[eeneymeeney]

I've joined a couple of Meet-up groups to improve my social skills. There is a night out next week, and as there will be a few women there, I want to be able to get their numbers. Are there any good ways of doing this - how and what to say etc? I could message them afterwards via the site, but I don't want to do it that way.

I also read on another thread that I shouldn't meet these women for dates, but just platonically. Should I do this, or go for dates? I'm thinking of going down this path as I want to just increase my social circle, or should I just go for it?!

One other quick question - is meeting people via Meet-up day-game, or night-game, or some other type?

[Brodiaga]

Most meetups in Western countries, especially drinking/bar crawling ones, are sausage fests to begin with. No miracles there. You can get girls' phone numbers though, then set up dates and proceed as usual.

If you have a hobby, join a meetup group and see what the ratio is like there. I've never been, but I've heard that book club meetups are full of girls.

[Brodiaga]

To answer the questions:

-Messaging vs phone numbers: just build up the courage and get a phone number if you want to see a girl again. I used the messaging function on the web site, but I don't think I ever got any numbers using it.

-What are the good ways of doing this? Just be fun and social. I am not naturally social or fun, btw, maybe that's why I stopped going)

-Meeting with women platonically vs sexually. If you're interested in them sexually, don't waste your and their time and communicate it to them. There are exceptions, though. I once befriended a girl from one of the meetups who then introduced me to her friends. I was clueless back then and didn't get any bangs, but now I look back and realize that both of them were DTF.

-Is it day game or night game? Depending on the meetup it's something in between a social circle game and day/night game. In some meetup groups, there are regulars who are friends with organizers and each other. If it's that kind of meetup, be nice to them and befriend them, don't just start hitting on girls first time you go there. Then you'll get invites to more private bar crawls and maybe even house parties. You can also find wingmen in meetups.
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[eeneymeeney]

Thanks for this. It's not actually Meet-up, but a similar type of thing. On here, it's more of a younger crowd, and more women.

What I need is what exactly do I say to ask? When is the best time (in the conversation) to ask? Do I need to get her/them alone, or will it be reasonable to ask when other people are there?

[Brodiaga]

Nobody can tell you what exactly to say and when. It all depends on the situation. That's why you need game. I'm not good at this either, but I have improved since I joined RVF.

One thing is certain though: it's better to go there and fuck up completely than to stay at home and stare at the wall. At least you'll learn something.

[augen sehen]

Meetup is my forté. I've banged multiple chicks from there and fucked up with tons more when I got to text messaging hell. At least in Europe, the girls are young and hot.

The game plan is easy. Most guys who go to meetups are geeks, and out of all of them there are only some who actually will try to get a girl, and have game. Be the social guy, be fun, and flirt with everyone. Apply game principles, don't give any one girl too much attention early on and later on, isolate and run some comfort game on her and number close. Then take her on a date as per usual.

What really helped my odds was becoming an organizer. We all know women love power, and being an organizer, especially a fun one who makes sure everybody's having a good time, is like being the club owner for a day. Hella social proof and pre-selection as you have the power to talk to anyone and they're all like, "Oh, you're the organizer, right?"

There are a few different kinds of meetups.

1. Social meetups where everyone's out to have fun, it's not a regular thing. Easy to work and you don't have to worry about coming back next time, you can go more aggressive.

2. Social, regular meetups which can be more closed-off to newbies. Be a bit more discerning in who you hit on here. Talk to the other newbies more.

3. Unsocial, purpose-oriented meetups. For example, language exchange or computer-oriented, in the daytime or evening. People are going here for something and may not be receptive to romantic attention. Avoid if you can.

Hope this helps. Ask me more questions if you like.