On the off-chance someone on this forum eats something poisonous and needs to vomit immediately, here's a New York Times article about his support for women in the workplace. I've added some commentary
in bold.
Dave Goldberg’s Lifetime of Advocating for Women
By Jodi Kantor
Even as a high school student, Dave Goldberg was urging female classmates to speak up. As a young dot-com executive, he had one girlfriend after another
(money-grabbing whores, you mean?), but fell hard for a driven friend named Sheryl Sandberg, pining after her for years. After they wed, Mr. Goldberg pushed her to negotiate hard for high compensation and arranged his schedule so that he could be home with their children when she was traveling for work.
Mr. Goldberg, who died unexpectedly on Friday, was a genial, 47-year-old Silicon Valley entrepreneur who built his latest company, SurveyMonkey, from a modest enterprise to one recently valued by investors at $2 billion. But he was also perhaps the signature male feminist of his era
(imagine this being your legacy): the first major chief executive in memory to spur his wife to become as successful in business as he was, and an essential figure in “Lean In,” Ms. Sandberg’s blockbuster (
"Blockbuster?" Is this PR or a newspaper article?) guide to female achievement.
Over the weekend, even strangers were shocked at his death, both because of his relatively young age and because they knew of him as the living, breathing, car-pooling center of a new philosophy of two-career marriage.
(Two-careers + kids = exhaustion x extra-stressful jobs = early death. Not a surprise equation.)
“They were very much the role models for what this next generation wants to grapple with,”
(the "next generation" of Americans will be working-class Hispanic, so I don't think so) said Debora L. Spar, the president of Barnard College. In a 2011 commencement speech there, Ms. Sandberg told the graduates that whom they married would be their most important career decision.
(He should have covered "Friends Forever." Anyone remember Vitamin C's grad song from '99?)
In the play “The Heidi Chronicles,” revived on Broadway this spring
(as a money-losing flop), a male character who is the founder of a media company says that “I don’t want to come home to an A-plus,” explaining that his ambitions require him to marry an unthreatening helpmeet. Mr. Goldberg grew up to hold the opposite view, starting with his upbringing in progressive Minneapolis circles where “there was woman power in every aspect of our lives,” Jeffrey Dachis, a childhood friend, said in an interview.
The Goldberg parents read “The Feminine Mystique” together — in fact, Mr. Goldberg’s father introduced it to his wife, according to Ms. Sandberg’s book. In 1976, Paula Goldberg helped found a nonprofit to aid children with disabilities. Her husband, Mel, a law professor who taught at night, made the family breakfast at home.
(From what I can find on the Web, Mel died young as well. Draw your own conclusion.)
Later, when Dave Goldberg was in high school and his prom date, Jill Chessen, stayed silent in a politics class, he chastised her afterward. He said, “You need to speak up,” Ms. Chessen recalled in an interview. “They need to hear your voice.”
(Is this "feminist game?" If so, clever.)
Years later, when Karin Gilford, an early employee at Launch, Mr. Goldberg’s digital music company, became a mother, he knew exactly what to do. He kept giving her challenging assignments, she recalled, but also let her work from home one day a week. After Yahoo acquired Launch, Mr. Goldberg became known for distributing roses to all the women in the office on Valentine’s Day.
(Isn't that sexual harassment?)
Ms. Sandberg, who often describes herself as bossy-in-a-good-way,
(Wants to ban a word, yet uses it to describe herself. Hmm.)
enchanted him when they became friendly in the mid-1990s. He “was smitten with her, even when she was engaged and married to someone else,” Ms. Chessen remembered. After Ms. Sandberg’s marriage ended
(can't imagine why), she dated other people, but Mr. Goldberg still hung around, even helping her and her then-boyfriend move
(what?), recalled Bob Roback, a friend and co-founder of Launch. When they finally married in 2004, friends remember thinking how similar the two were, and that the qualities that might have made Ms. Sandberg intimidating
(i.e. annoying -- only women's looks can really be intimidating to men) to some men drew Mr. Goldberg to her even more.
(OK, I'll at least give the guy credit for getting out of a friend zone.)
Over the next decade, Mr. Goldberg and Ms. Sandberg pioneered new ways of capturing information online, had a son and then a daughter, became immensely wealthy, and hashed out their who-does-what-in-this-marriage issues. Mr. Goldberg’s commute from the Bay Area to Los Angeles became a strain, so he
(Just him?) relocated later joking that he “lost the coin toss” of where they would live. He paid the bills, she planned the birthday parties, and both often left their offices at 5:30 so they could eat dinner with their children before resuming work afterward.
(Yes, because life revolved around "work work work!" Do the people that write these stories even get how they're corporate-whoring?)
Friends in Silicon Valley say they were careful to conduct their careers separately, politely refusing when outsiders would ask one about the other’s work: Ms. Sandberg’s role building Facebook into an information and advertising powerhouse, and Mr. Goldberg at SurveyMonkey, which made polling faster and cheaper. But privately, their work was intertwined. He often began statements to his team with the phrase “Well, Sheryl said” sharing her business advice. He counseled her, too, starting with her salary negotiations with Mark Zuckerberg.
(Yes, whether to take a half billion or billion is "negotiation. If you lose, you still win.)
“I wanted Mark to really feel he stretched to get Sheryl, because she was worth it,” Mr. Goldberg explained in a 2013 “60 Minutes” interview, his Minnesota accent and his smile intact as he offered a rare peek of the intersection of marriage and money at the top of corporate life.
While his wife grew increasingly outspoken about women’s advancement, Mr. Goldberg quietly advised the men in the office on family and partnership matters, an associate said. Six out of 16 members of SurveyMonkey’s management team are female, an almost unheard-of ratio among Silicon Valley “unicorns,” or companies valued at over $1 billion.
When Mellody Hobson, a friend and finance executive, wrote a chapter of “Lean In” about women of color for the college edition
(WTF? Why would a book for adults need a "college edition?!" College students are supposed to be reading ABOVE the level of the average adult, most of whom do not attend college. Wait, colleges are mostly female, so strike that. Maybe they need a children's edition.) of the book, Mr. Goldberg gave her feedback on the draft, a clue to his deep involvement. He joked with Ms. Hobson that she was too long-winded, like Ms. Sandberg, but aside from that, he said he loved the chapter, she said in an interview.
By then, Mr. Goldberg was a figure of fascination who inspired a “where can I get one of those?” reaction among many of the women who had read the best seller “Lean In.”
(You mean where can they get a multi-millionaire? Not a new thought amongst women.) Some lamented that Ms. Sandberg’s advice hinged too much on marrying a Dave Goldberg
(You think? Guess that's why she un-friend-zoned him), who was humble enough to plan around his wife, attentive enough to worry about which shoes his young daughter would wear, and rich enough to help pay for the help
("The Help?!?!" Wasn't that a movie about how the rich exploit the working class? Interesting that the writer throws this phrase in, not quite getting its ramifications. They're not actual people to the NY Times. Just "the help.") that made the family’s balancing act manageable.
Now that he is gone, and Ms. Sandberg goes from being half of a celebrated partnership to perhaps the business world’s most prominent single mother
(Pet peeve: She's not a single mother! She's a widow. This is a misuse of that phrase. I hate when people do this; now the NYT is doing it.), the pages of “Lean In” carry a new sting of loss.
“We are never at 50-50 at any given moment — perfect equality is hard to define or sustain — but we allow the pendulum to swing back and forth between us,” she wrote in 2013, adding that they were looking forward to raising teenagers together.
“Fortunately, I have Dave to figure it out with me,” she wrote.
http://www.nytimes.com/2015/05/04/techno....html?_r=0
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