Maybe some of you guys are familiar with this terminology, but I was introduced to it by poster here in the game section of RVF (can't remember which one), green light, yellow light, and red light women.
Red and green are pretty obvious, a red light woman makes it obvious she isn't into you either by flat out rejecting you, or not making eye contact, giving you short answers, not engaging in conversation, and basically trying to ignore you.
Meanwhile green light women are the opposite, they make their interest in you very clear and give you all the cues that they want you to engage them or escalate with them. Obvious green light girls will approach you, give you strong extended eye contact with a smile, they will touch you, they will make their interest clear by flirting.
The tough ones are the yellow light girls, these are the ones that I get caught up on and struggle to convert. I noticed a trend at the end of the summer when I was going out more often that I was approaching and hooking a lot of yellow light girls, only to get caught in a sort of purgatory, where it appeared that I was making progress, only to find out there was no light at the end of the tunnel so to speak.
I'd describe yellow light girls as being interested in you, but in a neutral not fully sexual kind of a way (at least not initially). Yellow light girls will indulge your approach, they will "hook into conversation", they will seem interested by maintaining eye contact, and asking questions about you, etc. They will even pass a pretty big "compliance test" and bounce with you to a quieter more isolated part of the bar for deeper conversation, or leave and go to a different spot all together.
It often seems on the surface that they are interested, but it's somewhat ambiguous, and not fully clear like a "green light" which makes her interest clear though touching, dancing, body language, flirting, and sexual innuendos and "hints".
So I got to thinking and was wracking my brain for why it was the yellow lights weren't turning green, and what the main difference between the two were, and I came to the conclusion that the biggest difference were between the body language and the touching that occurs or doesn't occur.
Basically the yellow light girls would hold eye contact, ask questions, engage in conversation, and allow me to touch them, but rarely would they reciprocate the body language and touching that I was displaying and engaging in.
Wheras, the green lights would reciprocate with "open body language", when I say open body language, when I leaned into them, when I turned my body in to face theirs, when I initiated touching them on their arm, back, or thigh, did they simply allow me to touch them, or did they respond in like to touch me back?
The green lights would always lean in close to me, even pressing themselves up against me, they would never be "angled off" when standing talking to me, or sitting down next to me. They would reciprocate my touching them, by touching my arms, chest, abs, etc.
These may sound like common sense things, and if you were able to go outside of yourself, outside of your body and observe these interactions it may appear obvious, but I feel sometimes when drinking at a bar full of people, we aren't always fully aware of the subtleties of interaction.
So from now on if I'm 15-20 minutes into a conversation with a chick and I feel I'm at a yellow light, I will start to look to see how she reacts to my touching her, I will evaluate her body language, how she is standing and sitting, etc. I will gauge how intense her gaze and eye contact is, and will determine if there is any sexual desire behind it.
Aside from these things I will work harder to "sexualize" conversation and flirting even if it is more subtle though innuendo. Through making the conversation more sexual I will evaluate how the girl responds or doesn't respond.
The best test to see if a yellow light will turn green is to escalate. I am a believer that sometimes a bit of comfort and rapport needs to be developed and it's not good to press to hard and escalate too fast, unless you are getting all the cues and IOIs that a woman will respond well to that. Therefore a lot of times I held back escalating, but yet in reality in a few instances I may have waited too long. The simplest way to save yourself the time and energy investment in a yellow light is to escalate.
This turned out to be a pretty long winded post, and maybe a little bit over analyzed or intellectualized, but I'd be interested to hear if anyone has any constructive feedback or insight into yellow light women. What do you do when you hit a yellow light that doesn't seem to turn green?
Red and green are pretty obvious, a red light woman makes it obvious she isn't into you either by flat out rejecting you, or not making eye contact, giving you short answers, not engaging in conversation, and basically trying to ignore you.
Meanwhile green light women are the opposite, they make their interest in you very clear and give you all the cues that they want you to engage them or escalate with them. Obvious green light girls will approach you, give you strong extended eye contact with a smile, they will touch you, they will make their interest clear by flirting.
The tough ones are the yellow light girls, these are the ones that I get caught up on and struggle to convert. I noticed a trend at the end of the summer when I was going out more often that I was approaching and hooking a lot of yellow light girls, only to get caught in a sort of purgatory, where it appeared that I was making progress, only to find out there was no light at the end of the tunnel so to speak.
I'd describe yellow light girls as being interested in you, but in a neutral not fully sexual kind of a way (at least not initially). Yellow light girls will indulge your approach, they will "hook into conversation", they will seem interested by maintaining eye contact, and asking questions about you, etc. They will even pass a pretty big "compliance test" and bounce with you to a quieter more isolated part of the bar for deeper conversation, or leave and go to a different spot all together.
It often seems on the surface that they are interested, but it's somewhat ambiguous, and not fully clear like a "green light" which makes her interest clear though touching, dancing, body language, flirting, and sexual innuendos and "hints".
So I got to thinking and was wracking my brain for why it was the yellow lights weren't turning green, and what the main difference between the two were, and I came to the conclusion that the biggest difference were between the body language and the touching that occurs or doesn't occur.
Basically the yellow light girls would hold eye contact, ask questions, engage in conversation, and allow me to touch them, but rarely would they reciprocate the body language and touching that I was displaying and engaging in.
Wheras, the green lights would reciprocate with "open body language", when I say open body language, when I leaned into them, when I turned my body in to face theirs, when I initiated touching them on their arm, back, or thigh, did they simply allow me to touch them, or did they respond in like to touch me back?
The green lights would always lean in close to me, even pressing themselves up against me, they would never be "angled off" when standing talking to me, or sitting down next to me. They would reciprocate my touching them, by touching my arms, chest, abs, etc.
These may sound like common sense things, and if you were able to go outside of yourself, outside of your body and observe these interactions it may appear obvious, but I feel sometimes when drinking at a bar full of people, we aren't always fully aware of the subtleties of interaction.
So from now on if I'm 15-20 minutes into a conversation with a chick and I feel I'm at a yellow light, I will start to look to see how she reacts to my touching her, I will evaluate her body language, how she is standing and sitting, etc. I will gauge how intense her gaze and eye contact is, and will determine if there is any sexual desire behind it.
Aside from these things I will work harder to "sexualize" conversation and flirting even if it is more subtle though innuendo. Through making the conversation more sexual I will evaluate how the girl responds or doesn't respond.
The best test to see if a yellow light will turn green is to escalate. I am a believer that sometimes a bit of comfort and rapport needs to be developed and it's not good to press to hard and escalate too fast, unless you are getting all the cues and IOIs that a woman will respond well to that. Therefore a lot of times I held back escalating, but yet in reality in a few instances I may have waited too long. The simplest way to save yourself the time and energy investment in a yellow light is to escalate.
This turned out to be a pretty long winded post, and maybe a little bit over analyzed or intellectualized, but I'd be interested to hear if anyone has any constructive feedback or insight into yellow light women. What do you do when you hit a yellow light that doesn't seem to turn green?