Gentlemen,
I find myself in a quandary. Yet again.
Recent girl of Long Distance said to me 'she needs time off'. we all know what that means:
a) she met another guy that makes her tingle or
b) I lost attraction that she had for me.
Either way it blows.
Background: we had an LDR, for a while, I went visiting overseas 2 times this year already, staying almost 2 months each time. Any other bitch would be static, Id think. I love her (yah, after a parade of women -saturation point reached). She claimed to love me.
We lived together for almost a year, now apart for 3 months at a time. I did a hell of a good job boning her everytime I got, FWIW.Owned her. She is a hard 9, no kidding. Im a half decent dude, Id say Im a 9, mobile, good looks, cash flow, educated, cosmopolitan. No issues on relocating other than language (which I have a primitive understanding of).
In Rossy's classification, I'd fit into lesser Alpha (not hard to meet dames).
But as the prophet Iceberg Slim would say, 'a woman needs to feel close to her man'... aint that the truth brother... 'a woman away is a woman in despair' I might add... LDRs suck hard.
In any case, I had her take care of minor business affairs in her country, to see where she stood (and wiring her a large amount of $$). Nothing life saving or wrecking. I can get the $$ back.
However, she took it way too serious, freaked out, and cant handle it... Now she is getting advice from some wankers that she 'doesnt have to do it'... (help with the business). Thought she knew that these affairs could be, in the long run, a profitable lifeline for both of us.
The idea was to set-up a business that would allow me to stay in her country, and yet be flexible to other venues (the company is setup to teach engrish, import/export an excellent, sellable product, restaurant, etc etc, I like to keep things flexible always) but she is not getting it. The mentality of the country is only to do a) b) or c). I, of course, am an abc kinda guy.
We had spoken of being a team, of being on this for the long run (and she was down), but I think she might be too young for this (22) and I cant work in the country without a visa (business investor visa). She swears up and down there is no-one else in her life besides me. But yet she wants to travel to another city with a bunch of her friends (including a guy Im pretty sure she is into). I cant be there for distance and logistic reasons. I can gut feel where this is going... she feeling guilty about another dood, boning him, trying to feel not slutty....
Today I think I would had married this chick if her character was stronger. She is afraid of abandonment and needs to have someone near most often... and she is still inmature and drives me up the wall sometimes. I have never yelled at a woman. Yet this one gets the worst out out of me, but wouldn't you know it, I think she likes it. Drama, after all, is universal.
Question is, what would you do? go there and try to re-spark what we had ( I have nothing to stop me going there), and sort things out (maybe smack her around a little) or nothing, and next?
My take: cut losses and move on. Any other perspectives are welcome.
I also CARVEd the issue. Stiill coming out even.
I find myself in a quandary. Yet again.
Recent girl of Long Distance said to me 'she needs time off'. we all know what that means:
a) she met another guy that makes her tingle or
b) I lost attraction that she had for me.
Either way it blows.
Background: we had an LDR, for a while, I went visiting overseas 2 times this year already, staying almost 2 months each time. Any other bitch would be static, Id think. I love her (yah, after a parade of women -saturation point reached). She claimed to love me.
We lived together for almost a year, now apart for 3 months at a time. I did a hell of a good job boning her everytime I got, FWIW.Owned her. She is a hard 9, no kidding. Im a half decent dude, Id say Im a 9, mobile, good looks, cash flow, educated, cosmopolitan. No issues on relocating other than language (which I have a primitive understanding of).
In Rossy's classification, I'd fit into lesser Alpha (not hard to meet dames).
But as the prophet Iceberg Slim would say, 'a woman needs to feel close to her man'... aint that the truth brother... 'a woman away is a woman in despair' I might add... LDRs suck hard.
In any case, I had her take care of minor business affairs in her country, to see where she stood (and wiring her a large amount of $$). Nothing life saving or wrecking. I can get the $$ back.
However, she took it way too serious, freaked out, and cant handle it... Now she is getting advice from some wankers that she 'doesnt have to do it'... (help with the business). Thought she knew that these affairs could be, in the long run, a profitable lifeline for both of us.
The idea was to set-up a business that would allow me to stay in her country, and yet be flexible to other venues (the company is setup to teach engrish, import/export an excellent, sellable product, restaurant, etc etc, I like to keep things flexible always) but she is not getting it. The mentality of the country is only to do a) b) or c). I, of course, am an abc kinda guy.
We had spoken of being a team, of being on this for the long run (and she was down), but I think she might be too young for this (22) and I cant work in the country without a visa (business investor visa). She swears up and down there is no-one else in her life besides me. But yet she wants to travel to another city with a bunch of her friends (including a guy Im pretty sure she is into). I cant be there for distance and logistic reasons. I can gut feel where this is going... she feeling guilty about another dood, boning him, trying to feel not slutty....
Today I think I would had married this chick if her character was stronger. She is afraid of abandonment and needs to have someone near most often... and she is still inmature and drives me up the wall sometimes. I have never yelled at a woman. Yet this one gets the worst out out of me, but wouldn't you know it, I think she likes it. Drama, after all, is universal.
Question is, what would you do? go there and try to re-spark what we had ( I have nothing to stop me going there), and sort things out (maybe smack her around a little) or nothing, and next?
My take: cut losses and move on. Any other perspectives are welcome.
I also CARVEd the issue. Stiill coming out even.