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01-06-2014, 02:14 PM
Going out tonight I was expecting to see a girl I had been with on Saturday, who I genuinely wanted to see again. She didn't come and I struggled to find the motivation to do new approaches and my vibe was completely off.
I'm wondering if you guys have any advice to avoid that sort of problem and get yourself back in the right frame of mind.
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01-06-2014, 08:05 PM
Thanks guys.
Normally I have a better "fuck it" sort of mentality but am overseas at the moment and heading home in a few days. She was Russian and of a quality I very rarely see at home.
Still, onwards and upwards.
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01-07-2014, 07:58 AM
Go out every night the rest of your time in Russia. Do 10 approaches per night. Make it happen brother.
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01-07-2014, 08:43 AM
I'm in vietnam brother, this place is packed with Russian girls though. I've never been to Russia but being in this environment has definitely put the idea in my mind.
I'm only 22, she was 28 so there's plenty more to come if I work at it.
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01-07-2014, 08:44 AM
Where in Vietnam? You live there?
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01-07-2014, 08:49 AM
Currently mui ne, have been in most of the main spots south of hoi an.
I came out for nye/Xmas for three weeks from New Zealand.
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01-08-2014, 06:21 PM
Every rule is meant to be broken.
Oneitis is definitely something to be avoided when running game, getting notches, etc.
However, eventually you should settle down with someone and you should feel that she's special. No shame in this.
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08-29-2014, 09:54 PM
Recently broke up with girl I liked. Suffering from oneitis kind of post break up.
Question - will banging girls of lower quality make me feel better or worse? Should I do it to help my mental health at this point or avoid? I'm starting to burn with lust again.
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09-01-2014, 03:08 AM
Getting a new bang, even of lower quality, is the best way to get over a hang up Ive found. When I had oneitis, I just force myself to go out and hit on more girl. The embrace of a new girl usually fix thing. Try to develop a little bit of feeling for her, yes you heard that right. It will neutralize the feeling of oneitis and in the end you clear your mind of both girls.
As long as the girl gives you a boner, it can never be worse, and at worse the sexual release always help.
What it does for your mental state is reinforcing the idea that you can still get girls after her, and that in the end all girls are the same. It helps.
Good luck!
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09-01-2014, 01:00 PM
It's her loss.
Also, it is important to convince yourself that it's over and you need to walk away. Otherwise you run the risk of damaging your self-respect, your image, and your ability to do more important things in your life.