I was away travelling for a month, and I just got back last week. Good friends/people I hang out with most knew that I was going to be gone for a month and down in South America.
Upon reconnecting with them, or meeting them out the past weekend, they were excited to see me. The following scenario happened 4 times, with 4 different people, out of the 5 I hang out with/go out with most.
How was your trip? - They ask
my brief response about how it was and how I enjoyed it
..Did you bang? / Did you get a notch?
I found this to be a bit strange, for the following reasons..
It's almost as if they are going to base the extent and pleasure of my trip entirely on the prospects of banging.
They are trying to measure my level of game, and if I got a notch on my trip it's a way for them to high five me and reassure themselves they are hanging out with a guy who has game.
I could be wrong and making assumptions, but this is how it feels.
I told them no. Some of them joked around with me about it, others just said 'oh' with disappointment.
My trip was much more than that. I could go on a 1000 word speech about how I loved spending time away in my home country.
Having said that, I'm not going to deny I didn't go out and try and game the local women. I had fun at the clubs, and would have welcomed a pull, but the most I got was a makeout or two.
Furthermore, my point to this post is notches. It's as if it's all some guys think about, or worry about.
Oddly enough, these are usually guys with at least some decent level of game, meaning they've had pussy.
I cant help but think about roosh's most recent post that shed light to this, about goals with numbers: http://www.rooshv.com/beware-of-goals-with-numbers
Maybe it's all ego.
I don't have a problem with guys aiming to achieve high notch counts. It's a form of achievement, and probably the most masculine one you can aim for.
At the same time, I don't think taking it to the extreme where you subconsciously define yourself by your notch count is beneficial.
In a way, I'm still a little bit defined by mine. I've missed opportunities, and with the effort I've put in I would have thought I would have had more than I have now. But I try not to be too worried about it.
On the otherhand, one of my close buddies has just over a double digit and knows he has more than me. He doesn't boast, but he brings out his bangs quite often. His game is 'get drunk, show up, and talk shit to girls'. It's what works for him, especially with his 6'4 stature. But at the same time, he clings to his number. He's showed me his #10.
These are just my thoughts recently.
I'm looking to take some steps towards breaking free from this whole 'notch' thing.
I want know I'm experienced with women, and can provide great company and satisfaction to them, because I have plenty of varied reference experiences, and not x notches.
Upon reconnecting with them, or meeting them out the past weekend, they were excited to see me. The following scenario happened 4 times, with 4 different people, out of the 5 I hang out with/go out with most.
How was your trip? - They ask
my brief response about how it was and how I enjoyed it
..Did you bang? / Did you get a notch?
I found this to be a bit strange, for the following reasons..
It's almost as if they are going to base the extent and pleasure of my trip entirely on the prospects of banging.
They are trying to measure my level of game, and if I got a notch on my trip it's a way for them to high five me and reassure themselves they are hanging out with a guy who has game.
I could be wrong and making assumptions, but this is how it feels.
I told them no. Some of them joked around with me about it, others just said 'oh' with disappointment.
My trip was much more than that. I could go on a 1000 word speech about how I loved spending time away in my home country.
Having said that, I'm not going to deny I didn't go out and try and game the local women. I had fun at the clubs, and would have welcomed a pull, but the most I got was a makeout or two.
Furthermore, my point to this post is notches. It's as if it's all some guys think about, or worry about.
Oddly enough, these are usually guys with at least some decent level of game, meaning they've had pussy.
I cant help but think about roosh's most recent post that shed light to this, about goals with numbers: http://www.rooshv.com/beware-of-goals-with-numbers
Maybe it's all ego.
I don't have a problem with guys aiming to achieve high notch counts. It's a form of achievement, and probably the most masculine one you can aim for.
At the same time, I don't think taking it to the extreme where you subconsciously define yourself by your notch count is beneficial.
In a way, I'm still a little bit defined by mine. I've missed opportunities, and with the effort I've put in I would have thought I would have had more than I have now. But I try not to be too worried about it.
On the otherhand, one of my close buddies has just over a double digit and knows he has more than me. He doesn't boast, but he brings out his bangs quite often. His game is 'get drunk, show up, and talk shit to girls'. It's what works for him, especially with his 6'4 stature. But at the same time, he clings to his number. He's showed me his #10.
These are just my thoughts recently.
I'm looking to take some steps towards breaking free from this whole 'notch' thing.
I want know I'm experienced with women, and can provide great company and satisfaction to them, because I have plenty of varied reference experiences, and not x notches.
