[MisterSSW4]

I think this is a newbie topic, albeit its just a question.

So, as the thread title says, when do you (in general) stop pursuing a target/girl. This is not about any situation in particular, but I'm interested to know other peoples take on this point.

To make it simpler to understand, if you went to meet a girl and she flaked towards the end, how long do you continue to pursue her until you give up?
Do you keep trying if shes a 9 or a 10, or is it the same 'rule of thumb' whereby you just don't bother after a week or so.

For me, personally I get bored and impatient incredibly easily. If a girl flakes, or is incredibly boring through phone or texts, I usually don't bother. I keep them warm and green by sending them the odd "hi hows things" now and again.

[roberto]

(10-21-2013 01:34 PM)MisterSSW4 Wrote:  

I keep them warm and green by sending them the odd "hi hows things" now and again.

That can be tricky to do without appearing needy IME.

[amity]

I think it's all about how she behaves after the flake
If she flakes one time, and offers to reschedule, then you're still good, her flake may have been for a genuine reason
If she flakes and no genuine apology or suggestions of when you can reschedule to, then this chick is not worth your time or energy
And if she's a 9 or 10, i'd say it's almost definitely a lost cause, as these broads have guys throwing themselves at them every single day
I think as well, there has to be some IOIs from the woman, if not then you really are wasting your time
One example of an IOI is does she initiate contact at least some of the time? if not, forget her
But if yes, then she is worth keeping on your list of 'potentials'
I've been using this policy lately with a sexy little thing I used to bang years ago, she had a relationship or two since then, but she told me recently that she's more or less had it with her latest man and she's back on the market again
This has coincided with her getting in touch more and has been initiating at least 50% of the contact, so I've chalked her down as a 'potential'

[WestIndianArchie]

If we're talking about the first time you lay eyes on her
- venue is packed - 3 minutes after a solid approach, will "ping" her later
- venue is sparse - 10 minutes

After a phone # is given, but before a meet up
- 3 good attempts
- after that text blast status, no active inquiries

After a meet up, but no sex
- 2 more meet ups
- text blast status afterwards

Basically you do your best, 2-3 times, and if she doesn't go for it, let your automation take over.

You'll reel in some stragglers and chicks on the fence.

What you don't do is facebook stalk her, read her tweets, and spend any time thinking of what could have been, If only I had just...

WIA

[iknowexactly]

Before you ever meet her. Women exist to serve you, and are to be enjoyed as objects, not focused on like real productive activity.

Just exaggerating to make a point. WIA has the correct tech advice above.

[EisenBarde]

I have a lot of acquaintances that I give one way contact to see who pops out of the woodwork when I send the same general invitation to dozens of people.

I don't see asking people to hang out as needy when whether or not they show up is of no major importance to me.

With people who rsvp and don't show, 3 strikes and they're off the list.

With people who flake on a 1 on 1 thing, they need to do something really nice for me or they are dead to me.

You lose surprisingly few friends when you stick to a system like this if you provide value to other people's lives. The cream rises to the top and I have buddies who I haven't seen in 6 months that will do crazy fun shit with me at the drop of a hat if they are free.

[MisterSSW4]

(10-21-2013 04:16 PM)roberto Wrote:  

(10-21-2013 01:34 PM)MisterSSW4 Wrote:  

I keep them warm and green by sending them the odd "hi hows things" now and again.

That can be tricky to do without appearing needy IME.

Yeah I would only use that approach with Green girls, usually ones that I have ignored multiple messages from in the past.

(10-21-2013 11:53 PM)WestIndianArchie Wrote:  

If we're talking about the first time you lay eyes on her
- venue is packed - 3 minutes after a solid approach, will "ping" her later
- venue is sparse - 10 minutes

After a phone # is given, but before a meet up
- 3 good attempts
- after that text blast status, no active inquiries

After a meet up, but no sex
- 2 more meet ups
- text blast status afterwards

Basically you do your best, 2-3 times, and if she doesn't go for it, let your automation take over.

You'll reel in some stragglers and chicks on the fence.

What you don't do is facebook stalk her, read her tweets, and spend any time thinking of what could have been, If only I had just...

WIA

Text Blast Status? What's that?

[WestIndianArchie]

(10-23-2013 03:16 PM)MisterSSW4 Wrote:  

Text Blast Status? What's that?

When the GAP sends out a million emails about a sale their having, a small percentage of people click through to the website, and a percentage of them buy some new clothes.

With regard to pick up, you're going to rack up #'s that don't pan out.

Put them in a list.

Periodically send a generic, "Hey, what's up, this is Mister SSW4, we're gonna be at *insert some fun activity* you should come through*

Call it club promoter game if you want, but basically all those random chicks who were too busy getting fucked by other guys or doing their nails, might be interested enough to hang out.

The key here is not the message, not showing that you have a cool life - but for your purposes, you're putting in very little effort to take another swing at chicks that you want to fuck.

You'll pick up a few stragglers that way, and you won't have to do any extra effort.

WIA

[MisterSSW4]

(10-23-2013 03:46 PM)WestIndianArchie Wrote:  

(10-23-2013 03:16 PM)MisterSSW4 Wrote:  

Text Blast Status? What's that?

When the GAP sends out a million emails about a sale their having, a small percentage of people click through to the website, and a percentage of them buy some new clothes.

With regard to pick up, you're going to rack up #'s that don't pan out.

Put them in a list.

Periodically send a generic, "Hey, what's up, this is Mister SSW4, we're gonna be at *insert some fun activity* you should come through*

Call it club promoter game if you want, but basically all those random chicks who were too busy getting fucked by other guys or doing their nails, might be interested enough to hang out.

The key here is not the message, not showing that you have a cool life - but for your purposes, you're putting in very little effort to take another swing at chicks that you want to fuck.

You'll pick up a few stragglers that way, and you won't have to do any extra effort.

WIA

Oh ok! I know of that, I do that a lot haha.

Just wasn't familiar with the term, although I need to be smarter with it as I generally seem to send that text at peak times where some girls double think I am just doing it due to not having a hook up that night. But good call!