A bit of a back story:
I've got 2 kids from my first serious relationship, which started when I was 16 and ended when I was 23. I ended up leaving her because she was no good for me at all and it was taking too much of a toll on me and the kids.
Ever since then the majority of girls that I've seen for a while have always been through my social circle, friends of friends etc, so they knew the situation I was in, and that I wouldn't be in London every other weekend as I'd be seeing the kids. Now that I've decided to work on my game, meet new women and start online dating, I've run into a problem:
How/when is the best time to bring up the fact that I've got kids. Obviously for ONS etc there's no need to get into it. But if I'm going to start seeing a girl regularly, then I'll want to tell them and they'll wonder where I am every other weekend. My kids are important to me, and I dont like being dishonest with people either.
Do any guys on the forum of a similar age have kids? How do you handle the situation?
At the moment, I'm hiding the pics of my kids in my room before I go out at night, so I don't have to explain them to any girls that I take home.
I have a tendency to get worked up about it, as in my head its a really big deal, and then quite often blurt it out at completely the wrong time.
Any advice on how to navigate this would be greatly appreciated.
I've got 2 kids from my first serious relationship, which started when I was 16 and ended when I was 23. I ended up leaving her because she was no good for me at all and it was taking too much of a toll on me and the kids.
Ever since then the majority of girls that I've seen for a while have always been through my social circle, friends of friends etc, so they knew the situation I was in, and that I wouldn't be in London every other weekend as I'd be seeing the kids. Now that I've decided to work on my game, meet new women and start online dating, I've run into a problem:
How/when is the best time to bring up the fact that I've got kids. Obviously for ONS etc there's no need to get into it. But if I'm going to start seeing a girl regularly, then I'll want to tell them and they'll wonder where I am every other weekend. My kids are important to me, and I dont like being dishonest with people either.
Do any guys on the forum of a similar age have kids? How do you handle the situation?
At the moment, I'm hiding the pics of my kids in my room before I go out at night, so I don't have to explain them to any girls that I take home.
I have a tendency to get worked up about it, as in my head its a really big deal, and then quite often blurt it out at completely the wrong time.
Any advice on how to navigate this would be greatly appreciated.