Thought this might be an interesting topic to discuss. Do you have friends or do you have acquantances? Do you just have some buddies you'll grab a beer with on occasion or be wingmen for or do you actually have friends who are there for you and down for you no matter what?
When I was in my late teens and early 20's and college had tons of friends. As you get older, people move away, get jobs, etc your circle for friends starts to get a little smaller. A couple years ago I kinda realized most of my "friends" weren't friends so much as acquantances. I always felt like I put more into a friendship than others. I remember one instance had gotten a DUI, was just in a shitty situation had to get my car out to get to work. I called up a buddy asking him if he could pick me up and take me tothe tow yard to get it. He couldn't, he was too busy...with what you ask? Playing a game of call of duty.
I kinda got to the point where I was like if someone isn't a real friend I don't really need tehm in my life and kinda dropped all my friends. In hindsight maybe a bad move. Better move would have probably been basically taking people for what they are. Yeah so and so is a fun dude to hangout with but not a real friend and not someone you can rely on but I'll have a beer with him and hangout and basically accept the friendhsip for what it is and know I can't count on that person. That said if that's all I'm after I could just as easily meet another solo dude at a bar and go score chicks and never talk to him again and don't really need to keep up a friendship.
I was eating dinner at my grandparents house the other day and my grandpa said something interesting. He said something along the lines of if you meet one good lifelong friend who's there for you through anything you're a lucky dude.
I thoguht that was interesting. One other thing I noticed. It seemed like previous generations had more genuine friendships. I notice my dad is still friends with a couple guys he grew up with. We consider them family friends, their kids are like my cousins, heck closer than some of my cousins. THey are part of the family as well.
Anyhow, didn't mean to get off on a rant but was just curious for some of you guys in your later 20's, do you have less friends than you did in your early 20's and college? Also do you think friendship has changed these days with peole more interested in being friends through social media than in real life? Do you have a friend or many friends who you would really consider to be true freinds?
Just curious what your guys experiences are.
When I was in my late teens and early 20's and college had tons of friends. As you get older, people move away, get jobs, etc your circle for friends starts to get a little smaller. A couple years ago I kinda realized most of my "friends" weren't friends so much as acquantances. I always felt like I put more into a friendship than others. I remember one instance had gotten a DUI, was just in a shitty situation had to get my car out to get to work. I called up a buddy asking him if he could pick me up and take me tothe tow yard to get it. He couldn't, he was too busy...with what you ask? Playing a game of call of duty.
I kinda got to the point where I was like if someone isn't a real friend I don't really need tehm in my life and kinda dropped all my friends. In hindsight maybe a bad move. Better move would have probably been basically taking people for what they are. Yeah so and so is a fun dude to hangout with but not a real friend and not someone you can rely on but I'll have a beer with him and hangout and basically accept the friendhsip for what it is and know I can't count on that person. That said if that's all I'm after I could just as easily meet another solo dude at a bar and go score chicks and never talk to him again and don't really need to keep up a friendship.
I was eating dinner at my grandparents house the other day and my grandpa said something interesting. He said something along the lines of if you meet one good lifelong friend who's there for you through anything you're a lucky dude.
I thoguht that was interesting. One other thing I noticed. It seemed like previous generations had more genuine friendships. I notice my dad is still friends with a couple guys he grew up with. We consider them family friends, their kids are like my cousins, heck closer than some of my cousins. THey are part of the family as well.
Anyhow, didn't mean to get off on a rant but was just curious for some of you guys in your later 20's, do you have less friends than you did in your early 20's and college? Also do you think friendship has changed these days with peole more interested in being friends through social media than in real life? Do you have a friend or many friends who you would really consider to be true freinds?
Just curious what your guys experiences are.
