I've had a handful of one-night stands, not to the degree of some studs on this forum, but more than the average man (not saying much). But I don't enjoy one night stands, in fact I would rather have sex with 1 girl ten times, than sleep with 10 girls once.
I enjoy pushing boundaries with a girl sexually, and knowing her spots and having her know mine. It's much more enjoyable to sleep with someone after you've had experience with each other. I also enjoy sex much more if I am emotionally connected to a girl, but that's a post for another time.
I am all for hypergamy and dating multiple women at the same time, but one night stands just to get a notch or a flag, or just to get off don't appeal to me. The sex is awkward and disjointed, I often have performance anxiety and take a while to get up to mast if I have had a few drinks. The performance anxiety could be caused by some underlying beliefs, but I cannot identify them myself.
Part of it could be an efficiency issue, I enjoy having sex but I do not want to put a lot of work into getting it from women. I have traditionally had high quality flings and girlfriends, but my standards are high and they come and go infrequently. I worry that I may not have a true 'abundance mentality' because I am so picky, and have such a specific women I find attractive.
Do you guys think it's a lack of inner game which leads to performance anxiety? Is it normal to take longer to get aroused around a new partner? I don't think this should be the case, but it is with me. It's even worse when the girl is <7 in the looks department, but still apparent with 8s and 9s.
By the 3rd time, all performance anxiety is gone and I am raring to go. Is this something I should accept about myself, or do you guys think there are underlying issues? I've lost a couple of women because of the issue. The nofap movement certainly helped though, maybe it's the after burn of watching porn.
I enjoy pushing boundaries with a girl sexually, and knowing her spots and having her know mine. It's much more enjoyable to sleep with someone after you've had experience with each other. I also enjoy sex much more if I am emotionally connected to a girl, but that's a post for another time.
I am all for hypergamy and dating multiple women at the same time, but one night stands just to get a notch or a flag, or just to get off don't appeal to me. The sex is awkward and disjointed, I often have performance anxiety and take a while to get up to mast if I have had a few drinks. The performance anxiety could be caused by some underlying beliefs, but I cannot identify them myself.
Part of it could be an efficiency issue, I enjoy having sex but I do not want to put a lot of work into getting it from women. I have traditionally had high quality flings and girlfriends, but my standards are high and they come and go infrequently. I worry that I may not have a true 'abundance mentality' because I am so picky, and have such a specific women I find attractive.
Do you guys think it's a lack of inner game which leads to performance anxiety? Is it normal to take longer to get aroused around a new partner? I don't think this should be the case, but it is with me. It's even worse when the girl is <7 in the looks department, but still apparent with 8s and 9s.
By the 3rd time, all performance anxiety is gone and I am raring to go. Is this something I should accept about myself, or do you guys think there are underlying issues? I've lost a couple of women because of the issue. The nofap movement certainly helped though, maybe it's the after burn of watching porn.