Wassup players
My question to you guys is this: how much do you trust and follow instinct (both female related and more general)?
With me, often times what happens is I will get a really clever, witty, innovative, interesting thing to say or do in my head. And at that moment it just SEEMS like the perfect thing I could say or do. But something (my introverted side perhaps?) often times stops me - then I give it a few more seconds of thought where I say to myself that saying that may not be a good idea, after which point I've lost the moment. If I do go ahead and say it after thinking, it can sound forced and untimely.
An example might be when I'm talking to a new chick and something suggestive and sexy comes to my mind to say (or make the move). But I notice that the longer I wait, the less of an effect it has, to the point where I start worrying that if I say that I'm coming off as creepy.
Another example which happened to me very recently might be me posting a funny video to a friends facebook wall - at the moment it just seems like the perfect thing to share, but the longer I wait and rethink my decision (what will my peers think, how many likes it will get, etc) the less likely I am to do it. Sometimes I will go ahead with the post after pondering it, but DELETE it afterwards because I get self-conscious about it. (In rereading this paragraph I realize how beta it may sound; nevertheless, such conflicts happen with me internally).
I guess I am coming to the conclusion that acting upon instincts is typically a good idea for me. The big drawback for me is I don't want to come off too strong/creepy/w.e else, or make an instinctual decision which turns out to be the wrong one. These hesitations prevent me from making the moves and saying the bold things that sound so good in my head at that moment.
I realize that there is always a balance - too much instinct and no thought can be detrimental, but for a naturally shy and timid guy like myself my over-thinking typically hurts me.
In a way, instinct and alpha are one and the same.
Anyone else experience similiar phenomena? Do you try to actively combat it (and if so, how)?
My question to you guys is this: how much do you trust and follow instinct (both female related and more general)?
With me, often times what happens is I will get a really clever, witty, innovative, interesting thing to say or do in my head. And at that moment it just SEEMS like the perfect thing I could say or do. But something (my introverted side perhaps?) often times stops me - then I give it a few more seconds of thought where I say to myself that saying that may not be a good idea, after which point I've lost the moment. If I do go ahead and say it after thinking, it can sound forced and untimely.
An example might be when I'm talking to a new chick and something suggestive and sexy comes to my mind to say (or make the move). But I notice that the longer I wait, the less of an effect it has, to the point where I start worrying that if I say that I'm coming off as creepy.
Another example which happened to me very recently might be me posting a funny video to a friends facebook wall - at the moment it just seems like the perfect thing to share, but the longer I wait and rethink my decision (what will my peers think, how many likes it will get, etc) the less likely I am to do it. Sometimes I will go ahead with the post after pondering it, but DELETE it afterwards because I get self-conscious about it. (In rereading this paragraph I realize how beta it may sound; nevertheless, such conflicts happen with me internally).
I guess I am coming to the conclusion that acting upon instincts is typically a good idea for me. The big drawback for me is I don't want to come off too strong/creepy/w.e else, or make an instinctual decision which turns out to be the wrong one. These hesitations prevent me from making the moves and saying the bold things that sound so good in my head at that moment.
I realize that there is always a balance - too much instinct and no thought can be detrimental, but for a naturally shy and timid guy like myself my over-thinking typically hurts me.
In a way, instinct and alpha are one and the same.
Anyone else experience similiar phenomena? Do you try to actively combat it (and if so, how)?