I don't think has been posted here before--certainly not as its own thread--but it's worth listening to. It's a complete evisceration of the silliness of the "teach men not rape" argument, the common belief that women bear no responsibility for their own safety, and the assumption that being drunk absolves women (but not men) of their behavior.
It's long, but it's worth listening/watching.
0:49 - "the largest straw man here is that we don't teach our children not to rape."
1:19 - "why do you put a lock on your front door when theft is against the law...why not teach your children not to steal?"
6:08 - "Drunk or not, you are responsible for your own actions...you cannot simply drive drunk...and say 'I wouldn't have driven that way when I was sober!'."
8:02 - "the statement implies that women have no agency of their own...no ability to effect the outcome by taking sensible precautions."
13:18 - "your choice of clothes is a statement about yourself"
13:37 - "if you dress and act erotically, if you put on the body-language of foreplay....but actually have no interest in such things, you are increasing the chances that someone will misread the signs as interest or sexual initiation."
16:30 - "the people who have badly scarred by such events are probably not the best people to give advice on such subjects."
16:53 - "telling young women that they should be paranoid that all men that they meet are potential rapists and should never be trusted is not something that is going to increase the number of [fulfilling relationships]."
It goes on like this.
It's long, but it's worth listening/watching.
0:49 - "the largest straw man here is that we don't teach our children not to rape."
1:19 - "why do you put a lock on your front door when theft is against the law...why not teach your children not to steal?"
6:08 - "Drunk or not, you are responsible for your own actions...you cannot simply drive drunk...and say 'I wouldn't have driven that way when I was sober!'."
8:02 - "the statement implies that women have no agency of their own...no ability to effect the outcome by taking sensible precautions."
13:18 - "your choice of clothes is a statement about yourself"
13:37 - "if you dress and act erotically, if you put on the body-language of foreplay....but actually have no interest in such things, you are increasing the chances that someone will misread the signs as interest or sexual initiation."
16:30 - "the people who have badly scarred by such events are probably not the best people to give advice on such subjects."
16:53 - "telling young women that they should be paranoid that all men that they meet are potential rapists and should never be trusted is not something that is going to increase the number of [fulfilling relationships]."
It goes on like this.