Quote: (11-29-2010 03:32 AM)oldnemesis Wrote:
Quote: (11-28-2010 09:01 PM)wolf Wrote:
I pretty much agree with most of your points. The problem is we can't go back, for various reasons( financial instability, crime, and etc.). You mentioned "to move again" I would like to hear more on that. What options are there?
The whole world is yours. However in my opinion before moving on it would be unwise to ignore the opportunities America provides. While here I would concentrate on the following:
1. Get into LTR. With an expat, of course, don't even consider other chicks. Even Asians - our cultures are very similar, but the lack of language will make it very difficult. LTRs are difficult enough to make them even harder.
Getting into LTR here is valuable because of three reasons. First, if you decide to move, for example, to Brazil, your options would be significantly more limited than here as there are likely less expats from your country. Second, if any of you have any immigration issues, you'll have enough time to have it fixed before moving. Third, it typically takes up to two years of living together to ensure you're compatible, and the earlier you start, the more you'll be able to try if needed.
2. Make money and contribute for your retirement. In America you would probably make more money than anywhere else (I assume you're here legally and do not have "issues" like H1B). By contributing to Social Security you also getting an option to receive retirement when you're old. Good if you don't need it, but if you do, it is a nice safety net. You won't live like a king, but you won't be starving either.
3. Work on your career, or on your business. Make sure your career/business is portable. If you're a software engineer, you can work anywhere in the world. Not so if you're a lawyer or a social worker. This is extremely important, as having a lot of skills and experience would make it significantly easier for you to get a job after move. If you choose the company wisely, you will also visit different countries as part of your work, not spending a cent of your money.
4. Travel. You have time and money. Investigate the countries, visa regime, language, weather, and work opportunities, and decide for yourself.
And, of course, game. I may be condemned for what I'm going to say, but my opinion so far is that you should not learn American-style game at all. Without cultural knowledge and your level of English you're five years below the weakest dude here, and spending five years just to get to his level is a complete waste of time. Do not try to copy other American players, in the best case you will look like you're trying too hard - but typically you'd look like a clown. Play European-style game, when you dress sharp, having fun and not approaching anyone. It is easier, it is more fun and while your overall "score" will be lower, being from Europe you should not be concerned about scoring as much as Americans are.
One thing you may want to do is to talk to girls from different countries, not with intention to bang them, but with intention to learn how the people live there. Tell her you consider moving in next N years, and want to learn more about her country. Once she understands you're genuinely trying to learn that, and not just using it as opener as most American guys would do, you'll very likely to at least get into her social circle, and to her bed as well.
I've been dating but the mistake I've been making is dating American women or Americanized foreigners. I've dated several foreign girls who knew their place but nothing LTR material yet. I have lived in the states for 16 years, so my cultural knowledge is good, I just have a hard time not throwing up in disgust. My English is better than my Russian, I don't even have an accent anymore. I think it would be to my benefit to improve my Russian, two of my friends are contemplating moving back, one already bought a place there.
I wouldn't have to think about scoring if I was scoring all the time, over there girls sleep with you just because, over here I don't know what the hell is going on, to me it's a big clusterfuck.