[Blackmagic]

Hey guys,

I started seeing a girl in the spring, we dated mid March through mid May and then she went back to her hometown for the summer for school break. We saw each other 2 to 3 times a week then. I thought things would naturally fall apart during the summer but we kept in touch and now that she's been back for a month we picked up where we left off in the spring. I think she's starting to fall for me but I want to pull back to just a fuck buddy thing.

The sex is really good and the other girl I was banging just moved out of town, so my bench is empty with no prospects. My two options are to cut this chick loose completely and get back to prospecting hard, or the preferred course of action, to turn this into a no strings attached situation.

Any players with thoughts on how to proceed?

[lurker]

1. Fuck her.
2. Are you doing other activities with her? If so, stop and return to step 1.

Any other "how to" you might be looking for really translates to "if I'm honest about only wanting sex with her, I'm afraid she'll leave and I'll be sans poissy," right? Well, strengthen that frame and accept the fact that she's entitled to her own wants and needs in any relationship, including one built entirely on casual sex, and that she might not want or need the same things you do.

You can deliver the message by only being around her for fucking purposes, but she will eventually needle you into admitting what you're after. Kia kaha and lay it out. If she walks she walks.

[Que enspastic]

Brace yourself... for tears

[neanderthal]

You can never downgrade a girl and have her be content with it.

If she invest time outside the bedroom with you then that means she wants you for more than just "fuckbuddy".

Girls are not like guys. They can't just have sexual relationships with zero emotions.

Personal advice dump her and keep gaming. Just like you got her you can get another that will be down to being just "fuckbuddies" of course only until she falls in love with you.

[el mechanico]

Only text her after 11pm never see her until 12 pm otherwise ignore

[jariel]

A dude can't fuck a chick more than once and think the chick doesn't think he likes her.

As far as she's concerned, you were/are her boyfriend, and now you've started shit up again, and want to change the nature of the relationship.

The correct play would have been to have had her as a fuck buddy to begin with, and then if ultimately there was something there, you could have upgraded her status or kept things status quo.

You're hustling backwards.

[Samseau]

(08-27-2013 10:33 PM)jariel Wrote:  

A dude can't fuck a chick more than once and think the chick doesn't think he likes her.

You serious? I've seen girls do this all the time

[BecomingMachine]

Start tons of fights, then say you love her after the most climactic engagement. Makeup sex, ignore, say you scared yourself and can't handle the intensity of the relationship. She will forgive herself for banging you even though obvs things won't work out.

Source: did this on accident several times when "blue-pill." Still banging every ex I've ever had. Should think about avoiding this method, works too well...

[ChocolateCockOfZeus]

"Have you ever seen He's Just Not That Into You?...Well, here's the thing..."

[Ternarydemonite]

You must never be afraid to let her go. That is why you must try to spin multiple platters. With many potential or actual options for sex, the value of a single woman lowers dramatically, since her sex shouldn't be substantially different from having sex with the others.

If she is betrayed by her own emotions, as is normal for a woman, then you cam fuck her until she gives you either or both of: an ultimatum to be her boyfriend; starts to manipulate you into exchanging her sex for your time and affection. Then you shall dump her.

Alternatively, you can be frank since the beginning that you only want sex. Many will not accept that and will close her legs. Some will...

[Days of Broken Arrows]

"I'm busy with work and/or school and need to focus on that now."

If you want to keep the pussy stream flowing, I'd strongly recommend making your getaway excuse about either of the above. This worked for me for years. Recently when a woman pressed me for details about why I wouldn't commit, I made the MISTAKE of speaking logically to her about the real reasons.

She pretty much flipped out. I may do a post about this. I actually don't care, but did have to (re)learn the lesson that you can't really demote most women without insane drama. "A woman scored..."

[Parlay44]

(08-27-2013 09:32 PM)Que enspastic Wrote:  

Brace yourself... for tears

This is a delicate place to be in. I've been there a few times. She may try to win your affection with mind-blowing sex, offer of threesomes or just outright buy you expensive gifts. Just hold your position.

Just avoid the relationship talk as long as possible. She'll bring it up eventually. Avoid talking to her about things like her problems and her family issues. They all have them. Just focus on being in the moment and having a good time. If push comes to shove and she starts throwing ultimatums at you just say It wouldn't work out and continue banging as long as you possibly can.

She may flip the fuck out at one point and slash your tires or something

[King Solomon]

cheat on her and be unapologetic when she finds out.

she will either accept her role in the new soft harem, or she will not, but either way

it will not harm her attraction towards you.

[jariel]

(08-28-2013 10:57 AM)Samseau Wrote:  

You serious? I've seen girls do this all the time

You think you can hang out with a girl a few days a week and have sex with her for months on end without her thinking you like her?

I'm not talking about just straight fuck buddies, girls can do that for a little bit before their emotions catch up with them, but this dude, whether he realizes it or not, was forging a relationship with this girl.

[Blackmagic]

Thanks for the advice guys. I'll just limit hanging out with her to once a week, just to bang, or every other week until she gets the picture. Eventually she'll give up and move on or I'll get the fuck buddy that I was looking for. I'm probably kidding myself if I think there won't be tears at some point but that's part of the lifestyle.

Either way, I need to get my ass back out there to find that next piece. Remember gentlemen, the only thing better than good pussy is new pussy.