[korvex]

Recently I have been rethinking about being a single man forever. I sometimes get the feeling that people think I am a homo, a pedophile, or a pervert just because I am not married. I am not scary looking, but I feel uncomfortable whenever a girl on the street at night sometimes starts running away because she sees that I am alone. Even though I know there are a lot of sickos in the world, I am still offended.

I also just read some articles about never married men and I am worried about who will care for me when I am old and sick?

http://www.suburbanchicagonews.com/couri...26.article

http://www.theledger.com/article/2010082...nely-Death

I am thinking that I should just get married. Being a single man at 21 is okay, but being 50 years old and single is not.

Has anyone ever felt like this?

[oldnemesis]

(09-15-2010 04:10 PM)korvex Wrote:  

Recently I have been rethinking about being a single man forever. I sometimes get the feeling that people think I am a homo, a pedophile, or a pervert just because I am not married.

Do you really care what people think about you? Generally I don't give shit.

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I am not scary looking, but I feel uncomfortable whenever a girl on the street at night sometimes starts running away because she sees that I am alone. Even though I know there are a lot of sickos in the world, I am still offended.

So your conclusion is that you need to walk around at night with a woman so some girls on street wouldn't start running away? Why?

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I also just read some articles about never married men and I am worried about who will care for me when I am old and sick?

That's a main reason people get married in Asian countries which generally have no welfare system, so the next generation is supposed to take care of the older generation. Note, however, that if you do not have kids, it may be you who end up caring about someone who is old and sick.

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I am thinking that I should just get married. Being a single man at 21 is okay, but being 50 years old and single is not.

I think you should only get married when you meet a person you want to marry. Being divorced is probably even worse than being single.

[speakeasy]

(09-15-2010 06:06 PM)oldnemesis Wrote:  

I think you should only get married when you meet a person you want to marry. Being divorced is probably even worse than being single.

Agreed 100%.

Nothing wrong with marriage if that's what you're ready for. But getting married because of social pressure as opposed to something you actually want to do is the wrong reason.

It sounds to me that the OP has a lot of insecurity issues that should best be addressed before he gets to worry about women.

[kerouac]

What's the longest relationship you've been in? Have you ever lived with a girl? Do you have an idea of the type of girl you would like to settle down with?

For me at least, I have an idea of the type of girl I want to get married to and have children with, and having lived with a girlfriend before, I am somewhat familiar with the upsides and downsides. I just don't want to even find a girl like that anytime soon because I am enjoying being single for the moment, but I'm sure once I get in the 30-35 age range and get further into a career that I like, my priorities will shift from looking for hookups to wanting to start a family.

I actually look forward to starting a family in the future. I like the idea of being a father, and having a wife as well.

To get married because you don't want to be lonely or seem creepy is another reason for marriage I guess, but I don't really think it's necessary to get married unless you want to have children with the girl. There are plenty of people who have girlfriends/boyfriends for a super long time and they do just fine.

[Jim Kirk]

How old are you - any response must reflect your age.

[The_CEO]

oh man, Weblinks is back!

[oldnemesis]

(09-15-2010 06:19 PM)speakeasy Wrote:  

Nothing wrong with marriage if that's what you're ready for. But getting married because of social pressure as opposed to something you actually want to do is the wrong reason.

In my opinion doing anything because of social pressure is wrong. The first thing I'm teaching my kids is to withstand social pressure. Don't be a sheep, do it only if you want it, not because someone else wants you to do it.

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It sounds to me that the OP has a lot of insecurity issues that should best be addressed before he gets to worry about women.

I'd agree with this statement.

[gringoed]

(09-15-2010 11:58 PM)toddh Wrote:  

oh man, Weblinks is back!

Haha I was thinking the same thing!

[The_CEO]

(09-16-2010 07:01 PM)gringoed Wrote:  

(09-15-2010 11:58 PM)toddh Wrote:  

oh man, Weblinks is back!

Haha I was thinking the same thing!

the format of his posts are always the same, stating a major downer feeling about something, and then asking if others feel the same way? and usually they have an implicit slant against the generally shared lifestyle attitude here.