[Teedub]

I've only every briefly tried the whole online thing last year for about a month and got frustrated by the lack of responses - so I am woefully un-knowledgeable about the whole process.

I'm not sure how to approach the profile thing, as, well the reason I'm trying it again is a mate of mine signed up for POF on Sunday...had a date with a 6.5 the following day. I still think 'real life' gaming/dating is superior, but I suppose I'm thinking there's no harm in opening other avenues.

I'd say we're equally good looking, but his profile is very 'standard', whereas I made my last one a bit vague and answer-avoiding. The discernible difference is something in which I have zero control, but which I think a lot of the women on these sites screen for...height.

Anyone know anything around these things, do you just lie so that you pass the screening process and then game her so that she doesn't give a fuck by the time you meet? Anyone with a well received profile - your input would be appreciated.

[chexmix]

http://www.goodlookingloser.com/2012/07/...y-of-fish/

I've used that formula to some success.

[MrXY]

Add 2 inches to your height and wear boots to the meeting

Make sure your pics are very good, they are much more important than your profile

[Courage Reborn]

Hey Teedub,

PM me your Skype. I'm happy to go over the online dating best practices with you.

IMO, it's a game channel not to be overlooked. Plus your city happens to be ripe with opportunities to be capitalized on.

[Teedub]

Will send it over now. Chat to you tomorrow if you want?

[tylerdurden1993]

Hey Teedub, have you tried OKCupid, I think its better than POF (In my opinion) all you need is a couple of good pictures, the profile doesn't have to be long just bullshit about been genuine, fun all that cliché shit, then just spam messages to girls with a copy/paste canned opener. Then if you get any bites try and get them out on a date.

Im not saying the girls on there are quality but their not too bad and if you've got nothing better to do you might as well give online dating a go as really it requires minimal effort

[Teedub]

Yeah I had both Okcupid and POF last year. Got pretty frustrated with both. Probably because the girls that ignore you on there would never ignore you in real life. I just want some 'passive game' as I'm having a stressful/busy few months for a few different reasons.

[tylerdurden1993]

(09-19-2013 05:21 PM)Teedub Wrote:  

Yeah I had both Okcupid and POF last year. Got pretty frustrated with both. Probably because the girls that ignore you on there would never ignore you in real life. I just want some 'passive game' as I'm having a stressful/busy few months for a few different reasons.

Yeah its pretty frustrating especially when girls start talking to you then just stop but I don't care anymore. Check the girls that are online now and then just spam the ones that pass the boner test with a canned opener, ive only found 10% will respond then about half will stop talking to you after a few messages. But I think the most important point is just to spam girls with your canned opener and if they don't respond wait about a month and try again.

Online dating is good for passive game but you have to expect low results but in reality it takes next to no fucking effort to actually run just sit at your computer and type/click some stuff. Good luck anyway with it.

[Teedub]

(09-19-2013 12:22 PM)Courage Reborn Wrote:  

Hey Teedub,

PM me your Skype. I'm happy to go over the online dating best practices with you.

IMO, it's a game channel not to be overlooked. Plus your city happens to be ripe with opportunities to be capitalized on.

Thanks for the advice dude, pleasure speaking with you earlier.

[liveandlearn7]

I've done pretty well on OkCupid. Have an interesting profile that doesn't seem too generic and personal. Look at the way girls profiles always have sarcasm, jokes, ironic subject matter, and random shit. Do what they do. Put at least one picture up of you with hot girls for social proof. Have a picture of you doing something cool or something hilarious. And have at least one picture of how you look on a friday night or suited up. When messaging them, ask them something about their profile or say something stupid like "I believe in you..." which will puzzle them and get them to reply, to which you can then say something like "That you're as pretty in real life, and as intriguing as your profile leads me to believe." Hit at least 10 people up a day, and try to get it off OKC as soon as possible. The longer you chat without meeting the less of a chance a meeting will ever take place. If there is any resistance, say "it's hard to judge if ill like someone just by messaging them back and forth, I'd rather speak to you on the phone before pushing this any further and being disappointed...some people are vastly different from their online personas." Coffee dates and grabbing a few drinks at the bar are less threatening ways to get them to meet you. No dinner dates or anything.

[speakeasy]

I briefly put up a profile on OKC a few months ago just to see what would happen. I probably could've gone on several dates, but only went on one which went nowhere. I didn't really put much effort into hitting up girls. I just wanted to see what reaction I would get, what type of chics would be clicking on my profile, who would reach out to me first. The first few girls that wrote me were land whales. A few half alright girls gave me 4 or 5 stars on my profile, but when I hit them up, either no response or they stopped replying after a couple messages. I will definitely try it again when I'm ready. Like I said, this was just more of a test to see what's out there and what kind of reactions I would get. Didn't really put much effort into contacting chics.

My dilemma in writing a dating profile is that I don't have a clearly defined goal with it. If you're just looking to get laid, you need a certain type of profile that appeals to the type of slutty woman willing to have a ONS with a guy she just met online that night. And if you're looking for a nice girl that you may want something serious with, you need a completely different type of profile. Having a profile that appeals to slutty girls will turn off nice girls, and a profile that appeals to nice girls will make you look boring to the slutty, spontaneous girls. Personally, I'm open to either. Quick casual sex, or meeting a nice girlfriend you'd actually date. But I'm not sure how to write a profile that appeals equally to both type of girl. Any suggestions?

[liveandlearn7]

(09-20-2013 03:19 PM)speakeasy Wrote:  

I briefly put up a profile on OKC a few months ago just to see what would happen. I probably could've gone on several dates, but only went on one which went nowhere. I didn't really put much effort into hitting up girls. I just wanted to see what reaction I would get, what type of chics would be clicking on my profile, who would reach out to me first. The first few girls that wrote me were land whales. A few half alright girls gave me 4 or 5 stars on my profile, but when I hit them up, either no response or they stopped replying after a couple messages. I will definitely try it again when I'm ready. Like I said, this was just more of a test to see what's out there and what kind of reactions I would get. Didn't really put much effort into contacting chics.

My dilemma in writing a dating profile is that I don't have a clearly defined goal with it. If you're just looking to get laid, you need a certain type of profile that appeals to the type of slutty woman willing to have a ONS with a guy she just met online that night. And if you're looking for a nice girl that you may want something serious with, you need a completely different type of profile. Having a profile that appeals to slutty girls will turn off nice girls, and a profile that appeals to nice girls will make you look boring to the slutty, spontaneous girls. Personally, I'm open to either. Quick casual sex, or meeting a nice girlfriend you'd actually date. But I'm not sure how to write a profile that appeals equally to both type of girl. Any suggestions?

You make a profile that shows a clear balance. You like to have fun and just see what happens. When you contact someone, you choose your game plan depending on her profile, how she answers her OKC match questions, and how she reacts to what you're saying. Test out the waters first.

[lurker]

Email me your pics to [email protected]. I'll Photoshop them. Seriously. Unless you're an honest to god bridge troll I can add 1-2 points to your general appearance in 10 minutes of work. Make sure the shots are clear face pics with in-focus eyes - that's 90% of the battle right there.