[Sleek]

I didn't look at this forum for a while... for about six months. And then in the past week, I made a series of realizations about myself that I realized I did not want to share with my closest of friends. My thinking was that they probably would not understand my line of thinking. While I believe my friends would not ridicule me for my thoughts out of respect, I believe going to them would be a sign of weakness.

Here is what I wrote down in the past week after my good friend took the girl I wanted to hook up with. (I know that it is irrational to have one-itis. I know the girl isn't even as hot as some girls who I've hooked up with. But for some reason it doesn't stop me from having the feeling that I am inferior.)

Things to remember:
-Improve yourself.
-Go to the gym more.
-Speak to more random girls. They probably want to talk to you.
-You are only young once. Once you are 25, the opportunities to do so will be few and far between.
-Not every girl will like you, even the uglier ones.
-Confidence leads to more confidence.
-Keep your head up, and you've already got the girl.
-You are only as good as your last failure. Failure is the key to future success.
-MJ got cut from a varsity basketball team.
-Every touch is on purpose.
-You're the man.
-Money is the tool to future success - in terms of women and power.
-The worst feeling is of "why me?" Why was I not blessed with model-like good looks? Why was I not given natural strength or leadership abilities? Why do I have the many physical flaws I have?
-When you are less attractive than your friend, the girl is more likely to fall for your friend. Unfortunately, I am always less attractive than my friends. For some reason, this weighs heavily on my heart.
-Go fuck some hotter girls, pussy.

[elabayarde]

women arent visual the same way men are. You are projecting. Thats why you see old fucks with hot young chicks. So stop focusing on your friends looks. That shit is all fluid!!!

[funkyzeit]

All things can be learned. All people have insecurities and weaknesses. Learn to spot and use their weaknesses and you'll be dominant leader with leverage. Go out and observe people's interactions, observe their body language, their words, choice of topics, their results of their efforts. You'll quickly learn what to do and what not to do, how to use weaknesses to AMOG others, how to choose the moment for each of these things for maximum impact. Read books and fabricate some extraordinary experiences you supposedly had. Tell them to girls and watch them melt. It takes between a couple of weeks and couple of months to see noticeable improvements.

Related to appearance, try GTL (Gym, Tan, Laundry). Work out, dress well and if you're pale get a tan, it signals more testosterone, but don't overdo any of those things (ie. orange skin, too much jewelery or IFBB competition physique). I know how it sounds, some people will call you douche, but we all know why. They don't have the balls to change themselves in the same way.

Your friend is a backstabbing pussy if he took your girl knowing you are into her, confront him and if necessary cut contact. It doesn't mean you're inferior, it means you're in a stage when your inner game is weak, which can be changed in less than a month.

[Rocklion2000]

I'd take one off your list. Get rid of that 25 is over the hill crap.

I'm 38. I'm banging more chicks than I did when I was 24 and as many as I was when I was 18 in the army and had chicks falling all over me. I play rugby. I mountain bike. I'm living more than I was probably at your age.

25 isn't anything.

[AneroidOcean]

These are things that initially can make you feel down, but you should change your mindset from a negative one into a positive one. Be inspired. Look at it as training for the future life you want. Go and get it. People will help you but you have to be willing to look long and hard at yourself without making excuses. Once you start to realize your true potential you'll feel like weights are being lifted off your shoulders.

[Sleek]

(12-27-2013 10:47 AM)Rocklion2000 Wrote:  

I'd take one off your list. Get rid of that 25 is over the hill crap.

I'm 38. I'm banging more chicks than I did when I was 24 and as many as I was when I was 18 in the army and had chicks falling all over me. I play rugby. I mountain bike. I'm living more than I was probably at your age.

25 isn't anything.

I agree with you... mainly wrote that down to pursue action as soon as possible.

[The Lizard of Oz]

Sleek,

The very best thing you can do is this:

Relax.

Life is not a test that you take which you can pass or fail. There is no one standing at the end of the line counting your number of notches or other achievements. So don't live or think as if there is.

I'm all for fucking hot pussy, working out hard, making money etc. But the point of all these things is just to have a better and more enjoyable life. They are not some yardsticks by which you will be measured (by whom?) or by which you need to measure yourself.

Also, good things rarely come to dudes who are tense or down on themselves. Far more than physical appearance, being tense and unrelaxed will spoil you ability to attract pussy, or advance you career, or even get stronger in the gym -- stress and tension will get you injured rather than growing.

So don't give too much of a shit about any of this. Kick back, relax and enjoy your life in any way you can. It's a long run and unless you're very unlucky it doesn't end at 25, or 30, or 35. And even if it did, it wouldn't make a difference.

By all means, learn to improve your game, find ways to get stronger, find ways to make money, etc. But not because you have to -- rather, think of it as a game and you're just trying to get better at it and improve your skills so you can enjoy it more. Not as some dread chore that you have to grimly accomplish because you're reporting to some relentless and unknown slavemaster.

And don't worry too much about being "confident". Confidence is what comes to those who do something because they want to, not because they have to. A slave is never confident.

In short, relax, kick back, enjoy your life as much you can, don't get down on yourself, and make some efforts here and there not because you have to but because why not? And the good things will come over time.