How to give the girl the feeling that she's important yet easily replaceable.
04-22-2014, 11:30 AM
This is something I haven't quite mastered yet and especially in long-term relationships I seem to fail really hard at this; giving the girl you're fucking the feeling she's important yet easily replaceable.
I've heard it many times from many different people; the key to a successful relationship with any girl is to give her the feeling she means something to you, yet at the same time she's easily replaced if she would ever get out of line. By making her feel special, you'll make sure she stays and keeps putting out. By making her feel replaceable, you'll make sure she will stay in line and she won't be able to turn you into a pussy-whipped beaten dog (because she knows if she would even try that, she's out, and girls don't want to be out because girls wants to have a stable relationship).
I've been trying this for a while now, but I don't seem to quite get it down.
With my previous girl, I was too soft, I tolerated too much bullshit and I didn't give her the feeling she was replaceable. The result: me turned into a beaten dog like a goddamn blue-pill beta piece of shit.
With my current girlfriend, I seem to be too hard. I don't tolerate any kind of bullshit and I made it damn sure she realizes that she's easily replaceable. The result however is that she seems to have become insecure, she turned into her own shell, she became distant and she's not really putting out anymore.
I've been thinking about NEXTing this girl I'm with now, and move on to the next chick, but honestly, I'd prefer to keep this girl for a bit longer, because she's really fucking hot (in my opinion a solid 8 or 9) and she's really good. I really enjoy her, and I honestly think this girl is someone I could potentially spend the rest of my life with and maybe one day have kids with once I have a successful career going on for myself (I'm not gonna marry this girl though, marriage is for suckers and it has no benefits for men, but I'd like to live together with this girl one day).
So, for now, I'd like to keep NEXTing as a last resort. Instead of nexting I'd really like to master the balance between making the girl feel special while at the same time making her feel replaceable. How do I do that?
I've heard it many times from many different people; the key to a successful relationship with any girl is to give her the feeling she means something to you, yet at the same time she's easily replaced if she would ever get out of line. By making her feel special, you'll make sure she stays and keeps putting out. By making her feel replaceable, you'll make sure she will stay in line and she won't be able to turn you into a pussy-whipped beaten dog (because she knows if she would even try that, she's out, and girls don't want to be out because girls wants to have a stable relationship).
I've been trying this for a while now, but I don't seem to quite get it down.
With my previous girl, I was too soft, I tolerated too much bullshit and I didn't give her the feeling she was replaceable. The result: me turned into a beaten dog like a goddamn blue-pill beta piece of shit.
With my current girlfriend, I seem to be too hard. I don't tolerate any kind of bullshit and I made it damn sure she realizes that she's easily replaceable. The result however is that she seems to have become insecure, she turned into her own shell, she became distant and she's not really putting out anymore.
I've been thinking about NEXTing this girl I'm with now, and move on to the next chick, but honestly, I'd prefer to keep this girl for a bit longer, because she's really fucking hot (in my opinion a solid 8 or 9) and she's really good. I really enjoy her, and I honestly think this girl is someone I could potentially spend the rest of my life with and maybe one day have kids with once I have a successful career going on for myself (I'm not gonna marry this girl though, marriage is for suckers and it has no benefits for men, but I'd like to live together with this girl one day).
So, for now, I'd like to keep NEXTing as a last resort. Instead of nexting I'd really like to master the balance between making the girl feel special while at the same time making her feel replaceable. How do I do that?