sore as hell, my hair was a bit out of place as it had been windy that day, I'm not sure that really matters but just want to give you a good idea of it.
I was waiting on a bench and she told me to come to a shop which was far which I couldn't be bothered as it was cold so I just told her to come to me, she did, I didn't recognise her and she was standing infront of me for a few minutes before she came over. She gave me her hand to greet and we went for a walk.
She talked allot about travel, languages, jobs, Ukraine etc. just general stuff, I let her do most of the talking seeing as she didn't shut up and I just replied with things like really? why is that? etc. just short things so she continues talking, I'm a very shy person so I had no problem with her doing all the talking.
We walked to a near by river and around it then after walking back towards the main part of town, I notice two people say something at a near by bench and turns out they're her friends and they talk in Russian for a minute or so and we continue walking, then I want to sit down for a minute as we've been walking for an hour or so and we sit at a bench.
At this time I'm really thinking how to try and escalate here and do something, because this was really lame, I wanted some action.
My buddy calls me for the 3rd time, I answered each time as he was alone and wanted to know where I was and what I was doing (calls were only 20 seconds or so) I apologised to the girl as I'm a generally polite person and if someone kept calling/texting when they were with me I'd be quite annoyed and consider it rude, saying sorry was a bad move?
Anyway then I'm off the phone and I notice her texting and moments later these 2 friends are here and they say they're going (In English) and the girl I'm with says she has to leave because she has an early lecture tomorrow and she says goodbye nice to meet you, I thought it was a little rude to just leave like that without notice but she did say earlier she had an early lecture.
I don't bother writing to her in vk after that because I was a little pissed at myself that I didn't try to get a kiss or escalate in anyway and the fact she just left with her friends without notice, then a few days later she hasn't messaged me and deletes me from her friends list and I send her a message asking why? I was generally curious, she doesn't answer.
I realise there might not much to say about it but any analysis would help me. For the record too, she was the one who proposed very early (after a few messages on vk) to meet me in Poland, I thought it was a little strange as usually I have to push a bit. Then the day before we met she starts writing all kisses and then asking about sex and what I think of her being a virgin, so clearly I feel I fucked up a good chance to bang this chick in the future and I don't want to make the same mistakes again.
First of all my, I've only banged 1 girl and I'm going to Poland for a few months in a few weeks and I've got a few chicks to meet with when I get there, the girl I banged was Polish and I've met with another one before which I kissed and everything but no bang.
Anyway the reason I'm asking advice is the girls I've pipelined are from Ukraine/Belarus (studying in Poland) and last month I met a Ukrainian girl in Poland and in contrast to my previous 2 meeting's which went really well with Polish girls this went really badly and I really felt lost what to do to escalate/build attraction with this Ukrainian girl.
The problem was I only talked to this other girl for a few days in vk prior to meeting and there wasn't really any flirting or anything in the internet, it was just general casual chat, while with the other girls I'd talked to them for months, got nude pics etc. so it really was just a case of showing up with these other girls and that was it.
Due to my lack of game in real life (I've been reading it for a while but sometimes I just freeze up in real life situations when I have to act fast) I couldn't escalate or build any attraction with this girl and I really don't want this to happen every time, so I'll now give a break down of how my meeting with the UKR girl went and some pointers/advice for future situations would be greatly appreciated.
We met in a public place, first off I wasn't looking my best as I had really chapped lips and they were red and sore as hell, my hair was a bit out of place as it had been windy that day, I'm not sure that really matters but just want to give you a good idea of it.
I was waiting on a bench and she told me to come to a shop which was far which I couldn't be bothered as it was cold so I just told her to come to me, she did, I didn't recognise her and she was standing infront of me for a few minutes before she came over. She gave me her hand to greet and we went for a walk.
She talked allot about travel, languages, jobs, Ukraine etc. just general stuff, I let her do most of the talking seeing as she didn't shut up and I just replied with things like really? why is that? etc. just short things so she continues talking, I'm a very shy person so I had no problem with her doing all the talking.
We walked to a near by river and around it then after walking back towards the main part of town, I notice two people say something at a near by bench and turns out they're her friends and they talk in Russian for a minute or so and we continue walking, then I want to sit down for a minute as we've been walking for an hour or so and we sit at a bench.
At this time I'm really thinking how to try and escalate here and do something, because this was really lame, I wanted some action.
My buddy calls me for the 3rd time, I answered each time as he was alone and wanted to know where I was and what I was doing (calls were only 20 seconds or so) I apologised to the girl as I'm a generally polite person and if someone kept calling/texting when they were with me I'd be quite annoyed and consider it rude, saying sorry was a bad move?
Anyway then I'm off the phone and I notice her texting and moments later these 2 friends are here and they say they're going (In English) and the girl I'm with says she has to leave because she has an early lecture tomorrow and she says goodbye nice to meet you, I thought it was a little rude to just leave like that without notice but she did say earlier she had an early lecture.
I don't bother writing to her in vk after that because I was a little pissed at myself that I didn't try to get a kiss or escalate in anyway and the fact she just left with her friends without notice, then a few days later she hasn't messaged me and deletes me from her friends list and I send her a message asking why? I was generally curious, she doesn't answer.
I realise there might not much to say about it but any analysis would help me. For the record too, she was the one who proposed very early (after a few messages on vk) to meet me in Poland, I thought it was a little strange as usually I have to push a bit. Then the day before we met she starts writing all kisses and then asking about sex and what I think of her being a virgin, so clearly I feel I fucked up a good chance to bang this chick in the future and I don't want to make the same mistakes again.
