[J.J.]

Let's say you move to a new big city with no friends. How do you go about building a quality social circle, especially one that can produce a lot of potential girls to bang?

[commiejoe]

Go to a bar, play pool/darts with some people, invite group back to your place for after party.
They have fun, and want to hang out with you more.
It's not hard to make acquaintances.

[nek]

(01-26-2014 04:17 PM)J.J. Wrote:  

Let's say you move to a new big city with no friends. How do you go about building a quality social circle, especially one that can produce a lot of potential girls to bang?

Be part of 'something' or multiple 'somethings'. When you were in high school and/or college, you were part of 'something', namely a school. However, being part of these things is woven into the fabric of society. You won't have that after college (besides your job, but I find it best to separate the two). In addition, people won't ever be as receptive to meeting new people as they are in college. So what you got to do is be part of something. Essentially, have interests and be an interesting person. Regardless of the hobby/activity, there will be women or at least guys that will connect you to women. And don't expect an immediate return on investment. Patience is needed.

[Don]

I think the key here is learning how to provide value to people. The way I see it the easiest and best way to do so in the purpose of building a network of people to hang out with is by being a fun and positive individual. Some time ago I was much more of an introvert, and at the time i had a friend that seemed to be the complete opposite of me in that regard, he was very extroverted and he seemed know everyone. If I would hang out with him and we would be at the park or somewhere with a lot of people, he would get approached like 2 or 3 times by various "acquaintances" that were always glad too see him and chat with him. He had this massive social circle and of course it helped him meet girls. The interesting thing is that he was also broke and his face resembled a dead rat, but he was also very positive, charismatic and intelligent.

People are usually really bored so if you are a fun, positive individual and you find a way to meet people(like Nek said, be part of something) there's going to be a good chance that these people will like hanging out with you, which in turn will put you near the people they know, and as you can see it all forms a cycle.

[YoungDominican]

I think a good way to do this is by actually gaming girls and showing people you are that type of guy. Also take advantage of the friend of a friend situation. By that I mean if you want to get to someone who you think would be good for your social circle or has a good social circle, then get with someone they know that might be easier for you to get in with then use them to get to the person.

[Capitán Peligroso]

Everything everyone else has said so far is good. Meetup.com is a great tool for meeting people to build social circles. You can meet a lot of people with common interests, which makes building a broader social network more congruent and thus easier if you lean toward the introverted side. And if you leaned toward the extroverted side, you wouldn't be asking people on this forum how to meet people, you'd be out meeting people.

[WestIndianArchie]

Community College.

WIA

[Santoro]

http://www.goodlookingloser.com/2013/09/...dom-girls/

If you play an instrument, audition for some music groups/bands asap. Even if you don't get in, they will invite you to shows and often introduce you to other musicians.

Musicians that perform onstage normally have a nice group of contacts and multiple social scenes to hop between

[Basil Ransom]

I've struggled with this. I want a good social circle. But every time I've dipped my foot in the pool, it wasn't worth it. 90% of social circles suck dick, especially the ones you can access easily. You'll be left dicking around with boring fucks, mediocre girls who you have to pretend to like. Most girls have zero concept of how to keep a man's interest without sex, so being friends with those girls just saps your energy. And most guys are just too dim, narrow-minded, colorless and uncurious for my tastes.

Your best bet is building a circle around an activity that you enjoy regardless of the people involved. Or find an activity that's cool but also has a high concentration of cool guys. If you're at least passionate about the activity, then you can be engaged. Trouble is, at least around me, the cool crowd's activities consist of going to brunch and house parties, so they're not that accessible by joining some Meetup.com group.

This'll also vary a lot by city and neighborhood.

For pure 'bang for your buck,' a couple solid wingmen is a huge improvement over the vast majority of social circles. You find one at http://www.rooshvforum.network

[Valhalla]

Do some searching there's a guy on here who dropped some good data on networking and creating social circles.

[ChocolateCockOfZeus]

Get into BJJ at a good gym. You can build a social circle of guys who can handle themselves, while also getting yourself in fighting shape. Confidence through the roof when you go out.

[Distant Light]

If your in a new city you need to do some research...
- "Follow The Money", High End venues have hotter women and your more likely to meet "movers and shakers" who have a good "in" within the city

- Figure out "basic lifestyle" activities you like (For instance, whether it be dining out, cooking dinners at home, or exploring new restaurants.)

- Figure out your area, find places you like, connect there. (Always scout venues before you actually bring people there)

Essentially you simply use COLD APPROACH to help you meet people at an insane rate and then simply invite them along into your life. At my peak, I was apart of about 14-15 different quality social circles that I seen atleast 1x a month. I also had my own personal social circle, majority of it was built through COLD APPROACH.

I already knew beforehand some of the key players in my city. Connecting with MEN are so easy assuming you yourself are FUN and CAPABLE OF INTRODUCING WOMEN TO PEOPLE.

Been doing this for 2 years now MUCH MORE fufilling than the usual "cold approach mastery" path

P.S...IMO its essential to break into either the high end (super fancy) or hipster (edgy) scene in order to fully navigate within your city. You will notice the quality of women you meet, fool around with and hookup is substantially better.

[LeBeau]

There can be wildly differing answers based on age ranges so I think people should be breaking it down based on that along with activities.

J.J. are you asking in general or did you have a specific age range in mind?

[Distant Light]

(01-28-2014 12:31 AM)LeBeau Wrote:  

There can be wildly differing answers based on age ranges so I think people should be breaking it down based on that along with activities.

J.J. are you asking in general or did you have a specific age range in mind?

Although I agree in activity...

Age range in MAJOR CITIES tend to be irrelevant, as I'm 25 BUT many close friends are in their 19-22 range and my closest friends are 28-35 range. In all the venues though you have anywhere from 20 to 50 years old which generally are wealthy and/or celebs. I haven't found a huge difference in age range.

Activitiy wise though is true since I used to go to a dinner party hosted by chef friends BUT that social circle would never go to a classy lounge to hang with me. Although I'd take people at a classy lounge to a raging headline DJ danceclub.

[J.J.]

(01-28-2014 12:31 AM)LeBeau Wrote:  

There can be wildly differing answers based on age ranges so I think people should be breaking it down based on that along with activities.

J.J. are you asking in general or did you have a specific age range in mind?

Since I'm in my 20's, I'm focused on the under 30 crowd. Over 30's are usually less fun and more likely to be married or too career focused.

[tylerdurden1993]

Join a sports team and go to the social events, its a good way to make friends and if you're a cool guy an easy way to build a social circle fast.

[eastwest]

The one thing I truly hate about most social circles is the constant beta clamoring to pust others down, not to raise yourself up. For that reason, as I've gotten older, I prefer to hang with people of equal standing and with similar interests. Social settings never seem to end up one big cockblock then if you're all basically on the same page.

Work is also pretty good for a basic social circle if you're new in town or if you're self employed then different kinds of industry meetups through Meetup.com and similar. Co-ed sports are also good. Team sport is always a great way to find some drinking buddies.

[Shooter]

(01-26-2014 04:28 PM)commiejoe Wrote:  

Go to a bar, play pool/darts with some people, invite group back to your place for after party.
They have fun, and want to hang out with you more.
It's not hard to make acquaintances.

..and they steal yo shit.

[Shooter]

(01-27-2014 11:26 PM)ChocolateCockOfZeus Wrote:  

Get into BJJ at a good gym. You can build a social circle of guys who can handle themselves, while also getting yourself in fighting shape. Confidence through the roof when you go out.

Just moved from Alaska to Florida. HUGE difference and more opportunities for well...everything. I TOO have always struggled with this my whole life, trying to "fit in"

Fast forward a decade or so later, I'm all independent and blah blah blah.

Now that I'm at a new location I'm also trying to start up a social circle. Got involved with CrossFit and I'm also taking BJJ.

Great people to be around. Also! Once you get into this new lifestyle. You might get into Yoga.

I use to cut out booze on Friday nights because I had Yoga Saturday morning. Guys use to me SO much sh*t.
Then I ask them, "What's better: waking up with a hangover OR starting your Saturday morning surrounded by females in yoga pants?" PLUS you could STILL go out that Saturday night Win-Win.

[Distant Light]

(02-01-2014 03:57 PM)eastwest Wrote:  

The one thing I truly hate about most social circles is the constant beta clamoring to pust others down, not to raise yourself up. For that reason, as I've gotten older, I prefer to hang with people of equal standing and with similar interests. Social settings never seem to end up one big cockblock then if you're all basically on the same page.

Work is also pretty good for a basic social circle if you're new in town or if you're self employed then different kinds of industry meetups through Meetup.com and similar. Co-ed sports are also good. Team sport is always a great way to find some drinking buddies.

Never experienced this, I guess because I built my social circle from scratch...

When it comes to OTHERS social circles, I always view myself as an individual who is bringing more resource to that social circle. I've never experienced any jocking for positions and I found being apart of DIFFERENT social circle helps you EXPAND YOUR AWARENESS and gain more depth.

If you're not exposed to alot of people you won't know what you like/dislike.

[SwayMe]

(01-27-2014 10:12 PM)Basil Ransom Wrote:  

Your best bet is building a circle around an activity that you enjoy regardless of the people involved. Or find an activity that's cool but also has a high concentration of cool guys. If you're at least passionate about the activity, then you can be engaged.

This and what Distant Light says.

It all boils down to networking.