[Jaylow]

Long story short I got this girls number and tried making plans and they didn't go through so I ended up nexting her. About 2 months later I see her again and we have a nice conversation and she starts texting me again. Is she just looking for attention here? Its pretty annoying she is making me repeat myself in these texts and kind of feels like shes just playing games.

her: hey
me: phone was in the car, whats up
her: oh haha hot date ?
me: took her to McDonalds u jelly?

next day

her: haha oh so jealous ha

next day

me: good weekend?
her: worked all weekend
me: cool. I am thinkin we should have drinks one of these nights. How do you feel about that
her: you wanna hang out with a psycho?
me: you seemed normal.. guess ill find out huh
her: haha im pretty normal. Why dont I get the mcdonalds fine dining like the other girl
me: shes not homemade dinner and wine worthy like u r
her: oh good answer
---this is the part where it goes from good to down hill, what did i do wrong?---
me: tonight or tues is best
her: im pretty beat right now
me: were neighbours, we will find a good time soon ok?
her: tuesday ?
me: Sure. 9pm ill come get you
her: thats late
me: 6pm ?
her: depends how long i work i guess, whats the game plan (i just told u 30 min ago bitch...)
me: we will chill at my place like i said b4
her: and have drinks ?
me: yes
her: wanna go do something instead
me: we can go for a walk around where we live (this is the thing i suggested the first time i tried meeting up with her, went nowhere)
her: k cause i shouldnt be drinking
me: drinks at my place is all im up for. Lets stick to me driving u around k (i met her driving cab obv)
her: i started a new meal plan i shouldnt ruin it with alcohol (its 1 week b4 school starts, total BS)

Is she just fucking around? hold firm on drinks? Feels like this whole encounter is going nowhere again

[Jaylow]

her: wait what you dont wanna chill anymore ?
me: school starting, big parties comin up i think u can manage a glass of wine w me
her: ya for sure
her: who do you live with
me: 5 girls (complete lie, idk why i said this)
her: good job
her: should i just text you when im ready tuesday?
me: k

I have zero expectation that I will see her. So much easier to pull the girl the night I meet her compared to the epic fail that has been my texting game.

[EisenBarde]

Too many questions. A lot of focus on drinks.

Open ended "meet me at my place and I'll surprise you" and not getting hung up on the drink thing would help.
Yes, you want to get her to your place and have alcohol, and sounds like she wants that, too. But she doesn't want to *know* that it's happening.

Be about 2 G&Ts down when and if she shows up and offer her one as a good host.

[Jaylow]

so the next day (yesterday)

me: busy tmrw
her: you are?
her: ???

i deleted her number, i just think shes playing games and this is the 2nd go around

11pm tonight she texts me

her: guess u didnt wanna
me: just got back from gym. Gona put on a movie if u wanna chill
her: i just showered so I am really not presentable ha
me: U said the exact same thing the last time. Why dont i come get you in 30 min ((our first txt convs I didnt post she used this same excuse))
<tried phoning her after no response in 20 m>
her: dozed off ha
<tried phoning again when she texted that, no answer again>
me: wimp! tell me what the prob is
her: that i am up in 6 hours and am dead exhausted cause i havent slept recently
me: U txted me first. Im just gonna be in chill mode, if u end up passing out here ill set my alarm. U live 2 min away
her: tomorrow is my last shift and ill get sleep and be golden
me: U didnt answer y u txted me 20 min ago
her: cause i was bummed we didnt chill earlier
me: I couldnt. Were up now. IDC if u pass out, weve texted so much it doesnt feel like were really friends
her: ill pass out before you get here. My eyes hurt to be open.
me: Ur making me lol my only free night was 2nite. Txt me at like 3am from now on when u wanna hang or whenever if u need a drive. Night.
her: sorry I wanted to be awake to chill



I really dont know the purpose of going through the same routine with her again. At what point should I have cut my losses and ignored?

What if she texts me at 11pm again asking to hang out?

[eradicator]

Wow. OK, this might be a lost cause at this point and she is just liking the attention.

I strongly suggest once the girl is interested in meeting up(she says "ok, sure let's meet up") to just use the texting for logistics. If she guns down your suggestion as to the time, just ask her "ok then, what time is good for you?" and go from there. When you get sucked into a back and forth text conversation that goes nowhere, you know you fucked up somewhere.

Quote:

her: tuesday ?
me: Sure. 9pm ill come get you
her: thats late

Here, I would have suggested "Ok so what time is good for you?"
Though it is possible she would have just flaked.

[Jaylow]

Ya its pretty painful to read through all of this again. She is the hottest girl that has ever talked to me and I think my vibe towards her shows that. 9.5/10. I have to calm down and step back a bit when conversing with girls like this.

Just cut all contact and ignore? treat her like shit if she asks for a discount cab ride once shes in the vehicle? anyway i can turn this around?

[eradicator]

If you really only have one free night, maybe try to get her to come over during the day on a weekend? Bring her over(think up any reason: have lunch, watch a dvd, you probably don't want to be drinking if you have to drive a cab later). And you can try running tuthmosis first date bang recipe sans alcohol. Or just escalate as much as possible and then get her to come back on tuesday.

Just be careful not to get into any back and forth with her over texting, keep the conversation about the logistics.

Maybe try something like

"So when are we getting together? either this weekend during the day, or tuesday evening. Let me know what time is good for you."

This is still good practice for you, because you are learning that your text game needs work. And please stop putting that pussy on a pedestal. And DEFINITELY no more discount rides in your cab unless she is fucking you. Just my 2 cents.

[Jaylow]

I offer anyone that lives in my zone a 20% discount to get more business. It is not hot girl specific and when I toss them my number I make sure I specify "if its busy I will not pick you up, if its off hours where I am waiting around I will give you a couple $ off as long as I am in the area".

I think this girl gets off on getting guys to try and hook up with her. The first dialogue went the same as the first with some repeat phrases from her. If she texts me with something other than a cab ride I am just going to text her "<address> tell me when your out front" and ignore anything else she says.

Here is the first txt interaction with her

10am - her: hey neighbor
11am - me: hah hows the new place
2:30pm - her: its so sweet but lonely hah
3:15pm - me: any plans mon-sunday

next morning
10am - her: um I work sunday
10am - her: and not sure if i work monday

next night
7pm - me: U get ur schedule 4 this week yet

next morning
9am - her: ya i only work wed and fri i believe Sad
1pm - me: lets meet up tomorrow, ill pick you up at 8
7pm - her: what do you wanna do
9pm - me: you in a staying in or going out kind of mood
10pm: her: well if we went out what would we do
10:30pm me - walk by the water, grab coffee

She didnt respond back.

[CarCrashKid]

Maybe you should let her sweat it?


5 girls thing. Ouch. You know girls hate it other if they aren't bff&Ever&Ever, right?