[Suits]

I get decent tail without even trying all to hard. Having internalized game concepts, I've accomplished what I set out to in the beginning, when I first embarked upon a journey of self-improvement.

I no longer screw up the great opportunities that come my way. It is not my purpose to amount a massive collection of successful seductions...rather, I'm very content with the women that become available to me as a matter of course, because I socialize widely and I always assume the sale.

With this contentment, comes a result that is impossible for me to ignore. There is only one thing that could cause me to marry.

I am rather capable in certain ways. Brilliant in a few. Highly qualified people are frequently very impressed my ability to think and reason.

There are even a few women who want to sleep with me largely because of the admitted interest they take in my brain.

Its great to have the respect of these people, because I respect them as well.

However, sometimes for the general public, the abilities that I have go unnoticed.

Most of the time this isn't a problem. Generally, people don't question my abilities or disrespect me, because I've develop useful social skills, thanks to game.

However, I recently returned to the city where I began university 9 years ago and a lot of people still remember me from my AFC days. I think its really hard for them to view me as the person I am now and the attempts to emasculate me, even from women who have expressed sexual interest in me at some time or another, are frequent.

It seems that they can deal with the fact that a man who they pegged as a loser (and perhaps justifiably so at the time) is comporting himself as an alpha male, complete with swagger, confidence and suggestions of success.

Really, it shouldn't bother me that the general public doesn't respect me, and most of the time it doesn't, but there is one situation where it does.

When I'm seeing a girl, we enjoy each other's company. She'll often be desperate for my touch, my attention. She'll be enamored with me in private.

But in the public eye, she'll never come to my defense if someone is critical of me.

In my old school stomping ground, with people who knew me when I was younger, its not uncommon for people to recognize my confidence and mistake it for something totally different.

If I make a comment about women, they'll accuse me of knowing nothing about women.

My physical abilities may be questioned by women convinced that they could fight off any male attacker.

If I recount an impressive experience I've had, it'll be doubted.

These women I date, when its just the two of us, I'll get all of their respect.

But if we are in a social situation where someone doubts me, they'll happily jump on the bandwagon, even though they know full well that there is no reason to doubt me, that the attempt to emasculate me is unfounded.

Since regular access to attractive pussy is not a problem for me, if I were to marry, it would be for one reason and one reason only.

I'd be because I met a women who was not just attractive and able to appreciate my true capabilities, but happy to defend me in public rather than taking a visceral delight in belittling me with the help of others.

I'd truly value having a woman in my life who not only recognized my abilities, but was excited to hitch her wagon to me and considered us a team, working towards the same things, the same goals.

There is a reason why this is important to me.

Dick Masterson, having created his troll website (and book) Menarebetterthanwomen.com noted that there were typically only three ways that women would respond to his writing if they intended to insult and undermine his arguments.

They would say he had a small penis, call him gay and say that he couldn't get women.

Like it or not, men are rarely judged by the strength of their character, but more commonly by the sort of women they can attract.

There is hardly a strong endorsement that to have an attractive women nearby who is willing to give credibility to your words.

So nothing pisses me off more than when an attractive, intelligent women is impressed enough with me to open her legs to me as often as I want it, but is the first to join ugly, undesirable women in making the accusation that women don't find me attractive or that my charm has no affect.

I'll get married when an attractive woman finds in herself the character to be honest with the world regarding her attraction to me.

[JimNortonFan]

Be careful. I'm only 5'8" and I used to be about 125#. I come off as smart. When I was in college some hot women thought I was cute and smart enough but they were always making excuses to their friends as to why they liked me because I wasn't good enough for most women. I didn't have one who was proud of me until I had a relationship with someone most guys would rate a 4 or 5. She liked to bring me to any social event with her friends because her 4-7 level friends would rave about me. Part of the reason for that was that I was attached, part of the reason was that my ex gf was giving off blatant overwhelming subconscious cues that she was unsatisfied and that all changed when we got together. She went from ball of nervous energy to relaxed in the space of a few days. She of course ended up looking for other guys behind my back and dropping me for a guy with more money and future prospects of it.

The thing is, all guys want to be seen as valuable for their intrinsic qualities. Women, and to some extent society in general, only view men as valuable for what they can do, not for what they are. It's a vulnerability and a smart woman will know how to push your buttons and get what she wants from you. It's usually single mommy who wants health insurance because the kid is always sick.

I see two things on your profile. Maple leaf flag and a rep point for China info. My advice, if you want to get married, is to find a woman in China, maybe even move there.

[Suits]

(07-01-2013 05:58 AM)JimNortonFan Wrote:  

The thing is, all guys want to be seen as valuable for their intrinsic qualities. Women, and to some extent society in general, only view men as valuable for what they can do, not for what they are. It's a vulnerability and a smart woman will know how to push your buttons and get what she wants from you. It's usually single mommy who wants health insurance because the kid is always sick.

I see two things on your profile. Maple leaf flag and a rep point for China info. My advice, if you want to get married, is to find a woman in China, maybe even move there.

No worries, I write in the theoretical, but I live in reality.

I can't imagine a scenario where a women (being predictably the same all the time) would actually moving away from biologically established behaviour and do something that would earn my respect.

China IS the backup in a way, my mandarin is getting pretty strong and I plan to move there permanently within the next year to start up a consulting company that I've been planning since I finished high school.

However, I'm equally aware of Chinese women's inadequacies.

I'd love to get married, because I'm too lazy to game continually as a preference, but I've seen too much to see that as an likely option.

As it stands, Western women need to be gamed even after you marry them, if not more so than before and Chinese women are just a different can of worms.


If I was to marry -- and that's a very unlikely 'if' -- it would have to be to a woman of unmatched self awareness, honestly and maturity.

I've met one such woman in my life. Married a friend of mine. They are very happy together.



But right now, I'm actually super happy being single -- if single means having three girls going at the same time.



No, what I wrote tonight is more of a contemplative outlet for the stupidity I observe around me.

The kind ladies that inspired it have zero options in life and are stuck "focusing on their careers" because that's the only think they are capable of doing.

I'm happy. I win.

But the absurd stupid I observe around me makes me feel bad for humanity sometimes.

[AntiTrace]

Are you sure your not overestimating your abilities?

You talk of access to high quality pussy, a brain others are jealous of, and an air of success that others don't have.

Yet the women you date respect you in private but jump on the bandwagon of others disrespecting you in public.

It doesn't add up.

If it only happens in the university town your talking of, I wouldn't be concerned. Haters gonna hate. And thats exactly how they do it.

But it if is a reoccurring theme, it may be time do some inward thinking.

[Suits]

(07-01-2013 07:30 AM)AntiTrace Wrote:  

Are you sure your not overestimating your abilities?

You talk of access to high quality pussy, a brain others are jealous of, and an air of success that others don't have.

Yet the women you date respect you in private but jump on the bandwagon of others disrespecting you in public.

It doesn't add up.

If it only happens in the university town your talking of, I wouldn't be concerned. Haters gonna hate. And thats exactly how they do it.

But it if is a reoccurring theme, it may be time do some inward thinking.

Fair point. I was thinking about that earlier.

As I detailed earlier, this has only been something I notice among people who knew me back at least five years ago, before I really came into my own.

I lacked certain necessary social skills at that point in time that were necessary for the American college environment. I talked to much, had no wardrobe worth mentioned, very little self-awareness.

I worked hard to turn that around and I arguably came out on top.

It hasn't been a problem anywhere else in years. Especially in the adult, post-university world were I selective associate with a certain type of people. Employers love me, because, despite the fact that I have a challenging personality for some, I get quantifiable results and people with money on the line love that.

People who have met me more recently in the collegiate environment don't respond like that and when I've been s**t tested, I respond well and it ends of people a lot of fun for everyone.

My concern is with which women can be so two faced. They'll be my biggest supporter one second, but the next, when there is a girl-power ™ opportunity, they'll shift gears so fast, it is shocking.

Part of it may be my fault. With women that I have met post self-improvement phase, its easy to be the new, better improved version of me. I'm cohesive as a man.

When I run into women that knew me when I sucked, I feel like I do a little bit of reverting back into the older version of me. It's like some situational programming kicks in and there's just a little bit of lag in my alpha male projection.

So, its understandable that they would smell blood and go for it. But it doesn't take away the concern from me regard female tendencies.

Where this has come up with girls that I've dated the most, is when/if they meet my parents.

I've been in LTRs were they don't ever attempt to tease me and come out on top.

My parents on the other hand, like to bust my balls, because like many parents probably do, they think of me as their little boy still. So, they'll playfully mock and behaviour that seems inconsistent with what I was like in diapers.

I don't mind this the slightest bit when they do this, because they are my parents and I've shown me a lot of love and been supportive when no one else was. They believe in me before anyone else saw potential.

But when I've taken a girl home, I'm always surprised with the glee and joy that they seem to visibly experience when they decide to join in with my parent's teasing.

My parents have absolutely no ability to appreciate the impact I have on women and how at home I am in China. I can describe it to them, but they can't picture it, because they haven't seen it.

So, when a conversation goes down with my parents in the company of a girlfriend and I make an observation that with it suggests that I believe myself to have a detailed insight and ability to understand women, its understandable that my parents would laugh at me.

But when the gf, who fell for me, because of that knowledge decides to have some fun giving my parents fuel for their fire by declaring out-loud that I have no game, I find it pretty undermining.

On the plus side, I haven't had a LTR in two years that wasn't a MTLR with a girl who knew she wasn't the only one.

So, suffice to say, I don't take girls home anymore.

But I see this tendency to jump on the bandwagon in milliseconds whenever the group dynamic shifts to busting my balls.

For the point of argument, I certainly can't see the ball busting diminishing if I was dumb enough to marry a young lass.

[AntiTrace]

So the guys from the past seem like classic haters. That or they just need time to realize you changed.

I also wouldn't worry about some chick you bring home joining in with your parents. Its most likely just some light teasing, flirting if you well.

And yeah, women are gonna be two faced. Its in their blood. They learn their backstabbing ways on the middle school playgrounds and it just becomes second nature to them. Only option is to date higher quality women, not in terms of looks but in terms of social awareness and general attitude.

Also, think about a typical interaction where this occurs. You obviously think very highly of yourself. If your coming across as a bragger in your interactions, people are going to join in to bring you down a peg on principle alone. I've never met a guy that was modest about his accomplishments that has a similar problem.

[Cr33pin]

[LeBeau]

Hey Suits, if you can reveal this, what university town?

Or let us know the region if that's too specific

The context might help with replies and suggestions