It's just her philosophy. She's going to bang on the side. "I didn't know if you were serious, I thought it was just sex." Some women would respond to that by asking if it's serious or pushing for serious, she responded with strange cock. I think she'd lie to you in response to 1 and 2, so you're really just left with 3.
Getting a girl to be exclusive with you
Quote: (08-18-2014 11:22 AM)Catch 22 Wrote:
It's just her philosophy. She's going to bang on the side. "I didn't know if you were serious, I thought it was just sex." Some women would respond to that by asking if it's serious or pushing for serious, she responded with strange cock. I think she'd lie to you in response to 1 and 2, so you're really just left with 3.
Not quite sure what you're referring to with "1, 2 and 3" I don't number anything like that in my post. Also...it hasn't been confirmed if she's responded with strange cock as you put it. Is that just a supposition on your part?
for what it's worth, my main concern is that her phone is often blowing up. I know it's other guys. She said last time " coming out of the woodwork" I asked what she meant and she said it was guys she used to date texting her out of the blue. Not sure I believe it.
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When you bang a woman that hasn't had cock in a while, you can usually tell.
If you can't, there's a good chance she's had some recent cock.
I agree with the others that you might want to be more selective about who you seek exclusivity with. Not that I can really talk. It does sometimes seem like all chicks are constantly getting banged, but you run across girls sometimes that aren't.
Most of us just tend to end up with the easier ones because, well, they're easier.
If you can't, there's a good chance she's had some recent cock.
I agree with the others that you might want to be more selective about who you seek exclusivity with. Not that I can really talk. It does sometimes seem like all chicks are constantly getting banged, but you run across girls sometimes that aren't.
Most of us just tend to end up with the easier ones because, well, they're easier.
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"The individual has always had to struggle to keep from being overwhelmed by the tribe.
To be your own man is a hard business. If you try it, you'll be lonely often, and sometimes
frightened. But no price is too high to pay for the privilege of owning yourself." - Kipling
"The individual has always had to struggle to keep from being overwhelmed by the tribe.
To be your own man is a hard business. If you try it, you'll be lonely often, and sometimes
frightened. But no price is too high to pay for the privilege of owning yourself." - Kipling
I actually got put in a good position, we banged for months on end, I think she thought it was exclusive, here's why.
I end up matching with her friend of a friend on tinder. She calls me out, I deny till I die, tell her it's some crazy ex trying to ruin my life. She brings up the "well what are we question".
So she brought it up first, of course I told her there was no way I'd make a decision given the fact you just tried and called me out. Now the ball is in my court and it's generally accepted by both of us we're in a LTR (I'm not quite committed since I do my own thing on the side)
I end up matching with her friend of a friend on tinder. She calls me out, I deny till I die, tell her it's some crazy ex trying to ruin my life. She brings up the "well what are we question".
So she brought it up first, of course I told her there was no way I'd make a decision given the fact you just tried and called me out. Now the ball is in my court and it's generally accepted by both of us we're in a LTR (I'm not quite committed since I do my own thing on the side)
Quote: (08-17-2014 08:41 PM)robreke Wrote:
I'm thinking about asking this (quite a bit) younger woman I've been seeing and banging a few months for exclusivity. More because I just don't want her banging or dating other dudes. I like her and don't like the thought of her getting with other guys if she's getting with me.
1) You should never be the first to ask about exclusivity, just like you should never be the first to say "I love you." It should be the woman's job to try to lock you down:
http://heartiste.wordpress.com/2011/05/0...ationship/
2) You need to accept the fact that 90%+ of women will be seeing and fucking other guys while you're fucking them. That's simply the way it works these days. Just assume she's fucking other dudes and get over it.
3) What's the best way to get her to become exclusive with you? Simple, instill dread and get her to chase you. Pull away from her, be less available than she is, date and fuck other women. Every once in a while mix in a spontaneous gesture of affection; on the other hand occasionally go for days of radio silence. If she's really into you eventually she will try to get you to become exclusive because she'll want you for herself. Incite her jealousy rather than letting her incite yours.
The proper mindset is not to wonder about how to get a girl to be exclusive; it's to focus on finding a girl you like who wants to be exclusive with you of her own accord.
No offense, but it sounds like you still get worked up over too much. You, usually, aren't going to be a girls first or her last. Wanting to chop your dick off because some other dude was boning someone is a bit extreme.
If a girl's banging multiple dudes don't get in a relationship. You can still plow her, but there's no reason to get worked up.
If a girl's banging multiple dudes don't get in a relationship. You can still plow her, but there's no reason to get worked up.
Quote: (08-18-2014 09:16 AM)robreke Wrote:
Quote: (08-18-2014 05:14 AM)Foolsgo1d Wrote:
Better question. Why do you want something exclusive with a girl who is hedging her bets with 2 or more guys with sex going on? Raw dogging too.
You really want to have her exclusive with you? Or are you hoping to lock her down in a harem and fuck other girls?
I want her to be exclusive with me, but I want to occasionally date other girls. I just don't like the thought of banging girls ( especially those I'm starting to like ) who are banging other guys while I'm banging them. A bit hypocritical I know...but just the way I want it.
there were dicks in that pussy before you and there will be dicks in that pussy after you.
if she is banging other dudes and you dont like it then bang her better and be a better man.
i've noticed most women, if they think they've found a catch, will hampster anything to make it ok for them, including you banging other chicks.
Quote: (08-18-2014 01:44 PM)reaper23 Wrote:
i've noticed most women, if they think they've found a catch, will hampster anything to make it ok for them, including you banging other chicks.
Very true. If you have one that wants to lock you down, there is very little you can do wrong if you keep your frame.
But you must be her best option.
The moment you stop doing that is when ANY woman will leave you.
Every girl worth dating exclusively is going to make it abundantly clear to you that she wants a real relationship.
If you have to do any explicit or implicit "convincing" it's just not gonna work.
Just by going out with a girl a few times it should be abundantly clear if she wants to be your girlfriend or not based on what kind of a person she is.
In choosing a girlfriend it is very important not to choose a girl who is not ready willing and motivated to be faithful. You can certainly make a ho your "girlfriend" but you know what will happen in the end.
If you have to do any explicit or implicit "convincing" it's just not gonna work.
Just by going out with a girl a few times it should be abundantly clear if she wants to be your girlfriend or not based on what kind of a person she is.
In choosing a girlfriend it is very important not to choose a girl who is not ready willing and motivated to be faithful. You can certainly make a ho your "girlfriend" but you know what will happen in the end.
Do not "try" to make her exclusive. It will just lower her attraction to you.
If she's attracted to you enough, she will already be exclusive, or she will just bang other guys in a casual way, while she wants you the most.
If she's naturally insecure or into open relationships, you're not going to stop that. Trying to stop it, in any explicit way, will just make things worse.
In a perfect world, I would be polygynous, and have a harem of girls who just bang me. But that's not realistic, at least not in the United States. I've moved into a pattern where I bang lots of girls, and I don't ask or care who they bang. I can tell who likes me the most and who likes me the least. They don't pressure me and I don't pressure them, and we have a good time together.
If she's attracted to you enough, she will already be exclusive, or she will just bang other guys in a casual way, while she wants you the most.
If she's naturally insecure or into open relationships, you're not going to stop that. Trying to stop it, in any explicit way, will just make things worse.
In a perfect world, I would be polygynous, and have a harem of girls who just bang me. But that's not realistic, at least not in the United States. I've moved into a pattern where I bang lots of girls, and I don't ask or care who they bang. I can tell who likes me the most and who likes me the least. They don't pressure me and I don't pressure them, and we have a good time together.
Quote: (08-18-2014 04:16 PM)Sonsowey Wrote:
Every girl worth dating exclusively is going to make it abundantly clear to you that she wants a real relationship.
If you have to do any explicit or implicit "convincing" it's just not gonna work.
Just by going out with a girl a few times it should be abundantly clear if she wants to be your girlfriend or not based on what kind of a person she is.
In choosing a girlfriend it is very important not to choose a girl who is not ready willing and motivated to be faithful. You can certainly make a ho your "girlfriend" but you know what will happen in the end.
It may be that she is making it clear and I'm missing signals. Our last date, she said "do you want to tell me something?" as we laid there. Also..she told me several times that night "I like you" "I told my friend I like you a lot"....etc. She also said " maybe we can start doing things with my friends sometimes....like meeting them out and going to dinner"
she went to see her family about 2 hours away this weekend and texted yesterday some blather. When I asked to see her this week she said ok...I'll let you know when I get back. She doesn't text every day... but a few times a week. Same with me. we also see each other a few times a week.
But...the above stuff she said could be indicative of her wanting exclusivity perhaps.
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i used to bang my neighbor.
for a while i was under the impression i was the only one she was letting hit it.
she also allowed me to rawdog the first time we hooked up.
for several months i dont think she was fucking someone else.
then we took a break from each other -> one month later i hit it raw... fastforward 1 week and she tells me she tested positive for the clap. i felt foolish for not rapping it up after our break from each other.
good looking chicks always have options.
always.
thnkfully i tested negative.
not sure how i dodged that bullet.
nonetheless, i feel how OP was feeling.
disgusted.
i cut her off right then and there.
she's still my neighbor, but i wont be intimate with her.
i was smashing it consistently for over a year without being exclusive.
just have to handle your emotions OP.
wrap it up and don't expect anything from her.
for a while i was under the impression i was the only one she was letting hit it.
she also allowed me to rawdog the first time we hooked up.
for several months i dont think she was fucking someone else.
then we took a break from each other -> one month later i hit it raw... fastforward 1 week and she tells me she tested positive for the clap. i felt foolish for not rapping it up after our break from each other.
good looking chicks always have options.
always.
thnkfully i tested negative.
not sure how i dodged that bullet.
nonetheless, i feel how OP was feeling.
disgusted.
i cut her off right then and there.
she's still my neighbor, but i wont be intimate with her.
i was smashing it consistently for over a year without being exclusive.
just have to handle your emotions OP.
wrap it up and don't expect anything from her.
Quote: (08-18-2014 12:24 PM)robreke Wrote:
Quote: (08-18-2014 11:22 AM)Catch 22 Wrote:
It's just her philosophy. She's going to bang on the side. "I didn't know if you were serious, I thought it was just sex." Some women would respond to that by asking if it's serious or pushing for serious, she responded with strange cock. I think she'd lie to you in response to 1 and 2, so you're really just left with 3.
Not quite sure what you're referring to with "1, 2 and 3" I don't number anything like that in my post. Also...it hasn't been confirmed if she's responded with strange cock as you put it. Is that just a supposition on your part?
for what it's worth, my main concern is that her phone is often blowing up. I know it's other guys. She said last time " coming out of the woodwork" I asked what she meant and she said it was guys she used to date texting her out of the blue. Not sure I believe it.
I found out she was seeing another guy on the side casually back when I ran into her, and continued to do so for 3 weeks after we met
#1: First date, the same date you make it out with her. You tell her you expect her to be exclusive.
#2: After you bang her the first time, before she leaves your pad or you leave hers. You ask "are you seeing anyone regularly" giving her a chance to say no, then you say "If we're going to do this again, I don't want anyone else in the picture".
#3: Don't. Give. A. Shit. Be mentally prepared to accept you're probably banging a slut (you are banging her, after all), so you can just not care and jack-hammer away. Instead, expect your complete indifference to be the primus motor for her falling head over heals in love you, you alpha-dog.
Quote: (08-18-2014 04:06 PM)Dagnasty Wrote:
Quote: (08-18-2014 01:44 PM)reaper23 Wrote:
i've noticed most women, if they think they've found a catch, will hampster anything to make it ok for them, including you banging other chicks.
Very true. If you have one that wants to lock you down, there is very little you can do wrong if you keep your frame.
But you must be her best option.
The moment you stop doing that is when ANY woman will leave you.
i have experienced this in my past. i've lost control in a relationship when i got lazy in many different ways. complacent. and then its over.
part of red pill acceptance is realizing the fight against hypergamy is never ending / competition with other men is always real and always happening.
until you internalize it, it can be exhausting.
you must always be the best option you can possibly be.
Quote: (08-18-2014 06:58 PM)robreke Wrote:
It may be that she is making it clear and I'm missing signals.
I mean, just ask yourself in your gut.
Do you believe she wants to be exclusive with you.
Or do you think she doesn't?
Whatever your gut says is probably right.
If you're worrying that she doesn't want to be exclusive, likely she doesn't.
As others have said, you can't ask a girl to be exclusive with you. Her actions (not her words) will show you if she is or is not.
If this girl is banging other guys and also banging you, then she is by definition not material for any kind of exclusivity with you, ever.
Note that very few girls are actually exclusive material at all. That's life.
If this girl is banging other guys and also banging you, then she is by definition not material for any kind of exclusivity with you, ever.
Note that very few girls are actually exclusive material at all. That's life.
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