I'm just getting back into the mode of wanting a woman in my life after years of going my own way. I've lost 40 lbs and have been lifting weights again. I'm looking pretty good so I decided to go out and treat myself to a steak dinner and some wine.
After dinner and 3 glasses of wine I go for a stroll and walk into a pottery shop. I'm greeted by a girl who's probably in her mid-late 20's. I'm in good shape, wearing nice new clothes and a nice polo cap. I'm bald so I think I look younger when wearing a cap.
Anyways, we're chatting and she's smiling, we talk about how we both just moved to the area and I'm getting her to laugh a bit and I'm feeling pretty smooth. The entire time though, I feel though she wants to chat with me, she's concerned about the other customers. I ask her if she needs to attend to them but she says no. After about 10-15 mins of chatting I move to buy the coffee mug and after the transaction I ask what time they close. She says 9pm, and I say something like, "You're fun to chat with. Would you like to get together after work? Go for a walk, get a drink?" She pauses for a long time, thinking about it, and says, "I don't know, I have to work tomorrow", I say, "Come on, it will be fun I promise and you don't have to stay out late." She thinks for a while and eventually say "No, I'm sorry, I have to work tomorrow"
Right then I could've asked for her number but I'm like fuck that, I just gave this wench an opportunity to hang out with a great guy who has a lot to offer and she's not that pretty, maybe a 5 at best and has bad facial skin. I'm just going for it because she has a nice personality and I'm getting back into the game. So I told her that maybe I'll come back again if I like the mug and buy another one.
What I don't understand is how a sales girl can be so friendly and open, act like she's interested and then just say No.
I guess she was just doing her job?
I understand it's hard to analyze at a distance this scenario, but does anyone have any insight into what happened and why I didn't get her to say yes?
After dinner and 3 glasses of wine I go for a stroll and walk into a pottery shop. I'm greeted by a girl who's probably in her mid-late 20's. I'm in good shape, wearing nice new clothes and a nice polo cap. I'm bald so I think I look younger when wearing a cap.
Anyways, we're chatting and she's smiling, we talk about how we both just moved to the area and I'm getting her to laugh a bit and I'm feeling pretty smooth. The entire time though, I feel though she wants to chat with me, she's concerned about the other customers. I ask her if she needs to attend to them but she says no. After about 10-15 mins of chatting I move to buy the coffee mug and after the transaction I ask what time they close. She says 9pm, and I say something like, "You're fun to chat with. Would you like to get together after work? Go for a walk, get a drink?" She pauses for a long time, thinking about it, and says, "I don't know, I have to work tomorrow", I say, "Come on, it will be fun I promise and you don't have to stay out late." She thinks for a while and eventually say "No, I'm sorry, I have to work tomorrow"
Right then I could've asked for her number but I'm like fuck that, I just gave this wench an opportunity to hang out with a great guy who has a lot to offer and she's not that pretty, maybe a 5 at best and has bad facial skin. I'm just going for it because she has a nice personality and I'm getting back into the game. So I told her that maybe I'll come back again if I like the mug and buy another one.
What I don't understand is how a sales girl can be so friendly and open, act like she's interested and then just say No.
I guess she was just doing her job?
I understand it's hard to analyze at a distance this scenario, but does anyone have any insight into what happened and why I didn't get her to say yes?