Quote: (11-02-2013 02:25 PM)basilransom Wrote:
I could be wrong. But men's rights sells a message of victimhood that will never appeal to the masses of men. Certainly not the masculine men that ROK targets.
I'll quote you Basil, but I'm responding to the last few comments, and these are just my own thoughts on the matter, I'm not really directing this at anyone in particular.
It's not that I disagree with you guys, but there's a difference between acknowledging legitimate victimization, and building an identity as a victim. The former is functional, the latter is dysfunctional.
The fact is that I am not a victim, I lead a very comfortable life, but I'm acutely aware of how easily I can get completely fucked over by women and the Canadian legal system. As such I navigate those boundaries. I'm sure it's much the same for you. That doesn't mean I can't also complain about those boundaries.
And frankly, some guys aren't so lucky. Some dude who had plans for his life but has instead been reduced to living in a Ford Pinto down by the river when he isn't in jail because of ludicrous child support/alimony payments is a victim.
He is a victim.
And his victimization is made more severe by the total indifference he finds. Women don't give a shit about him, you can be sure of that; as far as they're concerned he's just an ATM. And other men? Well, if they're more interested in proving that they're masculine, then I can't really say that they give much of a shit either.
I understand this drive among men to redefine what is masculine without giving a shit what feminists and manginas think. And I'm 100% behind it, believe me.
But as far as I'm concerned, there is a major qualification for owning your own masculine identity, and that is being able to define it on your own terms without requiring that someone else validate it.
If you're constructing a masculine identity that precludes you from being able to admit that men are victimized in this society, or being able to admit that you personally have been victimized by this society, then is your identity therefore not constrained by someone else's definition of what is masculine? If so, you don't really own your masculine identity, somebody else does, and you're just borrowing it.
Having said that, I agree with Consul that MRAs have a limited strategy. I also think it's a vitally important strategy. It's just that they're appealing to a societal masculine identity that's far too tied up with sexual validation to be heard.
Consider Athlone's last post on RoK. Those "men" will do anything for female validation, literally anything. They'll throw MRAs under the bus no matter how unjust the system is, just like a parched man in the desert will do anything for water.
If there is a goal in the manosphere, it must be to change the culture, and the place to start is by addressing the problems with masculine identity (specifically the mangina problem). This is why I think game culture and MGTOW are so important (in addition to what MRAs are doing).
In effect, they're just different platforms for guys to start listening to what is essentially the same message.