Quote: (12-04-2013 11:16 PM)ChiTown Wrote:
I wanted to revive this discussion and update with the prospects I had mentioned previously. It turns out that my intuitions were completely on target, and I successfully gamed one of two married women (the other one I have admittedly not put in as much effort for more complicated reasons that I will not get into.)
At any rate, I'm already beginning to notice that she's emotionally all over the place and possibly even enamored with me. She's constantly sending texts while at work, and while we do actually have a striking intellectual connection on many topics (shocking, right?), I'm really not enjoying that the fun of this is beginning to be converted into some sort of clinginess.
Has anyone else ever experienced this in a similar situation? I'm hesitant to say it might be time to consider jumping ship, but the last thing I want to deal with is any possibility of craziness either. Thoughts from the wise?
BRO! Story of my life. Happening to me right now. It's insanity.
I have developed this theory, and I am finding constant reassurance that I am correct about it. Of course, I might be searching for confirmation of my bias. Of course this is a dirty generalization, but i've been noticing this pattern often:
Girls go in a full circle in dating life. When they are young, they are conditioned to believe in love. That prince charming is going to come and rescue her from all her problems and take her to his kingdom. As young girls, they tend to get very picky and mostly date guys they "fall in love with", especially, attractive girls. They become attracted, have passion, romance, emotional and intellectual connection with those guys. At certain age, when girls' market value starts to plummet, they realise that those perfect guys they are seeing 'aint' going to marry them. Essentially, desirable guys move onto younger girls leaving older ones behind. Those guys were never going to give them family. Slowly, girls start to pay attention to the "nerds and dorks" that, instead of chasing tail, studied and got their career advanced. Those guys are ready and willing to settle with any pretty girl that likes them back. They settle into the comfortable passionless marriage and pop out few kids down the road. The marriage is financially secure and they are certain husbands aren't cheating on them. Ironically, the nature kicks in and those wives start to miss what they truly wanted. Not being appreciated by their husbands (when marriage starts to go stale), they end up with guys like us. Essentially, guys that can give them a striking romantic passion, connect emotionally and intellectually. In a lot of cases, women leave their husbands for a guy like that. So it becomes a full circle for them. They start with passion, end up in shitty marriage, end return back to what's only natural. Because, "I tell you h'what!", those husbands aren't giving them the full range of emotions like we can.
While most men got married early, we spent years, decades, honing our skills with women. I've observed this mostly in my home country (UA), but also have few stories like this from the States.