I had serious doubts reading the headline of this thread, and so far it's proving true. Let's begin:
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Among 1,500 single smartphone users surveyed in May, ages 21-50, who date or have been in a relationship less than two years:
This small sample size, and clarification around sample definition, waters down the headline and findings. If you're already in a relationship, you are most likely talking in person about future activities, then confirming through text.
Only with new girls do you need to sell dates, or convey personality/spark emotions before suggesting something.
I think some of the younger guys forget the power of a girl hearing your wit over the phone, and men in turn, hearing the woman laughing and enjoying their banter.
A bit of phone time also allows a girl to get more comfortable and ask more personal questions where you can knock it out of the park. Don't get the mentality that every time you call a chick, you'll immediately expose yourself or risk ruining things. That can be a self-fulfilling prophecy.
Also, there's another reason phone time can actually work in your favour. Since things have become more impersonal through text, phone game actually counts for a lot more in terms of rationalizing sleeping with a guy quickly.
I don't do online dating, but have heard from enough girls the following exchange: "So you slept with him on your first date?" "Yeah, but it wasn't like that. We had Skyped/and or chatted on the phone a bunch beforehand"
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Drew Johnson has learned that when it comes to asking a woman out, texting beats calling every time.
"Most of the girls I've hung out with lately prefer a group activity rather than one-on-one," says Johnson, 30, a mechanical engineer from West Chicago, Ill., who plays bass in a band. "From my observations, the response rate on, 'Do you want to go for dinner or meet for a drink?' is very low compared to 'I'm here with a group of people. Show up if you want to,' " he says.
Without commenting on the engineer and 30 year old part time bass player stereotypes, it's obvious he's not really taking the lead, or giving definite plans.
I bet his success rate would go up with texts along the lines of: "Meet me at ____ at 10. Wear your favourite dress and heels. You'll see me in the white blazer"
"I'll pick you up at 10. Wear something sexy but comfy. We may end up working on your dance skills"
If you have weak texting game, what's the odd the phone game is far worse?
I can only imagine: "So what are your favourite foods? Oh, have you been ___? Okay what about ____? Alright well it doesn't matter to me, we can go where you like. Why don't you pick?"
So in conclusion, I'm not taking either approach as an absolute. Lots of grey area, and obviously if you've had enough time in person and/or she's clearing craving it, texting just for logistics is fine.
I love shotgun texts, as well as quick, non-needy set ups like "Round 2 this weekend". Restarts seem to also lend themselves to texting first, and picture texts are often effective too.
Keep in mind the only way you can "lose points" is if you're doing one or the other badly, at the end of the day, technology is still just a tool.