[Blackliter]

I went out tonight...I saw 13 familiar faces.... too many, mostly guys (a lot of player friends). From middle school, high school, old clubs, old organizations... all of them were acquaintances. Out of the 13 only 1 talked with me for a pro-longed period of time. He was cool.

I went to 3 different locations, and saw people that recognized me at each. All the girls I'm seeing out are either sorority chicks 7+ hotness or random girls that are just alright.

I have no clue how to game the sorority chicks. And no I can't join a frat...already left one and am too old in college.

I went to a bar with not a single girl below a 6...literally. Couldn't make a move... too loud. working on it, all of you already know...its just not an easy fix.

Wish some of you were here with me to teach me the ropes in person.

I don't want to approach too many of these girls and to keep seeing them again. only a limited amount of places to go even though its a huge college. seeing the same faces currently is a detriment. I don't come off as alpha yet. and can't mess up too much..

[iknowexactly]

(04-12-2014 12:29 AM)Blackliter Wrote:  

I went out tonight..

I have no clue how to game the sorority chicks

. And no I can't join a frat...already left one and am too old in college.

If you prefer white chicks, get to EE/FSU/Romania/Columbia before you age out of 8+ chix there too. Ask me how I know.

[Blackliter]

(04-12-2014 12:34 AM)iknowexactly Wrote:  

(04-12-2014 12:29 AM)Blackliter Wrote:  

I went out tonight...I saw 13 familiar faces.... too many, mostly guys (a lot of player friends). From middle school, high school, old clubs, old organizations... all of them were acquaintances. Out of the 13 only 1 talked with me for a pro-longed period of time. He was cool.

I went to 3 different locations, and saw people that recognized me at each. All the girls I'm seeing out are either sorority chicks 7+ hotness or random girls that are just alright.

I have no clue how to game the sorority chicks. And no I can't join a frat...already left one and am too old in college.

I went to a bar with not a single girl below a 6...literally. Couldn't make a move... too loud. working on it, all of you already know...its just not an easy fix.

Wish some of you were here with me to teach me the ropes in person.

I don't want to approach too many of these girls and to keep seeing them again. only a limited amount of places to go even though its a huge college. seeing the same faces currently is a detriment. I don't come off as alpha yet. and can't mess up too much..

If you prefer white chicks, get to EE/FSU/Romania/Columbia before you age out of 8+ chix there too. Ask me how I know.

How do you know lol? yea after I leave this college, I'm going to be in trouble.. too much quality here

[iknowexactly]

(04-12-2014 12:37 AM)Blackliter Wrote:  

How do you know lol? yea after I leave this college, I'm going to be in trouble.. too much quality here

I'm 58.

remember this:

It takes ten years to get used to how old you are.

So you are always responding to the challenges of your ten-years-prior developmental level.

You must actively counter this to avoid working on the challenges of the past now.

[Capitán Peligroso]

^^^ That's some profound shit, IKE.

[Blackliter]

Hey can you guys address what do I do about seeing too many familiar faces? I can't approach like 10+ girls and come off okay. I means sure I could do that for a bit, but I'll eventually be seeing the same faces..and they'll be remembering me.

[Switch]

(04-12-2014 01:16 AM)iknowexactly Wrote:  

(04-12-2014 12:37 AM)Blackliter Wrote:  

How do you know lol? yea after I leave this college, I'm going to be in trouble.. too much quality here

I'm 58.

remember this:

It takes ten years to get used to how old you are.

So you are always responding to the challenges of your ten-years-prior developmental level.

You must actively counter this to avoid working on the challenges of the past now.

I don't struggle with multiplication tables at all anymore jk

[AneroidOcean]

(04-12-2014 12:29 AM)Blackliter Wrote:  

I went out tonight...I saw 13 familiar faces.... too many, mostly guys (a lot of player friends). From middle school, high school, old clubs, old organizations... all of them were acquaintances. Out of the 13 only 1 talked with me for a pro-longed period of time. He was cool.

GREAT! Hang out with that guy. He can help you, even if it's only to have someone to enjoy nights out with.

(04-12-2014 12:29 AM)Blackliter Wrote:  

I went to 3 different locations, and saw people that recognized me at each. All the girls I'm seeing out are either sorority chicks 7+ hotness or random girls that are just alright.

So what you're saying is that you have an abundance of hot chicks around you and you are recognized (DHV) a decent amount. This is the kind of situation that many guys in non-popular areas or non-abundant areas would KILL for.

(04-12-2014 12:29 AM)Blackliter Wrote:  

I have no clue how to game the sorority chicks. And no I can't join a frat...already left one and am too old in college.

Sorority chicks don't require that you be in a frat to get a swipe at their pussies. You need to be FUN, POSITIVE, and SOCIAL. You need to be friends with some of the frat guys and have girls they know recognize you and think you're not a creep. That's actually not that hard and NOT impossible.

(04-12-2014 12:29 AM)Blackliter Wrote:  

I went to a bar with not a single girl below a 6...literally. Couldn't make a move... too loud. working on it, all of you already know...its just not an easy fix.

Wish some of you were here with me to teach me the ropes in person.

You know what we would say. Oh, it's too loud? Pull one aside, introduce yourself, ask her to go outside for a smoke or a break, isolate her. Don't talk to her and just do some dance game. Catch her in the line to the restroom, you know, do ANYTHING.

(04-12-2014 12:29 AM)Blackliter Wrote:  

I don't want to approach too many of these girls and to keep seeing them again. only a limited amount of places to go even though its a huge college. seeing the same faces currently is a detriment. I don't come off as alpha yet. and can't mess up too much..

Stop thinking about it as if you're going to use up all your opportunities. Be social, talk to everyone, enjoy yourself, make people laugh. You may hit on some of them but won't hit on everyone. You'll be seen as social and decent with women, not as a creep. You don't have to come across as alpha, but you can't come across as a wallflower. Come across as what you are, perhaps not 100% socially aware but looking for a good time and not worried that you're not perfect.

Let people form their own opinion of you, instead of choosing it for them by never giving them the opportunity to see you having fun and talking to lots of people.

[iknowexactly]

(04-15-2014 02:24 AM)AneroidOcean Wrote:  

Stop thinking about it as if you're going to use up all your opportunities.

That's really right, I forget if it was Napoleon or SunTzu,

"Opportunities, when seized, multiply"

To some extent the more women you talk to, the more popular you will seem-- and the more women will be interested in you. They are sheeplike to an amazing extent.

[Parlay44]

I hate loud clubs. Looks and clothes are important when you can't talk. My strength is my ability to talk to anyone. Just hang out and try to have a good time. The vibe you put out will be picked up. Girls may even approach you.

[Blackliter]

(04-15-2014 02:24 AM)AneroidOcean Wrote:  

(04-12-2014 12:29 AM)Blackliter Wrote:  

I went to 3 different locations, and saw people that recognized me at each. All the girls I'm seeing out are either sorority chicks 7+ hotness or random girls that are just alright.

So what you're saying is that you have an abundance of hot chicks around you and you are recognized (DHV) a decent amount. This is the kind of situation that many guys in non-popular areas or non-abundant areas would KILL for.

(04-12-2014 12:29 AM)Blackliter Wrote:  

I have no clue how to game the sorority chicks. And no I can't join a frat...already left one and am too old in college.

Sorority chicks don't require that you be in a frat to get a swipe at their pussies. You need to be FUN, POSITIVE, and SOCIAL. You need to be friends with some of the frat guys and have girls they know recognize you and think you're not a creep. That's actually not that hard and NOT impossible.

(04-12-2014 12:29 AM)Blackliter Wrote:  

I don't want to approach too many of these girls and to keep seeing them again. only a limited amount of places to go even though its a huge college. seeing the same faces currently is a detriment. I don't come off as alpha yet. and can't mess up too much..

Stop thinking about it as if you're going to use up all your opportunities. Be social, talk to everyone, enjoy yourself, make people laugh. You may hit on some of them but won't hit on everyone. You'll be seen as social and decent with women, not as a creep. You don't have to come across as alpha, but you can't come across as a wallflower. Come across as what you are, perhaps not 100% socially aware but looking for a good time and not worried that you're not perfect.

Let people form their own opinion of you, instead of choosing it for them by never giving them the opportunity to see you having fun and talking to lots of people.

Perfect, thank you for writing all of this out. It helps a TON. The main point was that there's only a limited amount of people going out in the places here and I'm bound to see the same faces each week, but I like your point. I'll approach anyway.

Off to act on your advice.

[Seth_Rose]

Welcome to college...

First of all, what size school do you go to? If you wanna say which one even better to be specific.

I have a few questions/comments for ya:

1.) Who did you go out with? Don't go out solo in college, that goes against the tribal mentality of it all.

If you went out with friends who are they? What are they like?

Sounds like you met some cool guys going out. Hang out with them.

2.) Depending on the size of the school, you're going to recognize people. When I went to the main Greek bar on my campus I'd see the same exact faces.

3.) As for sorority girls, it really depends on the sorority. For the 'top-tier' ones forget about it...okay I shouldn't say give up, but if you're not in a 'top-tier' frat it's going to be very,very difficult. Girls in the best sororities' pussies are loyal to the frat boys they party with.

I was in a middle of the road fraternity and I know I had a tiny shot at nailing the hottest sororities. Mid-tier sorority girls, of course, but even though I went to one of the largest schools in the country social circle still reigns supreme.

4.) Too loud?? Hmmm... Drink on the patio, dance floor game, different bar, or just throw your own party.

5.) The #1 key to getting laid in college and to have a successful social college career is to be the Facilitator of Fun. What that means is you're the calling the shots, and taking them...you have the parties, you're the guy giving high fives and hugging girls and making people do keg stands etc...

Tbh I wasn't that guy. I'm an introvert and it's difficult to emulate that, but I did my best. You don't have to be that guy either just force yourself out of your comfort zone.

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