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12-15-2013, 11:17 PM
Based on the ROK post about hiding your power, from now on I think I am not disclosing I can cook so easily. I lead with it, I always like to brag about it, its one of my 'stories', but here is something I have found over the years, it sets you up for quick failure from overblown hamster expectations. When you don't deliver, the chicken is a tad off, some weird food preference is not known, or for whatever reason your bacon preference is offensive(more than 50% of the time it is), there are literally 1000's of reasons it can go wrong, and this goes for anyone you cook for, not just women you are dating.
I grew up cooking. Started in fast food at age 14, graduated to Denny's running a shift, ended up a sous chef in a high rated establishment by age 19, and I learned more about cooking than your average culinary grad. I always lead with it, talk about it, the first to volunteer for it when there is a kitchen. I love telling the story to women on dates, they get all starry eyed. They see me as a catch because of it. They all expect I will cook for them if we last more than a few dates. And out of all of the woman in my life, only one could cook well, and surprise surprise, shes not an American. And I really dont want one thinking I am their food savior because they chose not to watch momma in the kitchen as a child.
From what I have found it just builds too much expectation, needless pressure, too many variables and resentment arising from leading with this. My realization is that I will only cook for people I know well, or completely surprise someone exceptionally special. Maybe I am a little jaded from it....
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12-15-2013, 11:41 PM
Cooking is a good way to overcome bad logistics. Just propose a dinner date at your place and cook. I don't think that cooking automatically puts a person in the "boyfriend" category, however I wouldn't do it for any old pump and dump...more for a girl in the stable. I do think you are right though about building too much expectation by talking about it early on, but you can definitely use it to your advantage if played correctly...basically don't talk much about your experience until after you have cooked for her.
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12-15-2013, 11:48 PM
I have three or four dishes I excell at. Did most of the cooking at my two apartments where I had three roomates. Bishes loved it. Never really dropped it in convo though but when you do cook for them watch out.
I feel what you are saying by keeping it hidden. Some skills should be a surprise like making them squirt, domination in bed, having a big dick, salsa dancing, singing, or speaking another language. Once you do surprise them, the pussy melts.
The cycle of disrespect can start with just an appetizer.
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12-16-2013, 11:07 AM
What happened puckman for you to make this thread?
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12-16-2013, 04:57 PM
Do what they said, I don't talk my cooking up and I hold myself to a high standard. When I do cook for a bitch they are more often than not blown away asuming they like steak, lamb, or any kind of carolina style BBQ, then what ever else I make. Couscous is popular because you can do a lot with it but most of the chicks I fuck with have never heard of it. I've yet to have a girl say my cooking was anything except sensational because I just did it and then hit em in the mouth with it.
You can work stupid, but you can't fix a fat body.
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12-16-2013, 05:08 PM
I don't ever really bring it up. I'm a pretty good cook but I dislike cooking for people or providing anything beyond the most basic hospitality in general. I'll do it if I have to but I take no pleasure in it.
If the topic does come up in conversation my focus is on whether a girl can cook. Even before I heard of game I judged the shit out of girls that couldn't cook and ripped into them hard with a lecture about how they go through life thinking it's acceptable to lack a basic life skill and rely on others to feed them like they are children. Made fun of them saying their fridges were nothing but booze and lean cuisines in the freezer (or amy's, depending on the type of chick). If the girl turned out to be a decent cook I'd praise her for not being a degenerate and try to get her to join my hate train. After learning about game I looked back on all this and laughed my ass off. Obviously I still do it.
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12-16-2013, 05:19 PM
Retreating from your true nature is sometimes what you should do.
I'd much rather kick back with a book some nights than head out to the spots, but I can't do both and get the results I want.
Or can I.
Can you incorporate elements of yourself, of who you are, into your style of game?
It's much much easier to do things slightly different than totally different.
So I imagine you invite your skinny Belarussian chick to your flat, and she's on the couch, sipping vino, switching channels between lifetime and own.
Meanwhile you're using all the cutting boards for chicken and veggies, 4 burners burning, even running something in the oven, apron on, appropriate towels tucked...
Probably whipping up something from your fridge and cupboard, but is probably next level in technique and final result. (although it's troubling that you mention that things don't turn out right, especially for someone w/your experience)
Scratch that plan.
Woman exists for you, not for the other way around.
She's supposed to respond to your beck and call, not the other way around.
In no uncertain terms
PUT THAT BITCH TO WORK.
This means you take her to the market as part of the date.
She has her half of the list, or you peruse the aisles chatting and talking about other shoppers.
When you get home she needs to do the prep work.
Measure the herbs/spices and put them in the individual ingredients bowls
Tear up the lettuce for the salad
Make the dressing
Filet the fish...
Give her guidance, compliment sparingly, teach her - especially you coming from the back in the natural dominant position, play with her and with the food...
And definitely tell her she needs to take her shoes off when she comes to the kitchen. "we got 2 out of 3, we'll work on the 3rd after dessert"
She preps.
She sets the table.
Let her grab the wine, and you uncork it.
You divide the labor like a couple would and increase the connection.
It's imperative to see how well you work with a chick, and to let her realize she's being judged in a non-sexual manner, but she'd better put up or shut the fuck up.
Being able to expose her lack of femininity and then getting her to prove it to you?
If a chick ever hits Casa WIA thinking she's gonna watch Real Housewives while i'm cooking up some rice and peas, that broad might end up spatchcocking a chicken with a cleaver.
That being said, the above is for chicks you want to continue to fuck.
In many styles of game, it's important to have a chick contribute to your situation in order for her to invest, and invest further later on.
The blowback here is that you can get a chick really invested in your shit, and realize you don't like her.
WIA
