I have no patience for flaking.
I tolerate it under only one circumstance: if she contacts me in a timely manner (read: not two/three days after the fact, but preferably well before the date at hand) and proposes an alternative meet. If I see an earnest attempt on her part to reschedule, I'll engage her.
Anything less is unacceptable. This includes:
-Simply not showing up and saying nothing.
-Not showing up and saying nothing until well after the fact.
-Giving a lame excuse without suggesting an alternative date.
If I get anything less than timely contact and a suggestion for an alternative meet-up, I will assume that it is over and cut off all contact with her until she actively re-initiates and suggests something. She will receive absolutely nothing from me beyond this point without her own initiation. If she doesn't re-initiate, then she's gone-no issues. I'll go see another girl or I'll go without-I have no problem with either outcome. Being alone is a preferable outcome to dealing with a flake in my view. If I don't have another girl(s) on call at the time, then I am perfectly OK on my own.
I do not see it as a "challenge" to be overcome, nor will I rationalize it away as a test she can't help but give or some vague sign of her deep subconscious attraction to me(upping her "desire to test me more"). I see it for what it is: rude. I don't tolerate that type of treatment from anybody I know, and I hold every woman I meet to the same standard. I have no interest in being with a girl who cannot meet it.
I tolerate it under only one circumstance: if she contacts me in a timely manner (read: not two/three days after the fact, but preferably well before the date at hand) and proposes an alternative meet. If I see an earnest attempt on her part to reschedule, I'll engage her.
Anything less is unacceptable. This includes:
-Simply not showing up and saying nothing.
-Not showing up and saying nothing until well after the fact.
-Giving a lame excuse without suggesting an alternative date.
If I get anything less than timely contact and a suggestion for an alternative meet-up, I will assume that it is over and cut off all contact with her until she actively re-initiates and suggests something. She will receive absolutely nothing from me beyond this point without her own initiation. If she doesn't re-initiate, then she's gone-no issues. I'll go see another girl or I'll go without-I have no problem with either outcome. Being alone is a preferable outcome to dealing with a flake in my view. If I don't have another girl(s) on call at the time, then I am perfectly OK on my own.
I do not see it as a "challenge" to be overcome, nor will I rationalize it away as a test she can't help but give or some vague sign of her deep subconscious attraction to me(upping her "desire to test me more"). I see it for what it is: rude. I don't tolerate that type of treatment from anybody I know, and I hold every woman I meet to the same standard. I have no interest in being with a girl who cannot meet it.
Know your enemy and know yourself, find naught in fear for 100 battles. Know yourself but not your enemy, find level of loss and victory. Know thy enemy but not yourself, wallow in defeat every time.