First post. After browsing around, I noticed a lot of guys have been "reborn.". The red pill changed their lives dramatically and for the better. A lot of these budding alphas talk mostly about newfound success with women, but I was wondering if any of you ever had a time in your life where you weren't respected by your male peers, weren't taken seriously, etc.
Getting with chicks was never really a problem for me. My biggest problem, which I would really like to change, is being taken seriously by other men. Those who know me well recognize me for my positive traits. They know I'm intelligent, can be really funny and just a pretty cool dude. However, when thrown into new situations with new people (especially dudes who project confidence) I'm rarely able to act natural. In a best case scenario, they remember me as a "nice, friendly dude," and worst case is somebody with nothing special to offer.
This goes back a long way. I got bullied pretty hard for a long time...from 1st to 8th grade. I was a huge pussy during this time and didn;t take matters into my own hands until 8th grade when i knocked this one kid out. I've never been bullied since, but the eight years people were giving me shit definitely got ingrained in my brain. I simply get intimidated and uncomfortable when other guys act like alphas in the truest sense of the word: being a top dog.
My life isn't horrible, and I don't get shit from people, but I feel like this problem creates a ceiling for my potential. I have a lot of good ideas and ambitions, but not being comfortable in leadership positions or at the center of attention is a huge handicap. I'm 23 now and want to start asserting myself to get what I want.
Has anyone ever experienced something like this? How did you change it? All thoughts are welcome.
Getting with chicks was never really a problem for me. My biggest problem, which I would really like to change, is being taken seriously by other men. Those who know me well recognize me for my positive traits. They know I'm intelligent, can be really funny and just a pretty cool dude. However, when thrown into new situations with new people (especially dudes who project confidence) I'm rarely able to act natural. In a best case scenario, they remember me as a "nice, friendly dude," and worst case is somebody with nothing special to offer.
This goes back a long way. I got bullied pretty hard for a long time...from 1st to 8th grade. I was a huge pussy during this time and didn;t take matters into my own hands until 8th grade when i knocked this one kid out. I've never been bullied since, but the eight years people were giving me shit definitely got ingrained in my brain. I simply get intimidated and uncomfortable when other guys act like alphas in the truest sense of the word: being a top dog.
My life isn't horrible, and I don't get shit from people, but I feel like this problem creates a ceiling for my potential. I have a lot of good ideas and ambitions, but not being comfortable in leadership positions or at the center of attention is a huge handicap. I'm 23 now and want to start asserting myself to get what I want.
Has anyone ever experienced something like this? How did you change it? All thoughts are welcome.