One of the things that trips up guys is pedestalizing a girl they're interested in. In their minds the girls can do no wrong, say no wrong, and if you don't see her very often you might even imagine her as being better than she really is.
What most guys don't realize is that nobody's perfect. In fact, most young girls are bigger slobs than guys, and a majority of them barely have their shit together. I realized this during my freshman year at college. Hands down the girls had the messier rooms. You couldn't even take a step without trying to avoid garbage or underwear all over the floor.
But I still idealized girls to a huge extent. The first girl I ever banged is still the second best looking girl I've ever been with. She was 18, had a great body, natural beauty, etc. But one day while playing with her tits I noticed a hair was growing out of her nipple. A couple years back I was with a girl and we were in the missionary position, but I was holding her legs up in the air. And HOLY SHIT did her feet fucking stink. They weren't even that close to my face and I could still smell them. The girl I was in a relationship with the longest was sweet and demure and kind in the beginning, and then I realized she was unable to take care of herself. Her apartment was a constant mess, so much so that she basically had an algae ecosystem living in her sink and had rotting food fall underneath her bed that she just left there. And these were all normal, cute girls you wouldn't expect this from.
Even the extremely gorgeous girls have their flaws. About a year ago I had my first same-night lay with the best looking girl I've ever been with (I'd say 8.5). She wasn't thin but she had curves in all the right places. She and I talked about exercising and she said she did yoga 4 times a week (And still maintains that). She lives in another city and I never see her, but we're friends on Facebook. Today she uploaded a new profile photo which prompted me to make this thread. The yoga thing must be bullshit, because she went from curvy in the right places to just being round with no tone in about a year's time. I can tell it was from drinking and partying too much, as party girl weight gains usually affect the body differently than food weight gains. But here was this girl I was obsessed with for a while after our bang and had idealized to an unhealthy degree basically deteriorating in this photo. You don't think that a gorgeous girl has the capacity to lose her looks, but it's really a simple matter of an extra drink here or a bowl of ice cream there that can cause a downward spiral. If this keeps up then it may be possible that I had her right before he looks took a humongous nosedive for the worst.
So guys, remember that no girl is perfect. When you're talking to a gorgeous girl try and pick out her flaws and focus on them as reason to not be intimidated. If she wears a lot of perfume it's probably because she has B.O. If she wears make-up it's probably to cover up flaws (Or maybe she's really ugly underneath it all).
What most guys don't realize is that nobody's perfect. In fact, most young girls are bigger slobs than guys, and a majority of them barely have their shit together. I realized this during my freshman year at college. Hands down the girls had the messier rooms. You couldn't even take a step without trying to avoid garbage or underwear all over the floor.
But I still idealized girls to a huge extent. The first girl I ever banged is still the second best looking girl I've ever been with. She was 18, had a great body, natural beauty, etc. But one day while playing with her tits I noticed a hair was growing out of her nipple. A couple years back I was with a girl and we were in the missionary position, but I was holding her legs up in the air. And HOLY SHIT did her feet fucking stink. They weren't even that close to my face and I could still smell them. The girl I was in a relationship with the longest was sweet and demure and kind in the beginning, and then I realized she was unable to take care of herself. Her apartment was a constant mess, so much so that she basically had an algae ecosystem living in her sink and had rotting food fall underneath her bed that she just left there. And these were all normal, cute girls you wouldn't expect this from.
Even the extremely gorgeous girls have their flaws. About a year ago I had my first same-night lay with the best looking girl I've ever been with (I'd say 8.5). She wasn't thin but she had curves in all the right places. She and I talked about exercising and she said she did yoga 4 times a week (And still maintains that). She lives in another city and I never see her, but we're friends on Facebook. Today she uploaded a new profile photo which prompted me to make this thread. The yoga thing must be bullshit, because she went from curvy in the right places to just being round with no tone in about a year's time. I can tell it was from drinking and partying too much, as party girl weight gains usually affect the body differently than food weight gains. But here was this girl I was obsessed with for a while after our bang and had idealized to an unhealthy degree basically deteriorating in this photo. You don't think that a gorgeous girl has the capacity to lose her looks, but it's really a simple matter of an extra drink here or a bowl of ice cream there that can cause a downward spiral. If this keeps up then it may be possible that I had her right before he looks took a humongous nosedive for the worst.
So guys, remember that no girl is perfect. When you're talking to a gorgeous girl try and pick out her flaws and focus on them as reason to not be intimidated. If she wears a lot of perfume it's probably because she has B.O. If she wears make-up it's probably to cover up flaws (Or maybe she's really ugly underneath it all).