[Every10GivesMeA10]

My GF and her BFF (female) rent a place together and my GF went on a trip abroad to see family for the holidays. She told me she would have no problems with me and her BFF hanging out. A week after she left we met up in downtown for drinks. Told her I'm hungry and that I was gonna go home and cook. Asked her if she wanted to come to my place or if she wanted to be dropped off at home. She ended up at my place and I made pancakes for the both of us.

I'm not gonna lie, my objective was to fuck the shit out of her since she is cute but I did not seal the deal (thankfully). I did touch her all over her body, massaged her, picked her up and threw her on my bed, etc. Also spoke a lot about sex, fantasies.

After an hour or so, I dropped her off at her place and in the car I told her it's best if we keep this a secret. She agreed. (another mistake since I should have never trusted this girl)

Anyway, after the days/weeks go by, she texts me once in a while and I text back. No problems whatsoever.

GF comes back, pick her up from the airport. Casually told her that I hung out with her BFF but that nothing happened.

After I drop her off at her place at night, she tells me that before she even told her BFF about what I told her, her BFF tells her the story first BUT without every detail.

The only thing her BFF said to my GF was that I touched her hair and that I looked deep into her eyes and said that I wanted to fuck her. And that I told her she should keep this a secret. BUT she did not tell her that I massaged her and that I threw her on the bed, as that would make her as guilty as me since she co-operated.

To this day I am denying every accusation like crazy. I spoke with her best friend on the phone and asked her: "So we can agree that nothing happened that night, correct?" She said yes. I said: "So why would I say that we should keep this a secret"

Of course she could not say anything because she would then break her frame. She didn't say one word about the other stuff.

She is now saying all kinds of bad stuff about me to my girl. Like I'm a bad guy, and she calls her when GF is at my place saying she doesn't want me to hurt her etc

How should I work this out?

[commiejoe]

How serious are you about your GF?

[tmason]

Hmmm, the BFF obviously wants to fuck you but like the other poster above is hinting at there is no information about your GF.

Who do you want more? Or you want both for a while?

[Agent 47]

NEVER SHIT WHERE YOU EAT.

Damage Control Bro. Damage Control, Damage Control.

Set up a 3 way if interested.

[Handsome Creepy Eel]

Damn, if you want to fuck other girls at least be discreet about it. I don't understand why you're surprised that it came back to you (even though she is misrepresenting the truth so not to appear like a slut).

[eradicator]

jeez, i thought i would get to be the first to suggest a 3 way, not the third.

I would have said to the girlfriend "HAH! your friend is funny. We did hang out some and she totally threw herself at me and said I could fuck her if I wanted, but she said it much dirtier than that, but I said I was into you and that would just be wrong. You've known her all your life, that is totally something she would do, is it not?"

edit, basically paint the bff as horny and jealous of your girlfriend. that is what I would be doing at least, handle as you see fit.

[Tuthmosis]

(01-23-2014 03:30 AM)Agent 47 Wrote:  

NEVER SHIT WHERE YOU EAT.

This ain't even shitting where you eat. This is like shitting into a tube that leads directly into your mouth.

[funkyzeit]

I had a girlfriend like this who had her "friends" talking behind her back while at the same time hitting on me. If it's only one then you'll be mostly fine, but a bunch of other female friends + their orbiters made my girl bitchy towards me and I dumped her eventually. So be careful.

Also, never fuck your gf's friends unless your girlfriend sets up a threesome or ask you to do it because of her fetish. And even then it can be a shit test or her cheat-guilt. It'll backfire hard on you.

[Every10GivesMeA10]

A threesome is out of the picture. This BFF has a BF herself and goes out clubbing weekly and stays over at confirmed slutty girlfriends. Drinks a lot too.

She should have asked me if I was crazy for even suggesting that we go to my place. Lol this bitch even 'wanted' me to massage her and she liked it. She talks about how she likes rough sex and that her BF is a timid guy.

I am denying everything like crazy to my GF.

[Beyond Borders]

My best guess - this relationship is quickly nearing its expiration date.

I'd just break up with my girlfriend. Say you don't need this bullshit. Hell, it might even backfire on the bff cause she'll look like the bad guy. If she's really into you, she'll freak out and beg you to stay or start pining for you after the breakup.

Hard to say though.

I personally couldn't stomach the drama.

[Christian McQueen]

"I personally couldn't stomach the drama"

Beat me to it.

The older a man gets, the less tolerance he has for this shit.

Analyze the situation, what your intentions are of being with her and consider dropping her.

I've been in similar situations, sometimes guilty, sometimes falsely accused and it'll always be thrown up in your face.

Tell her it's bullshit and it will not be up for discussion anymore.

If she can't handle it, then she can go.

Life is too damn short to be dealing with stupidity that you'll look back on one day and laugh about.

[Beyond Borders]

(01-23-2014 05:52 AM)Christian McQueen Wrote:  

Tell her it's bullshit and it will not be up for discussion anymore.

If she can't handle it, then she can go.

This especially.

If you do get past it, don't let her keep throwing it back in your face all the time. Tell her straight up that if she decides to stay it's her own decision and doesn't give her a free pass to bring this shit up all the time and fuck with you.

Relationships that survive cheating are fucking painful to watch sometimes the way people hold it over each other's heads and drag out the misery. I made it a policy a long time ago to never let someone give me hell about old shit, even if I earned it.

The door is always open and if a grown woman chooses not to walk through it than that's on her, as far as I'm concerned. After all, I wouldn't stay with someone I didn't trust.

[Every10GivesMeA10]

(01-23-2014 05:47 AM)Beyond Borders Wrote:  

My best guess - this relationship is quickly nearing its expiration date.

I'd just break up with my girlfriend. Say you don't need this bullshit. Hell, it might even backfire on the bff cause she'll look like the bad guy. If she's really into you, she'll freak out and beg you to stay or start pining for you after the breakup.

Hard to say though.

I personally couldn't stomach the drama.

the relationship is pretty good and this girl has taken a lot of shit from me and she does stuff for me like cook, clean and suck my dick after. She buys gifts for me and I rarely do much for her. if this nonsense with the BFF could stop all would be good.

[WanderingSoul]

BB drops truth. Nothing more painful, and hilarious, than watching the slow moving train wreck of people trying to drag out a relationship. Watching it right now with my buddy whose gf is itching for some random cock, and he just can't find it in himself to see it, and/or tell her to kick rocks. Slow moving train wreck indeed.

[Beyond Borders]

(01-23-2014 06:38 AM)Every10GivesMeA10 Wrote:  

the relationship is pretty good and this girl has taken a lot of shit from me and she does stuff for me like cook, clean and suck my dick after. She buys gifts for me and I rarely do much for her. if this nonsense with the BFF could stop all would be good.

Honestly, you just described what I've come to expect from just about any somewhat serious girlfriend. I can understand that it's enjoyable and addicting, and I like that shit too, but there are plenty of other women who will do the same thing as long as you maintain whatever frame got you where you're at right now.

Also:

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If she's really into you, she'll freak out and beg you to stay or start pining for you after the breakup.

Women get real forgiving real quick if they see that they're about to lose you and that you don't seem all too fazed by the prospect.

There's no guarantee, but breaking up with her or making it clear that you're not against doing so will force her to get over it and tell her friend to stop bringing it up. Unless you can control her bff (you probably cannot), the only chance of the problem going away is getting your girlfriend to move past it. Because she's the one you have in your power.

Another route is just to fess up and, again, tell her you want to break up because it's just not worth the drama.

Basically, if she loves you and is afraid to lose you, that's your leverage for getting through it without having to kiss ass and argue about it for the next few years.

[lowside]

tell her what she wants to hear:

"wasn't me"
"your friend is lying"
"never happened"
"nothing happened"

as long as there's no evidence, you'll be fine. and even then, i've looked girls straight in the eyes saying:"that's not me on that picture, phone has a crappy camera". she WANTS to believe this, she sees what she wants to see, remember this at all times.

only time when you can't weasel your way out is when she catches you in bed with another girl. or so i imagine, never happened to me though.

[j r]

As people have rightly pointed out, you played right into the friend's need for attention and drama.

What no one has said, however, is that you seem to be craving drama as well. There are only two ways this could have gone done. You made moves, didn't bang her and now she's causing drama. If you had banged her, though, there'd be even more drama.

If you like stirring shit, that's fine; some do. But you got to own up to that shit.

[el mechanico]

Well, your amateur moves are what got you in this pickle. The BFF always rats you out unless...You hit it hard and fast. No massage (lol) or pancakes. You should have played cool , made some drinks and made her come after the D. All in or nothing..She would feel guilt and maybe not talk about it but since you used lame game she's going to clown you.

[pheonix500000]

(01-23-2014 10:41 AM)el mechanico Wrote:  

Well, your amateur moves are what got you in this pickle. The BFF always rats you out unless...You hit it hard and fast. No massage (lol) or pancakes. You should have played cool , made some drinks and made her come after the D. All in or nothing..She would feel guilt and maybe not talk about it but since you used lame game she's going to clown you.

Thats wisdom right there

[atahualpa]

(01-23-2014 10:41 AM)el mechanico Wrote:  

Well, your amateur moves are what got you in this pickle. The BFF always rats you out unless...You hit it hard and fast. No massage (lol) or pancakes. You should have played cool , made some drinks and made her come after the D. All in or nothing..She would feel guilt and maybe not talk about it but since you used lame game she's going to clown you.

Exactly. Ironically if you would have fucked the friend, there would have been no issue, secret would have been kept and drama avoided. But now the friend's ASD has room to rewrite the narrative so that it was just her fighting off your advances.

[Professor Fox]

(01-23-2014 09:06 AM)lowside Wrote:  

tell her what she wants to hear:

"wasn't me"
"your friend is lying"
"never happened"
"nothing happened"

[aphelion]

After reading the story, I think OP is the one trying to ruin the relationship

[JohnKreese]

As much as I would like to just say "abort mission" if you REALLY care that much, you can just tell her it's over with some line like, "I can't believe that you'd let the bullshit 'word' of that bitch ruin everything we have together" and walk out. Say it with a straight enough face and leave immediately and she will be at her friend's throat and, most likely, on your dick shortly thereafter.

[teh_skeeze]

Never try to fuck your g/f's friend without the g/f being present. Personally, I would have gone with an agree and amplify. "Oops, you caught me. At least she [insert nasty sex act that she would never dream of doing]. Maybe if you did that I wouldn't have to go behind your back."

[MidniteSpecial]

If you're gonna dive in you gotta go head first my man.