[Vitriol]

(10-09-2013 04:18 PM)MrXY Wrote:  

WIA illustrates the disadvantages of social circle game-it can take a lot of time and work to break into and build up your social capital within a circle and that capital is so easily destroyed by gossip or someone who has power within the group and just doesn't like you

You're playing in the female court where their style of interpersonal relationships gives them all the advantages.

Which is why cold approaching is a lesser of evils compared to this "social circle" bullshit. You're really playing a passive game that boils down to whether the girls like you or not in their esoteric coven circles when you're not around. Not really game at all when you're just breaking in and letting them roll the dice on you.

[Mumbojumbo]

Social groups usually control you - even as a group leader you have to adhere to tons of implicit rules. Control your own destiny and become a lone wolf from time to time - it will pay off and make you a stronger person not just with chasing poon.

[Valhalla]

The downside with SSG is that its extremely difficult to establish one a large well connected one in which you have tons of people inviting you to things. I've recently moved so my social circle is completely gone. it's almost impossible to break into a social circle or start one from scratch.

[klosck]

For me, social circle game works best when someone in your circle introduces you to an outside member..to one of their friends. In that case, it works very very well.

As for being weird, it only gets weird if its a circle that somehow involves people (esp. females) from my work. My professional persona doesn't coincide with my personal/social persona. So in those cases, I usually don't bother..

[XXL]

Exactly ^^^

Social circle game is not about fucking your close social circle.. If it happens then it happens but that should be just one spontaneous random drunk accident. The right way to go about it is that you hang out with your friends just to have a good time and you either get introduced to their acquaintances/friends (new people) or you meet new people through cold approach (new people) and merge your group with their group. So it's about meeting new people, not hunting within you core group.

It only gets weird when everybody fuck with each other within the same social circle. That only fucks up the whole group dynamics and brings unnecessary drama and disrupts it. Social circle game is not about hunting within your group and fucking girls you've known for years [unless you know how to create casual atmosphere where nothing changes after sex - in that case check it: manwhore.org/hydro.php].

[The Beast1]

If you really have a masculine attitude, you can seriously get away with a lot of eggregious social faux pas and still have the girls like you.

You really have to gauge the group. Being masculine in a SWPL circle will land you the cold shoulder fast. However,, most careerist chicks (as in the majority of them) want a head male to be part of the "tribe". Watch "Perks of Being a Wallflower" for advice on what NOT to do in social circle gaming.

Social circles are entirelly matriarchal so think tribe. Are you the leader? If so, the girls will defer authority to you and will naturally come to you. To really benefit from this, you need to be the defacto alpha male (or at least the most alpha dude) to have the girls want to sleep with you without consequences.

Most if not all of my lays were social circle lays while i was in college. I never gamed, but let girls come my way naturally. I still got labeled a slut by girls and that scared a few away but mostly were jealous that i didn't take the bait.

Conquer your Campus is an excellent pick up guide for social circle gaming and consequently college gaming. Read it for a better understanding of how social circles work. .

[Distant Light]

Your Social Network Is King!!!!

Cold approach is the tool that drives it...

Anyone who hasn't used cold approach to leverage his lifestyle and social network is truly missing out on a shitload of benefits.

P.S...In one of my "core" circles I've fooled around with maybe 9 of 12 chicks who all know each other. Women treat you based on how you are. Sexuality is just a fun thing we express, it's no biggie.

[soup]

Distant light dropping good knowledge on this.

[Neo]

It's both.

Social circle game is like getting a referral in a sales context. A cold caller closes probably like 1 out of 20 calls, if a client gives him a referral it's probably 1 out of 2 or 3. The girls I've met through friends have been my easiest bangs, very little game was required. It helps to have player friends who are obsessed with pussy.

The issue is the bangs are pretty infrequent, and you need to have a large group to keep getting invited to events/parties, etc. As some of my friends settle down with gfs/get married, it's going to be even more infrequent.

As I've gotten older (30) it's been harder to break into new social circles. The friend's I have I've had for many years. Most of my friends I've met through BJJ, college, or coworkers. Gaming get's tiring at times for me. Going out several nights a week, responding to online girls, etc. etc. I like getting the easy social circle bang every once in a while, but I want to make it more frequent.

One of my goals for 2014 is more passive social circle bangs. I want to break into new circles and leverage it, but without common hobbies it's tough to do. It's also a long term commitment, showing up to group classes/outings etc.

Here's what I've been doing...

From the groups I'm already in, I just attend all their get together's and socialize with the people I don't know. UFC night? Barbecue? Happy Hour? Work event? I'm there.

Asking friends for potential hookups. Like I said it pays to have player friends.

I'm looking for new groups to join. If a Yoga class is going to get me a few cute girls a year, I'll go every week(not to mention my flexibility is shit)

I've tried group outings through meetup.com and the problem is most other guys are trying to do the same thing. The girls in the groups were also mostly unattractive.

Let's throw more ideas around...

[Videl]

It is better "harvesting" pussy of your outer friend groups. Sleeping with your inner friend group is "cannibalizing".

Use your inner friend groups to meet outer friend groups and harvest the pussy.

[bodmon]

i don't speak from personal experience but based on the results of a friend of mine i'm gonna chime in and say that i wager that your ability to rack up a lot of notches through social circle will depend largely on the TYPE of social circle it is.

a smaller social circle with "regular" people won't get you as much traction as one that occupies an edgy subculture. these types of social circles tend to be highly promiscuous and wide-reaching: i.e. hipster, druggie, hippie, clubber, raver, frat, rocker, goth, etc.

i have a friend who's been plugged into the LA hipster scene for the last 4 years. he's 23 years old and counts 45 notches, with not a single cold approach to be seen. that's a fucking lot. it's all house parties upon house parties.