Link: http://news.yahoo.com/social-pressures-f...kAorbQtDMD
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- Men want virgin brides -
Since the 1950s, Tunisia has been considered the most progressive country in the Arab world in terms of women's rights, and politicians enshrined gender equality in the new constitution adopted in January.
Demographic changes have reinforced personal freedoms, with sex outside marriage increasingly common and more people opting to marry later.
But conservative attitudes persist, and for many Tunisian men marrying a virgin remains a priority, hence the rising demand for hymen restorations.
For Tarek Belhadj Mohamed [Troll King: mangina alert, mangina alert], a sociologist, such male attitudes reflect the "hypocrisy" of Tunisian society, which he said refuses to recognise the change in behaviour of a large section of the population.
Research by psychoanalyst Nedra Ben Smail indiindicates that just five percent of Tunisian young women are not worried about losing their virginity before marriage, while more than 75 percent of women appearing to be virgins on their wedding night have had the operation.
"The Tunisian way of life seems modern and open, but the reality is different: our society and even our ruling elite is in theory tolerant on the question of virginity, but when it affects them personally, virginity is a primordial condition for marriage," said Belhadj Mohamed.
"Virginity certifies a woman's validity in our society where her purpose is essentially sexual and reproductive, while men have to 'train' so that they are sexually mature when they get married," he argued.
He called the hymen operation a form of "discrimination towards women".
- Lying under pressure -
Salima agrees, despite having consented to the operation herself, saying she was forced into it by "the hypocrisy of men and of our society". [Troll King: Lol, the hamster is strong in this one]
The young woman decided one day that she would be honest with her boyfriend, whom she had not slept with, and told him she was not a virgin. [Troll King: Alpha Fux and Beta Bux]
"But as soon as he knew, he refused to marry and did everything he could to get me into his bed. That's the way Tunisian men think. A woman who has had sex before marriage is just a slut and can't be a good mother!" [Troll King: So fucking true. Glad these Tunisian men have their shit together]
Another young woman, Sabra, believes unmarried women should have the right to a sex life just like the men, and that virginity is never a guarantee of fidelity.
But the 27-year-old also chose to lie and yield to social pressures, rather than run the risk of remaining single.
"If I had told my husband that I wasn't a virgin, he would never have agreed to marry me. And it's the same for many women in Tunisia."
Women these days think they can shop for a man like they shop for a purse or a pair of shoes. Sorry ladies. It doesn't work that way.
Women are like sandwiches. All men love sandwiches. That's a given. But sandwiches are only good when they're fresh. Nobody wants a day old sandwich. The bread is all soggy and the meat is spoiled.
-Parlay44 @ http://www.rooshvforum.network/thread-35074.html