[Nomad77]

In my last post I spoke about the importance of energy. I said it was probably the most important thing. That it didn't matter how good you were if you didn't have energy nothing was going to happen. Now assuming you had energy what do I think is the second most important thing to have? Sincerity.

I have looked back at all of the times I have been successful and I look for the single common factor and that factor was sincerity. If I am able to project sincerity to a girl I have an 80% chance of getting her - if she's available. It didn't matter what my approach was: direct, indirectly, introduction, online. It didn't matter how my text game was. Basically if I could be sincere about whatever I wanted from her there was a good chance I would get it. The problem is, it's very difficult to be sincere when we have a gaming mentally because it creates this mindset that you are "gaming" a girl.

In that popular book Models. This is the main point of the whole book: be sincere. If you just want sex, be sincere about it. Whatever it is you want from her just be sincere in your interaction and your chances of getting it doubles. At least it does for me. Unfortunately, it is extremely difficult for me to fake sincerity. It's hard to fake sincere desire for a girl you only sort of like or you are going after because there are no other options. When I find a girl that I really like and I can express my desire in a sincere manner my results are very good. Every time things fall apart, for one reason or other, I can almost always trace the root cause back to insincerity on my part or unavailability on hers.

If I can recommend practicing just one thing, this would be it: learn to express your desire in a sincere manner.

[Onto]

Not only is it hard to fake sincerity, but one of the abilities that belong to the feminine is intuition, so it makes it that much harder.

[Nomad77]

Yes, exactly. Here is a story about sincerity. I was trying to get this married woman and I wasn't getting anywhere. I was doing everything I could thing of and she liked the attention but I really wasn't breaking through. Then one day, out of the blue, she came up to me and said: what do you want from me? (Deadly serious) I was caught completely by surprised, I didn't know what to say plus I was frustrated and about to give up, so I just told her the truth. I said: I want you. She looked at me intently for about a minute then just walked away. A few days later, she called me and said, what are you doing?

She was one of the best I ever had.

[tbone46]

Old comedians have a saying: "Sincerity is the most important thing. Once you learn to fake that you are golden."

[Nomad77]

Well, I've never managed to learn how to fake it good enough.

[AneroidOcean]

(03-24-2014 09:08 PM)Nomad77 Wrote:  

Well, I've never managed to learn how to fake it good enough.

Why fake it unless you have to? It's easier to be sincere, the difficult part about it is starting when you've been led to believe by society that laying out everything sincerely will expose you as weak. The opposite is true. The more sincere you are and honest and unfazed by our own shortcomings/weaknesses, the stronger you are despite them and the stronger people perceive you (and wonder how you can be so calm/confident when discussing a weakness about yourself).

[Nomad77]

I agree but in reality is I am really only attracted to a small percentage of women. It is easy to be sincere with these women but they are usually not very available. Being 50% sincere with the one I only find 50% as attractive doesn't seem to work so well... It is only when I can be 100% sincere that it works.

[Texas_Tryhard]

It seems to me that your problem is that you are unsure of yourself. If you only sorta want the bang/whatever, then you're getting bad results.

You cannot control a girl's looks. What you can control are your own desires. It's important that you recognize what you want and go for it with full steam. I have a feeling that if you gain the ability to reject an indecisive attitude and become a person of action (whether that means rejecting the goal or going for it fully), then you will no longer have problems with these 50% decisions. Make the call, don't sit on the sidelines and see what happens.

[MY DETROIT PLAYAS]

Sincerity also begets directness which in turn, saves valuable time/energy

Respect/Trust is earned that way. Now she knows where she stands with you and she can either shit or get off the pot

[WestIndianArchie]

I thought models was primarily about.vulnerability, which he meant as putting yourself out there, opening yourself to criticism, rejection, and ridicule.

In exchange you polarize the person, which means they either hate you or love you. By doing it early, you might turn and burn faster, but those that hook really hook.

WIA

[soup]

You sometimes start these threads but don't give any examples of what you are talking about.

[Matt3B]

It's also hard to fake sincerity about yourself. If you have to lie to a girl about how awesome your life is when really, it sucks and you're fronting, she'll be able to tell. I've written about this on my blog quite a bit, but the more you work on yourself and have genuine good things to say to a girl, the more she's interested in you.

People can spot fake from miles away. It's all in your eyes, and you may as well just one, tell it how it is and two, hit on girls you're genuinely interested in.

[Nomad77]

Here is a story about sincerity. I was trying to get this married woman and I wasn't getting anywhere. I was doing everything I could thing of and she liked the attention but I really wasn't breaking through. Then one day, out of the blue, she came up to me and said: what do you want from me? (Deadly serious) I was caught completely by surprised, I didn't know what to say plus I was frustrated and about to give up, so I just told her the truth. I said: I want you. She looked at me intently for about a minute then just walked away. A few days later, she called me and said, what are you doing?

She was one of the best I ever had.

(03-26-2014 09:31 AM)soup Wrote:  

You sometimes start these threads but don't give any examples of what you are talking about.

[Nomad77]

I believe vulnerability is just another form of sincerity.

(03-25-2014 01:41 PM)WestIndianArchie Wrote:  

I thought models was primarily about.vulnerability, which he meant as putting yourself out there, opening yourself to criticism, rejection, and ridicule.

In exchange you polarize the person, which means they either hate you or love you. By doing it early, you might turn and burn faster, but those that hook really hook.

WIA

[soup]

Girls are screening for congruency and emotional sincerity. They want to know if they can trust you or not.

Be careful not to conflate going direct with being emotionally sincere.

Guys reading your thread might come away thinking that going up to any girl and saying " I want you " is the way to do it.

[Nomad77]

Good point.