[Tamil]

Met a 26 year old Indo-Trinidadian daycare worker from OKCupid (7 years in Toronto - long enough to be Westernized - but still has a Trini accent).

1st Date (11/15): Meet at Starbucks, bounce to quiet pub, and then back to my car. Suck on her titties in the backseat before dropping her off at home. Tried to go back to her place (I live with my folks) but she didn't want a one night stand.

2nd Date (11/18): She texts me to come over to her place. Bang. No BJ.

3rd Date (11/22): Pick her up. Drive to an improv comedy show. Back to her place. While in bed she says she "just wants to be friends". Told her "I have enough friends." Bang. No BJ.

(11/26): Text her that I want to see her tonight. She texts me back saying "I'm not really in the mood for company right now.... Are you free Thursday? We could hang out." I text back "Sounds good. We'll hang out Thursday". Two hours later she texts me "Hey. What u up to?" Chatted on the phone for about a half hour (I initiated). She wanted to see Hunger Games 2 with me and planned a date/time.

4th Date: (11/28): Meet at a mall and watch to watch Hunger Games 2 (she bought the tix, I bought concessions). Drop her off at home. Hug goodbye. Wouldn't allow me in her home.

While in the car by her house last night she says she still wants to see me, but only as friends (not even friends with benefits). Looking back, I know where I went wrong - going on a high investment dates, paying for everything, spending hours on the phone sweet-talking, cuddling after sex and showing too much affection (she told me she wasn't used to guys sticking around in bed after sex).

I realize she may now perceive me as a needy beta compared to the dudes that pumped and dumped her in the past. That alpha veneer she perceived in me earlier is probably gone. And I know this girl is a bit of a fruit loop - reads erotica and her bookshelf is littered with self-help novels.

I'm not overly invested as I'm wheeling other girls, and she's always the one initiating "Hey how's your day going?" texts. Still, I already got a few pumps in and I want to keep this on tap as a continuous source of pussy.

Is there any way to salvage this? Or is this one as good as done?

[j r]

If a girl that you're already fucking says that she just wants to be friends, why would you say no? Sounds like she was down for the benefits, but you came across like you were pushing for a relationship?

This might be a case of you gaming yourself out of some pussy.

[Virtus]

Stop. Drop...

But yeah. You overpaywd for puasy. You be acting like a boyfriend but wanting to call it a fwb. Maybe she wants a dick only more than a timesink bf doing date stuff too.
Fwb dont go on dates much.

[Timoteo]

This chick sounds confused. Her confusing behavior confused you, causing you to act in a way that was possibly opposite of what she wanted from you. Typical. Since you already smashed, and hopefully smashed PROPERLY, all isn't lost. Disengage for a while, then come back at her again hard, on the booty-call tip. If she says no, don't bother with her again unless she initiates and asks you to come over.

[Glock]

Next.

[Parlay44]

(11-29-2013 12:58 PM)Consul Wrote:  

Next.

The less you care the better off you are. Next is right.

[Samseau]

"Girl won't fuck me anymore"

Fuck a different one

[Christian McQueen]

Who cares?

Spin plates and you'd be balls deep in another girl right now instead of posting this.

She sounds cunty. Next.

[DjembaDjemba]

Quote:

While in the car by her house last night she says she still wants to see me, but only as friends (not even friends with benefits). Looking back, I know where I went wrong - going on a high investment dates, paying for everything, spending hours on the phone sweet-talking, cuddling after sex and showing too much affection (she told me she wasn't used to guys sticking around in bed after sex).

Right here. I think between date 1 and date 4, too soon to be doing any of that.

Also keep in mind that OkCupid is also like a dick sampling event for women, she may have had more cock on the side than she can handle.

I would just say fuck it and keep on trucking man. Plenty of beautiful sexually promiscuous indo-trini girls in Toronto. I wouldn't contact her again.

[Tamil]

Thanks for the advice fellas.

I think this girl would've been content with me just coming over for sex. But then I acted too much like a boyfriend - taking her out, spending time on the phone with her, not leaving immediately after sex. It was probably too much too soon for a girl who's had guys fuck her and leave. She's probably not used to guys taking her out, picking her up and dropping her off at home, spending money on dates etc. She perceived my "niceness" for "weakness". Subconsciously this repelled her. Maybe this game would work on traditional women, not Westernized women.

I'll go no contact for a while. I won't initiate any texts. I'll respond to her texts so I don't appear butthurt). But I'll keep the text exchanges short. No more phone calls. And no more high-investment dates.

[Mr. Butterworth]

3 dates in 7 days

that's where you lost. those are "in a serious relationship" numbers

[Tamil]

Second date wasn't really a date. It was her inviting me over to fuck. But now she doesn't want to fuck. But I still want to fuck. Trying to figure out the best way to salvage this.

[WanderingSoul]

(11-29-2013 09:16 PM)Tamil Wrote:  

Second date wasn't really a date. It was her inviting me over to fuck. But now she doesn't want to fuck. But I still want to fuck. Trying to figure out the best way to salvage this.

Cut her off completely. Don't message her at all. Forget about her and go after new chicks. If she hits you up then maybe you can make something happen. If not, its a done deal. Move on.

[lavidaloca]

I'd give it some time, meet up with her, go cave man (assuming you've been somewhat beta and gentlemanly), fuck her and then leave afterwards. Assuming you fucked her right, you'll get a call or text pretty soon thereafter.

With that said, who cares. Fuck other girls in the mean time.

[Jazzman92]

http://forum.bodybuilding.com/showthread...=158579453

you either posted the same question on both forums or you're trolling. It tripped me out because I literally saw both threads within 20 seconds of each other.

[Emancipator]

(11-30-2013 12:05 AM)Jazzman92 Wrote:  

http://forum.bodybuilding.com/showthread...=158579453

you either posted the same question on both forums or you're trolling. It tripped me out because I literally saw both threads within 20 seconds of each other.

Tamil variant of the IRT/Game Denialist

Look at his bbforum posts: http://forum.bodybuilding.com/search.php...=410151723

A lot of Roosh and game hate.

His other threads here seem suspicious too.
Verdict? Troll

[CJ_W]

so yeah the guy got banned, and all but this is still some thing worth talking about.

Stop having so many damn dates right after another.

If you've banged her once, call her up a WEEK AFTER and invite her over.

She said "let's just be freinds" after you banged her. . .

meaning she wanted to BANG you repeatedly, NOT be her boyfreind.

You fked up good. Stop with the clingy relationship. boyfriendy nonsense.

[runsonmagic]

"Get more girls" - Jeffy Allen

[VincentVinturi]

How did you respond to her in the car when she brought up hanging out as friends?

Sometimes women brings this up because you did some beta shit by accident or maybe just because she feels the need to test you. And it can almost sound like she's asking you for permission i.e. "are you SURE you just want to keep banging me? You SURE you don't want to be just friends instead...?" If you know what I mean.

I had a girl I was seeing once come up to my place for a "serious talk" where she told me she either wanted to be exclusive with me or just friends. My choice. I admit I probably paid her too much attention and treated her to dinner a few times more than I should have. But the way she presented it was weak and I wasn't buying it. I sure as fuck wasn't going to let her switch us to an inferior arrangement on my watch.

I told her I'm not interested in either of those options and that if we aren't lovers, we aren't anything. Bye. She left angry and pouting. I didn't hear from her at all...for a week. And exactly 1 week later, she texts me and comes over to apologize profusely for her stupid, silly behavior. "What was I thinking?" There, there babe, allow me to soothe your aching heart by violating you now.

Point being, sometimes we do or say stupid or beta shit that neutralizes the sexual polarity you need for these kinds of fuck buddy arrangements to work well and for a long time. If things bleed into friendship or exclusivity, I try to reestablish that lovers dynamic immediately somehow, even if it means losing the girl. Which is fine, because I don't want her on those bogus terms anyway.