Quote: (05-13-2016 08:08 PM)robreke Wrote:
If some random dude asks, in a group setting with girls around, your age, aside from the snarky "I'm as old as my hairstyle" How would you handle it?
When you say 'random dude' I am assuming you mean 'younger random dude'.
Nothing wrong with a snarky response if they are being snarky. Sometimes it is the best reply. Sometimes no reply is the best reply. Else, think on your feet and adjust accordingly.
Assuming that you are indeed talking about younger guys essentially 'testing' you, then that also should be dealt with as such. Obviously they don't give a shit how old you are and are looking for an in road to put you down, or give you the opportunity for you react the wrong way.
I've been in quite a few places where if you are a few years older, you will get outright overt hostility from younger males. I've been places where the little shits have been kicking me in the leg, and to react would have been invitation for a pile-on. So, I did not 'react the wrong way'. I walked away. No harm done.
That was in drunken places with loads of people, so no one really noticed. If you are at a table of friends and in a quiet environment (the most deadly social situation you can get), then it is a different ball game. Of course, don't 'react the wrong way'. Always keep your cool and composure, but most importantly of all, your sense of humour.
That doesn't mean being a clown, it means being able to respond so quickly at such a high level, that the next little young punk is going to think twice about testing you. Coz you might just make him look as much of a fool as the last person that tried it with you. Do it with good grace. It hurts harder. And that is what you want here: to drive the knife home deep and hard but with a sweet smile on your face.
Young lads will always test. Sometimes you have to give them their head. When you are at a table of ten of them, and you are in your mid 40's and they are all late teens, mid 20's, then you will get a heady mix of testosterone, shit talking and outright confrontation.
I've been there, at that table with a gorgeous blonde for example. She looked 24, but was nearly 50, I shit you not. All the young lads wanted to fuck her. But I was with her. So, I was the target. I was lucky not to get any outright nastiness, as we knew each other's friends mutually, but still, they shit tested me to the end.
The thing is, I let them get on with it. Why? Because the 'lady' I was with was absofuckinglutely lapping it up like the cat that got the cream. But I was the only one that was going to get her pussy later. To 'react the wrong way' at this point would have put paid to any chances I had. So this is what I did: I went along with it. I couldn't stop them. It wasn't threatening. I could have made excuses and left, but I dug in. Yes, I got a few knocks, but the fact I stood my ground around all these young bucks trying to knock me down, gave me a certain kudos.
In the end, they showed themselves up for the immature little pricks they were: "How big is his cock?", "Does he have a big prick then, if you're going out with him?". They not only tested me, but tested her. They kind of insulted her. But she didn't mind. Too busy lapping up the attention.
This is a specific use case and might be no good for you advice wise, and I'm sure going into other places 'cold' with young bucks would be very different.
Be flexible. Take the punches. Roll with them. Play with them. Earn the respect of the young bucks, not by confrontation with them, but by banter and indifference.
And never forget, young men are always looking to get the approval of older more mature males. Ok, not all, but a few. Just consider this as well. Strike up a relevant deep conversation for a few minutes (don't bore on) to show your value. In whatever field. Could even be fly-fishing. Martial Arts is a tricky one and not something I would try personally, but hey, if you can do that too, more power to your game.
Float like a butterfly, sting like a bee!
Always be worthy. Always be true to yourself. Know where it is safe to play whatever games you are playing.
Oh, and I don't know if I mentioned this, but if you are going into that arena with young hot heads who will say and do things even they regret the moment they have said and done them, 'Do Not React The Wrong Way'.
You win the begrudging respect of those young men, and you have more than won your fair lady. And the sex will be mind blowing as you fuck her later, and you know for a fact, she isn't thinking about you, but by being ravaged by all those young bucks at the table earlier. She will be a fucking animal.
That's the theory.
If you end up in hospital with a broken leg and three cracked ribs, don't come crying to me when the 'masterplan' didn't work!
I wish you well. Fortune, does indeed, favour the brave.
Just pick your battles well.