All my life I was the invisible guy who was either ignored or stepped over because I was too much of a doormat. The first time I had sex it was with one of the hottest girls in my dorm, and around that time I had been acting like the stereotypical nice guy. I figured that's how to get laid, so I acted like a gentleman to every girl I had an interest in, and it lead nowhere. I went 4 years between losing my virginity and having sex the next time.
I then entered into a long-term relationship and learned a bit about women, but when we split I tried to rebound by being a nice guy again. I delved REALLY far down into beta territory and it did me no favors. Then about 2 years ago I decided to try and re-program my brain in all aspects of life. I'd stop being a doormat and stand up for myself. The biggest step in this was kicking the pedestal out from women I meet, which is almost every guy's problem. I realized that girls put on a really nice face and attitude for the public, but deep down they're nothing special, and most of the time they're just horrible people. They're warm holes, that's it.
So I've been juggling between nice guy and aloof asshole game, trying to find a balance that works. The thing is my game is completely unpredictable. I ended up getting phone numbers easily, but that's no guarantee that they'll even talk to you, much less fuck you. Sometimes I'd get phone numbers from hot girls, then try and get one from a bottom of the barrel girl and get rejected. The first one night stand I had was with a beautiful foreign girl who I still see every time she visits my city. A week later I was rejected by a plain Jane who was a solid 5.
The worst is when things seem to be shaping up with a girl, then when I go in for a kiss or ask for their number I get rejected and they just disappear or go cold on me. The number thing was always baffling to me - I could have a girl grinding on me, touching me, getting close altogether, etc., then act offended when I try and get her number.
I know that all girls operate differently and your game has to be fluid to try and pick up different girls with different personalities. But it really is feast or famine for me - One week I had sex with 3 different girls, then I had a dry spell for a few months. When things seem to be going good they usually backfire, and when things are so-so is usually when things go in my favor. I can't predict what will happen.
Has anyone else ever experienced this? Do you have any tips for getting over this hump?
I then entered into a long-term relationship and learned a bit about women, but when we split I tried to rebound by being a nice guy again. I delved REALLY far down into beta territory and it did me no favors. Then about 2 years ago I decided to try and re-program my brain in all aspects of life. I'd stop being a doormat and stand up for myself. The biggest step in this was kicking the pedestal out from women I meet, which is almost every guy's problem. I realized that girls put on a really nice face and attitude for the public, but deep down they're nothing special, and most of the time they're just horrible people. They're warm holes, that's it.
So I've been juggling between nice guy and aloof asshole game, trying to find a balance that works. The thing is my game is completely unpredictable. I ended up getting phone numbers easily, but that's no guarantee that they'll even talk to you, much less fuck you. Sometimes I'd get phone numbers from hot girls, then try and get one from a bottom of the barrel girl and get rejected. The first one night stand I had was with a beautiful foreign girl who I still see every time she visits my city. A week later I was rejected by a plain Jane who was a solid 5.
The worst is when things seem to be shaping up with a girl, then when I go in for a kiss or ask for their number I get rejected and they just disappear or go cold on me. The number thing was always baffling to me - I could have a girl grinding on me, touching me, getting close altogether, etc., then act offended when I try and get her number.
I know that all girls operate differently and your game has to be fluid to try and pick up different girls with different personalities. But it really is feast or famine for me - One week I had sex with 3 different girls, then I had a dry spell for a few months. When things seem to be going good they usually backfire, and when things are so-so is usually when things go in my favor. I can't predict what will happen.
Has anyone else ever experienced this? Do you have any tips for getting over this hump?