Anyone happen to have the kindle version?
valhalla
Quote: (11-02-2013 10:51 AM)kbell Wrote:
Does he do as much charts and assignments as David Burns Feeling Good?
Quote: (11-07-2013 09:18 PM)kbell Wrote:
I really like this chapter and your idea for a book. Let me know when its done I will buy it. I do worry too much and its usually for no good reason, its habit. I read the book Worry Cure which had an interesting idea where you focus on your worries like mediation once a day. It didn't work for me since I have trouble just sitting still and doing nothing. The cbt style journal seems like its a similar idea and that does seem to work in terms of sticking with it.
This book is sadly not in bookstores or the library. Will have to order at some point from amazon.
Quote: (11-07-2013 10:31 PM)JoyStick Wrote:
Is there a reason why you skipped chapter 14?
Quote: (11-07-2013 10:40 PM)Dusty Wrote:
Quote: (11-07-2013 10:31 PM)JoyStick Wrote:
Is there a reason why you skipped chapter 14?
Ah, following closely at home. I like it!
Chapter 14 seemed a little redundant. I couldn't come up with anything new that wasn't said already in the other chapters.
Are you reading the book?
Quote: (11-10-2013 03:05 PM)Dusty Wrote:
Unrebelliously and promptly perform tasks that are hard but benefit you in the long run.
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1. The idea that you must have love or approval from all the significant people in your life (101).
2. The idea that you absolutely must be thoroughly competent, adequate, and achieving or The idea that you must be competent or talented in some important area (115).
3. The idea that other people absolutely must not act obnoxiously and unfairly, and, that when they do, you should blame and damn them, and see them as bad, wicked, or rotten individuals (127).
4. The idea that you have to see things as being awful, terrible, and catastrophic when you are seriously frustrated or treated unfairly (139).
5. The idea that you must be miserable when you have pressures and difficult experiences; and that you have little ability to control, and cannot change, your disturbed feelings (155).
6. The idea that if something is dangerous or fearsome, you must obsess about it and frantically try to escape from it (163).
7. The idea that you can easily avoid facing many difficulties and self-responsibilities and still lead a highly fulfilling existence (177).
8. The idea that your past remains all-important and because something once strongly influenced your life, it has to keep determining your feelings and behavior today (187).
9. The idea that people and things absolutely must be better than they are and that it is awful and horrible if you cannot change life’s grim facts to suit you (197).
10. The idea that you can achieve maximum happiness by inertia and inaction or by passively and uncommittedly enjoying yourself (207).
Quote: (11-14-2013 09:12 PM)kbell Wrote:
The book No more Mister Nice Guy seems to go into your past and sees why your passive and door mat like. I will be reading in the future but not until I have a strong grasp of CBT and eventually REBT. I think that will help rationally looking at some underdesierable aspect of my past, and coming to accept them. And hopefully not allowing them to influence the present or future. I got depressed reading the Robert Glovers Mister Nice Guy book before since it was close to home, and I was viewing my parents in a new way.
Quote: (11-10-2013 03:05 PM)Dusty Wrote:
He gives another example of an overweight woman who Ellis says lacks the self-discipline to diet and eat better. I saw some women give this book bad reviews online saying Ellis was sexist and behind the times; this is probably one of the anecdotes they didn’t like.