I used to get hit as a kid. Nothing serious. Once every 4 months or so if my dad heard me swearing or something. 3 feet long hollow plastic tubing.
Anyway - I find it funny how shit like that seems to be completely forbidden these days.
It was taken for granted untill recently (20 years ago). But now it seems to be a big no-no. And I do wonder if it might have an effect on kids growing up?
I think some 'tough love' isn't necessarily a bad thing. Indeed - I think it is of more benefit for the parent than it is the kid - since it reminds them that their first priority is to raise the kid well. And not to be their best friend.
But whether it is or not - it is one of the biggest culutural changes over the past couple of generations. And it seems to have not being challenged or debated by anyone (unlike the never-ending debate around gay marriage which is a non-issue to me and will have little effect on most people).
Now - I know things change. But - I really don't like this trend for parents to spend all their time playing with their kids. It is a bit creepy. It seems parents are so scared of the 'big bad world' that they want to just lock them up their kids and play with them themselves.
I remember when the following film ('Big Daddy' - dumb Adam Sandler movie) came out - and the way the father and the kid interacted like two buddies at college just turned my stomach. It just seemed so wrong.
Anyway - I am out of the loop on things to do with kids. Since I will never have any. But I just wanted to raise the issue since I never hear it discussed
I guess the whole issue is a reflection of the whole 'kidult' thing of guys note really becoming proper adults anymore. I guess I am like that - but I was raised to feel you have to be a bit different when you are trying to raise a kid. That involves a whole number layer of responsibilities.
Anyway - I find it funny how shit like that seems to be completely forbidden these days.
It was taken for granted untill recently (20 years ago). But now it seems to be a big no-no. And I do wonder if it might have an effect on kids growing up?
I think some 'tough love' isn't necessarily a bad thing. Indeed - I think it is of more benefit for the parent than it is the kid - since it reminds them that their first priority is to raise the kid well. And not to be their best friend.
But whether it is or not - it is one of the biggest culutural changes over the past couple of generations. And it seems to have not being challenged or debated by anyone (unlike the never-ending debate around gay marriage which is a non-issue to me and will have little effect on most people).
Now - I know things change. But - I really don't like this trend for parents to spend all their time playing with their kids. It is a bit creepy. It seems parents are so scared of the 'big bad world' that they want to just lock them up their kids and play with them themselves.
I remember when the following film ('Big Daddy' - dumb Adam Sandler movie) came out - and the way the father and the kid interacted like two buddies at college just turned my stomach. It just seemed so wrong.
Anyway - I am out of the loop on things to do with kids. Since I will never have any. But I just wanted to raise the issue since I never hear it discussed
I guess the whole issue is a reflection of the whole 'kidult' thing of guys note really becoming proper adults anymore. I guess I am like that - but I was raised to feel you have to be a bit different when you are trying to raise a kid. That involves a whole number layer of responsibilities.