I read this thread in bed and got out of it because it got me riled up. Your shitty sleep is linked to all kinds of issues, and a lot of it is stemming from your unhappiness and stress from your current position. You need to change, my friend, and the sleep will take care of yourself. The sluggishness, the depression, the paranoia and the lack of energy are linked to this. Manny, I have a couple suggestions for you:
1) Getting Fired.
This statement pissed me off:
"I exaggerated the dates I worked at a previous job and they are asking for proof of the dates I worked. I might be toast there, not a lot I can do. I'm doing fine as far as work performance goes, but they take their background checks seriously (it's a bank)."
First things first: I am a manager and have hired and fired people. For the love of God: don't lie on your resume or embellish. This stuff can be tracked and vetted, and "your sin will find you out." Now, HR can only ask a previous employer about dates of previous employment and if the previous employer would hire them again. Beyond that, the HR person should not be asking anything else and expect an answer. For job seekers, my advice is always: be interesting (have hobbies or volunteer) and try to show as much experience as you can and still be honest about it. In the interview, be positive, be upbeat, smile and HAVE PASSION.
Second thing: the fucking bank HIRED you already. Let that sink in for a minute. What kind of a bank took the time to do the bring you in and start training you if you lied that badly on the application/resume? Now, you are saying they want to do more checking after the fact? Fuck them. You have nothing more to answer for. They screwed the pooch by not vetting you in the first place, so they can piss off. Always remember: they have made an investment in you already (training on systems and procedures), and it is a pain in the ass to fire someone and rehire, especially since you have been working hard and doing what has been asked.
Keep your nose clean and FOR THE LOVE OF GOD, do not tell coworkers or your boss or HR about the embellishment. Work hard and do what you need to do. Suzie McFuckOff in HR can kiss your ass for being sloppy and not doing her job the first time. Be positive. Do your work. Get the fuck out.
2) Screw the Commute. It is a Bank.
I commuted this far twice in my life in Minneapolis and Chicago, and let me tell you: both times I felt like you did every day (exhausted, paranoid that I would be fired). Both jobs ended after 2 years of shit and after I added a good 10-15 pounds of fat.
It isn't worth it, and it isn't worth the dread of going every day. Fuck, dude, isn't there a bank on every corner and in every strip mall? Use your brain and the internet to start looking for closer opportunities UNLESS this one is so great and paying you so well. Step up and make it happen, especially if HR is breathing down your neck.
3) Hobbies, reading and gym time are worth it.
I gave up a lot of my life in my 30's making cash to pay for a house, car and things that I could not afford. I worked a hell of a lot of hours for clients and neglected my personal development and some family development. IT IS NOT WORTH IT. Spend time on developing yourself. The job is the job and will be there tomorrow. DO NOT GET FAT. That will lead to a host of health issues and will make the depression increase. Start reading, start doing something with that spare time (garden, fish, swim, bikes, kayak, hike....something), and exercise. That will burn some of that stress and energy.
4) Find something you love doing.
I highly recommend Dan Miller's "48 Days to the Work You Love" (
http://www.48days.com/). I was stuck in a shitty job in a shitty market and, in my case, the VP and his henchman were closing the noose on my neck. I stayed positive and worked hard, and I also worked through Dan Miller's program. I did a lot of introspection, and I thought about what I REALLY wanted to do. Then I started actively looking for that opportunity, and I got it. I am working my dream job, working on my personal hobbies (crushing those personal goals I set for myself this year), and now am launching into getting rid of 10 years of fat from drinking and shitty eating.
The bottom line, Manny, is that I have lived your life for 10 years of mine. I walked like a zombie through most of it or was paranoid through The Crash of 2009 and through horrible corporate shit after The Crash. Do not just sit there and take it. Do not sit there in a zombie trance and watch football while you drink, stuff your face with chips and pizza while you drool.
Get moving and get living. Sleep will take care of itself with changes to the rest of your life. You are an Alpha Male, Red Pill believer. Better get busy living or better get busy dying. The choice is yours.