Quote: (03-13-2014 10:58 AM)rottenapple Wrote:
Quote: (03-13-2014 02:09 AM)Distant Light Wrote:
Empathy, I'm very indifferent about things...
I'm very in control of my emotions so I can't really relate to most people. For instance a few weeks back a chick didn't want to go home and have sex because she almost got raped a few weeks back. I simply said "ooo wow..." then proceeded to tell her this was just a one time thing, parted ways and went to party. The way i reacted was as if she had just told me "she had work tomorrow'.
Essentially I "let go" so easily that even if a chick I love did something I didn't like or wanted to end it, I'd be 100% cool as if I had no emotion. In reality I did like them alot, it's just it's a waste of time to dwell on things that have ended, so instead I let it go.
I am completely with you on this. In life this is a big strenght not a weakness, but game wise yeah sometimes I see the look on a chicks face, waiting for some emotional response from me which is never going to come.
Agreed, I think it's a BIG STRENGTH in general. However two things I notice...
1. Chicks become highly intimidated
2. If I don't "actively" maintain a relationship the person takes it as me not wanting to "hang" anymore and so they simply fade away eventually.
I notice this when I started looking back at a year ago and realized many chicks who I was running into were chicks I used to fool around with. Nothing BAD occured, I simply just was "living life".
Then it hit me that it's like being Indiana Jones, the storyline continues with or without them and the fact that I don't care nor "actively" give opportunities it causes that "situation" to unfold. This goes with both men and women.
How I know this is true...
- Last "connector" guy I interacted with, I CAME TO HIM and actively told him I'd come by next week with some friends. Next time we met, he was talking about us doing dinner and talking. We started messaging back and forth about super bowl weekend.
- I once ran into this chick who for some reason I started liking a lot. That night I told her, how I always thought she was an awesome chick. (Her energy was unreal) She was SHOCKED and saying "o my, why didn't you ever tell me!!!"
- A girl once told my friend how she really likes me but "implied" that I'm so indifferent that she can't read me. (knowing her past, she probably doesn't want to get attached and hurt by another guy)
All in all, I know I won't change this aspect since in every area of my life it has helped me stay "sane"