[C2W]

I'm in a LTR and my most effective method for keeping things humming along is dread (entertaining flirtatious gestures, keeping casual acquaintances in higher orbit, disappearing and returning with a shrug). For 25 of 28 days this works well but there's always the PMS meltdown where my girl has huge insecurity issues.

So there is the inconvenience of it all. But also, I love the bitch and I don't want to see her this unhappy. Ideas? What do others do?

[augen sehen]

If she doesn't display signs of wanting to leave you, then maybe turn down the dread?

If you think it's related to PMS, here's a tip: You can track their cycle and predict when their next hormonal onslaught will take place. I track both my plates' menstrual cycles with a handy app, so that I know when to fuck her extra hard and when to give it to her sweet, and when to make other plans. I'd recommend the same to any player.

[Hoodlum]

You "love the bitch" and yet you deliberately behave in a way designed to cause her emotional distress because you're worried your inherent value isn't high enough to keep her around by itself? Yeah, really sounds like you love her.

You need to grow up and learn how to have a relationship on adult terms.

[Que enspastic]

I'm sorry but calling girls "plates" is the most weesh thing I've heard.

What next? Calling them "oranges" - because you juggle those. How about "hoola hoops" - you rotate them around your body.

[HonantheBarbarian]

I think "weesh" sounds more faggoty than "plates".

But to each their own. I think neither phrase is necessary tbh.

[WestIndianArchie]

If you didn't use a firm hand when she wasn't bleeding, how do you think she would react?

WIA

And don't pay attention to that weak attempt to troll.

[Shotgun Styles]

An anxious bitch is a dangerous bitch. If you play this game she will never relax, and thus never allow you to relax. If you constantly stretch a rubber band at some point it has to snap.

Mild and acute anxiety is a good thing. She should always be afraid to cross you. But constant and severe anxiety, as you're applying to her, is bound to lead to meltdowns. No one can just sit on edge at all times.

To me happiness is getting what I want with the least amount of drama. You've created a situation that will be necessarily dramatic. Rather than conditioning her to fear loss, condition her to fear YOU. She should tie her fear of loss to crossing or displeasing you. THAT will keep her motivated to please you, rather than wigging out all the time because she doesn't know what the hell you're all about.

There is such a thing as TOO MUCH mystery.

[Barron]

(12-10-2013 01:09 PM)Hoodlum Wrote:  

You "love the bitch" and yet you deliberately behave in a way designed to cause her emotional distress because you're worried your inherent value isn't high enough to keep her around by itself? Yeah, really sounds like you love her.

You need to grow up and learn how to have a relationship on adult terms.

Once you learn how to build/maintain female attraction and interest you will see that he is playing his cards correctly

[C2W]

Thanks all. I do track her cycle but it changes sometimes depending on where she is in her athletic training. I suppose I could pay more attention to other tells, but frankly this is getting to be a bit much.

@Shotgun, tell me more about switching dread of loss to fear of crossing me

[Thomas the Rhymer]

(12-10-2013 12:34 PM)C2W Wrote:  

I'm in a LTR and my most effective method for keeping things humming along is dread (entertaining flirtatious gestures, keeping casual acquaintances in higher orbit, disappearing and returning with a shrug). For 25 of 28 days this works well but there's always the PMS meltdown where my girl has huge insecurity issues.

So there is the inconvenience of it all. But also, I love the bitch and I don't want to see her this unhappy. Ideas? What do others do?

PMS meltdowns are a type of shit test.

My general attitude to a PMS meltdown: Raising an eyebrow, I say condescendingly, "It's that time of the month again, isn't it?" Then I carry on as if I hadn't heard a single thing she said.

She might raise a bit of a storm, but if you cannot handle the occasional huff and puff from a woman, then you shouldn't be going into an LTR in the first place. All women have an ugly melodramatic rude twin sister buried within their psyche that occasional lurches out to greet you.

[PompeyChris]

Relationship game isn't about being a cock at all times. Dread plays a part, but not constantly.

[The Beast1]

(12-13-2013 10:28 AM)Thomas the Rhymer Wrote:  

(12-10-2013 12:34 PM)C2W Wrote:  

I'm in a LTR and my most effective method for keeping things humming along is dread (entertaining flirtatious gestures, keeping casual acquaintances in higher orbit, disappearing and returning with a shrug). For 25 of 28 days this works well but there's always the PMS meltdown where my girl has huge insecurity issues.

So there is the inconvenience of it all. But also, I love the bitch and I don't want to see her this unhappy. Ideas? What do others do?

PMS meltdowns are a type of shit test.

My general attitude to a PMS meltdown: Raising an eyebrow, I say condescendingly, "It's that time of the month again, isn't it?" Then I carry on as if I hadn't heard a single thing she said.

She might raise a bit of a storm, but if you cannot handle the occasional huff and puff from a woman, then you shouldn't be going into an LTR in the first place. All women have an ugly melodramatic rude twin sister buried within their psyche that occasional lurches out to greet you.

This is good advice. Always view PMS meltdowns as a shit test. Agree & Amplify according or shut it down entirely.

On a side note, from my experience and because I don't like the feeling of jealousy myself so I feel a bit of guilt manipulating jealousy out of a partner.

Just left a 2 and a half year relationship. You should scale your use of dread.

What I mean is, keep the dread low and out of site for a while until you start seeing her getting compliant. By compliant I mean lazy, stopped cooking/cleaning, etc. Just the signs of when she is starting to feel like she can slip up and get away with it. Start doing the dread now and amp it up if it gets worse. Scale it back down when you start seeing her perk up again.

If you're good at reading her, which i assume you are, you can use this to control the level of drama you're comfortable with.