I've been going out around once a week (some weeks twice, some zero) for the past 2-3 months. I still haven't gotten a lay.
I've improved a lot since, and I can see that I now have a better grasp at applying game concepts.
In general, I am very dominant and don't really waste any time. I can see the girls are into me, but things never go anywhere. Lately, nearly all of the girls I hit it off with had a bf.
Some examples:
- I walk up to two girls and touch their backs as I say hello. "With that thing on your lips, do you have any trouble when shaving your mustache?" She takes a while to process this, and then both start laughing. Some fun banter. Turns out the 2nd girl knows a girl I was speaking to, and I grab her hand and get her to say hello.
I would've gone back to them, but my "wing" was being lame, and instead go to another bar and try to wing for him. So, we're sitting at the bar. I open two girls, not very receptive, I go upstairs. I spot a girl coming our way. Pixie haircut. Grab her hand, pull her towards me, say hey. A few seconds of inane bullshit, then I say "my friend here thinks you're cute, I'll leave you two...play nice."
- I go to that same bar some days later. I see a girl who I think is the same short haired chick. Open, turns out it isn't. She's certain it's not her. So I say "I know I'm handsome, but are you gonna keep staring at me, or are you gonna buy me a drink?" She half smiles, tests, I stay put, and asks what I want. Cool conversation.
I see a cute girl coming, I pull her towards me, say hello, I like your piercing, and I'll see you in a bit. I keep talking to short hair. Later on, some other girls come in, and I steal one of their beanies, and give it back later on. This is easier because I'm already talking to a cute girl. Short hair goes "So you're always flirting with the whole bar or what?" I play it off pretty casually with a "hmm, dunno...sometimes? most times...! (big grin)"
- At a club, a few weeks ago. There's Dragon Ball Z playing on a screen (WTF), and I spot a chick watching. Make a comment about that. Not sure how I escalate, but within seconds, I am standing only about two inches from her. I'm touching her hips when we're talking. She fake-protests that I can't do that and as I say "yeah, but I am", she says "but it's ok...you're funny." Later on, she says I (or she?) has to leave. I say ok and open another girl who was about two feet from us. Later on, I find her again, dancing in the same area I am. I tease her, and I think she disappears. Another girl I was with earlier sees me, lights up, and I drink half her drink from her straw and she's like "heyy!!" and at this point, I'm dead tired, so I go home.
- This Thursday and Friday...I approached a lot. Most of the girls had boyfriends. All I ended up with was bummed cigarettes, the tits of a (fat!) 37 y/o rubbed against me as she told me about her kids and ugly necklace, and my number on a fatty's phone. I liked fatty's friend, and when I was going through fatty's stuff to steal cigarettes, I found her phone, and put my number there. I have no idea why I did that.
Thursday was chill, and I only made 1 approach. Few people at the bar. I feel like having a cigarette, so I go say hey to the 10-15 people who walked in. Very politely ask the guys for one (most of them were on the side closest to me), they ask the group, and then point towards a girl on the far end. "Ah...and turns out it's the most attractive one of the group" (in retrospect, risky move, but it was met with smiles). So, I talk with the girl for a bit. Then leave. Later on, she comes towards the bar (it's an L-shape and I'm on the other side), and I walk towards her and cut her convo with the bar maid. Both are kinda shocked, but the barmaid is cool with me and leaves quickly, and the girl smiles at me. We talk for 10-15 minutes. I try to set up a date and get her number, but she says it'd make her feel guilty, and she blabs on for a bit. We talk some more, and then she says she has to leave, and goes back to her friends.
Many of the interactions on Friday were like that, except that sometimes I cut them short and went to talk to other girls.
Anyway, all of the examples are to give an idea of the kind of game I run, and with that, it'd be easier to give some suggestions on how you think I should adjust. I'm not a total dweeb, but it is obvious that I am still a rookie who's making rookie mistakes.
While I'm skinny, I'm tall and OK-looking, and the obnoxious-playful shit seems to work. It comes pretty naturally.
I'd appreciate your help.
I've improved a lot since, and I can see that I now have a better grasp at applying game concepts.
In general, I am very dominant and don't really waste any time. I can see the girls are into me, but things never go anywhere. Lately, nearly all of the girls I hit it off with had a bf.
Some examples:
- I walk up to two girls and touch their backs as I say hello. "With that thing on your lips, do you have any trouble when shaving your mustache?" She takes a while to process this, and then both start laughing. Some fun banter. Turns out the 2nd girl knows a girl I was speaking to, and I grab her hand and get her to say hello.
I would've gone back to them, but my "wing" was being lame, and instead go to another bar and try to wing for him. So, we're sitting at the bar. I open two girls, not very receptive, I go upstairs. I spot a girl coming our way. Pixie haircut. Grab her hand, pull her towards me, say hey. A few seconds of inane bullshit, then I say "my friend here thinks you're cute, I'll leave you two...play nice."
- I go to that same bar some days later. I see a girl who I think is the same short haired chick. Open, turns out it isn't. She's certain it's not her. So I say "I know I'm handsome, but are you gonna keep staring at me, or are you gonna buy me a drink?" She half smiles, tests, I stay put, and asks what I want. Cool conversation.
I see a cute girl coming, I pull her towards me, say hello, I like your piercing, and I'll see you in a bit. I keep talking to short hair. Later on, some other girls come in, and I steal one of their beanies, and give it back later on. This is easier because I'm already talking to a cute girl. Short hair goes "So you're always flirting with the whole bar or what?" I play it off pretty casually with a "hmm, dunno...sometimes? most times...! (big grin)"
- At a club, a few weeks ago. There's Dragon Ball Z playing on a screen (WTF), and I spot a chick watching. Make a comment about that. Not sure how I escalate, but within seconds, I am standing only about two inches from her. I'm touching her hips when we're talking. She fake-protests that I can't do that and as I say "yeah, but I am", she says "but it's ok...you're funny." Later on, she says I (or she?) has to leave. I say ok and open another girl who was about two feet from us. Later on, I find her again, dancing in the same area I am. I tease her, and I think she disappears. Another girl I was with earlier sees me, lights up, and I drink half her drink from her straw and she's like "heyy!!" and at this point, I'm dead tired, so I go home.
- This Thursday and Friday...I approached a lot. Most of the girls had boyfriends. All I ended up with was bummed cigarettes, the tits of a (fat!) 37 y/o rubbed against me as she told me about her kids and ugly necklace, and my number on a fatty's phone. I liked fatty's friend, and when I was going through fatty's stuff to steal cigarettes, I found her phone, and put my number there. I have no idea why I did that.
Thursday was chill, and I only made 1 approach. Few people at the bar. I feel like having a cigarette, so I go say hey to the 10-15 people who walked in. Very politely ask the guys for one (most of them were on the side closest to me), they ask the group, and then point towards a girl on the far end. "Ah...and turns out it's the most attractive one of the group" (in retrospect, risky move, but it was met with smiles). So, I talk with the girl for a bit. Then leave. Later on, she comes towards the bar (it's an L-shape and I'm on the other side), and I walk towards her and cut her convo with the bar maid. Both are kinda shocked, but the barmaid is cool with me and leaves quickly, and the girl smiles at me. We talk for 10-15 minutes. I try to set up a date and get her number, but she says it'd make her feel guilty, and she blabs on for a bit. We talk some more, and then she says she has to leave, and goes back to her friends.
Many of the interactions on Friday were like that, except that sometimes I cut them short and went to talk to other girls.
Anyway, all of the examples are to give an idea of the kind of game I run, and with that, it'd be easier to give some suggestions on how you think I should adjust. I'm not a total dweeb, but it is obvious that I am still a rookie who's making rookie mistakes.
While I'm skinny, I'm tall and OK-looking, and the obnoxious-playful shit seems to work. It comes pretty naturally.
I'd appreciate your help.