[thegameoflife]

Alright guys (and gals). I would appreciate some analysis on the following.

Last weekend I met a fairly good looking gal in a club. We talked about music a lot and I told her about a song she had to check out. I told her I would text the artist name and song title to her which I felt was clever since I didn't implicitly ask for her number. One of her friends came over and started talked to her in what I perceived as a cockblock so I told her I was going to catch up with my friends.

Two hours laters she texts 'Listening to that band right now. Sick song!'

The text messages continued back an forth talking about thanksgiving plans. I attempted to call her and got her voicemail a couple days later. She had sent the last text but I waited a couple days before responding and telling her to 'give me a call if you get a chance this afternoon.' to which she responded with 'Hey hey! Sorry I haven't got back to you. I'll give you a call tomorrow! whats your plans for the weekend?'

I responded with 'Hanging out with you call me tomorrow.' and she immediately responded with 'you seem pretty confident about that haha have a good night (name)'

Unfortunatley it has now been two days and I have not been called. Was my last text message too aggressive? Should I continue to pursue this? Any other tips/tricks? Thanks for the feedback.

[wolf]

(10-16-2010 07:05 PM)thegameoflife Wrote:  

Alright guys (and gals). I would appreciate some analysis on the following.

Last weekend I met a fairly good looking gal in a club. We talked about music a lot and I told her about a song she had to check out. I told her I would text the artist name and song title to her which I felt was clever since I didn't implicitly ask for her number. One of her friends came over and started talked to her in what I perceived as a cockblock so I told her I was going to catch up with my friends.

Two hours laters she texts 'Listening to that band right now. Sick song!'

The text messages continued back an forth talking about thanksgiving plans. I attempted to call her and got her voicemail a couple days later. She had sent the last text but I waited a couple days before responding and telling her to 'give me a call if you get a chance this afternoon.' to which she responded with 'Hey hey! Sorry I haven't got back to you. I'll give you a call tomorrow! whats your plans for the weekend?'

I responded with 'Hanging out with you call me tomorrow.' and she immediately responded with 'you seem pretty confident about that haha have a good night (name)'

Unfortunatley it has now been two days and I have not been called. Was my last text message too aggressive? Should I continue to pursue this? Any other tips/tricks? Thanks for the feedback.

You know this reminds of a girl that I left a voicemail and then an hour later she sent me a text saying she doesn't call back. She's an attention whore, she'll keep talking to you and won't set any concrete plans. Do yourself a favor and stop contacting her.

[rumguzzler]

It doesn't sound like you've done too bad, but you haven't struck the right vibe with this girl. You are showing much too much interest too early. Check out Roosh's site and read some of the articles. First of all you have had way too much contact, and that has killed any interest she might have had.

You are putting this girl in a position of power over you, letting make the decision as to whether you two will move forward or not. Do not call her. Ever. Calling is beta.

In your texts, you must not ask questions. Instead, give her instructions. Be brief. Done correctly, brevity conveys that nice strong alpha-vibe that makes girls agonize over what you DIDN'T write in your text. Brevity is also a good inner-game exercise for you, because it helps you recognize and trim bullshit out of your texting.

Don't use smilies. Those are for girls.

So... while this girl is probably a strike-out, wait a few more days, then when you have a convenient opportunity, send her a text explaining you are doing this errand (good if it has to do with music) at this place on that day, and tell her she can come along and buy you a coffee to thank you for your excellent music recommendation.

I think that is the best you can do at this point, and I'd say you have a 20% chance of success - maybe someone else has a better idea.

[HD668B]

ok heres is my pov from my experience

the problem is you are only making plain talk

one of the first text game i ran, i had a week long great conversation with that hottie i met a club, i was cocky/funny, but when it was time to meet, its like she couldn't make the switch in her head between the interesting guy and the lover. she didnt flake, but she didnt make new plans either, so i knew it was dead

you need to make very short sentences, without punctuations, an always with an authority tone

also why do you ask her to call you? thats your job man, you make the plans

the only time I call a girl, is to seal the date that was arranged by text minutes ago, so i know she will pickup, and i also know that by hearing my voice it will remove some flaking-doubt in her head

EDIT: forgot to say, timing is also important too, a girl should respond to your msgs in the following minutes if she has high interest. roosh talked about in details here = http://www.bangpickupguide.com/misc/text...rooshv.pdf

[thegameoflife]

Thank you for all of the comments, suggestions etc. Much appreciated.

I would like to update the situation as I used two techniques that I learned through this site.

After getting the 'you seem pretty confident about that' and not getting a call I waited two days before putting 'Ya. See you there in 10.' giving the impression of an accidental text.

The next day she responded with 'I got a text from you yesterday that you'll meet me there in 10 lol what was that about?'

I waited half a day before putting 'Ya. That was meant for a friend I was meeting. Was hoping you wouldn't notice. I have the day off tomorrow and am running some errands downtown. You are free to come along and buy me a coffee as thanks for my great music recommendation if you are free.'

She responded five hours later with 'Im busy durying the day but how about a coffee at night? Do you have facebook so I can add you'



I get the impression that this girl is slowplaying her text messages purposely in an attempt to build value. Regardless it seems like things are looking better than better than before. Please feel free to keep adding comments etc. I love learning about this text message psychological warfare.

[rumguzzler]

Better. First, don't use the term psychological warfare. You're doing her a favor, it's not a battle of wills.

Don't use "if". The "if" part is your option to exercise, not hers. The underlying assumption is that she'll show when you tell her.

Your text was still too long - you're offering too much info for nothing in return. You must not volunteer all that shit, be content to let her do the talking, chatting, texting bla bla bla.

Nonetheless, you got away with it, but from now on remember to be brief. You can write: "I dont do coffee after 6 but drinks are accepted currency. Meet me wednesday at bar X at 9." Coffee at night is a way to get LJBF'ed unless you've got tight game or she's too fat to get laid anyways.

I'm sure someone more experience has more qualified text msg advice, but that's my two cents. Your chances are still slim.

If the date materializes, you can accuse her of trying to get you drunk and take advantage of you, etc. etc. Find some good game articles to read up on and learn about the cube.

Don't respond to the facebook question.

[tomtud]

From my experience,, with facebook you shall lose momentum unless you are different than her 500 other friends... Be more mysterious in your texts,, get her to pry into what did you really mean stuff,,, chicks talk all day with their friends about that sorta stuff.... what did he really mean when he did this,, that etc...

For example, I texted some chick about what I did last night...

her: so what did you do?
me: ohh we partied like rock stars?
her: ohh kewl...

left her waiting a minute...

her: me and my girls went to this xyz place, where did you guys hit?

You see I did not give her all of the information at the beginning,, had her work for it. Got her interested where we went, what I'm about etc... Even if you have facebook, don't add her because you'll get lost in her sea of friends, you have her cell that is all you need. Tell her you are too busy for facebook and you rather spend your time reading and volunteering (said in a NEG way) then she will see you are different than all of those other guys so you shall stand out more..

Hope any of this helps dude...