Quote: (09-29-2013 09:43 AM)JimNortonFan Wrote:
How would you respond to this kind of thing?
I'm around 40 but look 20-30 depending on who you ask.
I get compliments on being handsome, looking young, etc. I just ignore it and move on. Is there any better way to handle it?
from
http://www.rooshvforum.network/thread-23487.html
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"Let's put the shoe on the other foot.
It's the middle of the spring semester. Weather is getting warm. Girls start to wear more seasonally appropriate clothing....lo and behold some of those young ladies are starting to look much prettier than they were last year this time.
You say to one, "You're looking kinda cute"
She looks you over, and then says, "I don't like guys like you" - and she makes you feel bad for paying her a compliment - because to her it wasn't just a compliment.
You gave her a compliment free of any kind of sexual intent.
She assumed that your compliment came with an implied holler.
Because in general, women don't tend to give unsolicited compliments.
When says to her GF, "You look cute today" - that's an ego stroke.
Lightbulb yet?
Often, you've got to think in women-ese and use hamster logic.
In your situation, if a random girl breaks girl code/female law and approaches you and then says , "you're cute, you've got a good body" - she's not just complimenting you to compliment you - she's *coming* on to you.
She's not looking for "thank you", she's looking to see if you want to play. If you want to "do the dance", if you have the required social intelligence to understand that she might be interested, but in her mind she needs to see more.
If you say thanks - you're failing her test.
If you reply with a compliment to her - you're failing her test.
Some lame come back - fail.
You pass her test by doing something that she likes, but she doesn't expect.
That's what she wants. She wants novelty. Especially if a chick is young."
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So in your situation, you take the compliment as expressed interest, and you don't respond logically to the compliment, but you respond to the interest.
In the prior situation, it was a high schooler with a good physique.
In your situation, you're an older cat getting attention from the lovelies.
The compliment is your chance to really open her. So you should follow with your best open material, tailored for the particular situation.
Example
1. Tailor your transition, acknowledge what she said, back handed compliment
"I like a girl who's observant and knows what she wants, lemme ask you a question...."
2. Question/Story Opener -
"So i'm meeting a prospective client yesterday, and as we were discussing business, I realized she was staring at me and not listening to a word I said......"
or
"I'm at my favorite bar, and there's this new bartender there, as I'm leaving my tip, she puts her hands over mine...lemme show you what she did..."
Or some other bullshit that fits your life and personality.
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If we believe that girls are sexually motivated by both sight and sound, every move she makes, everything she says, we can use to our advantage to really open her up and get to the core of her girliness.
The way I talk about being open, I mean beyond just starting a conversation, but getting past her typical conversational routine.
Chicks talk ALL THE TIME. A lot of them will over-share fairly frequently, so her telling you a surface vulnerability, or even a deep one isn't really a sign that she's making herself truly open and available to you.
So your job is when you see that she could open up to you, is to allow her to do so. Facilitate it the best you can.
WIA
