[SweetEmbraceMan]

Last night I went on a date with a cougar. I tried to use some of the techniques found in Bang, but could never find a gap. She dominated the conversation; I only spoke about 20% of the time. On the plus side, I didn't have to work very hard to keep the conversation going.

What's the best way to respond to this situation?

[thekiller]

Pull out Mr. Willy. Look at it, look at her, go "Well? It won't suck itself!" . Enjoy the silence that follows.

Seriously if your out with a Cougar you shouldn't have to say a whole lot, cause she's down to get down. Depending on your age difference she will dominate the conversation and all you have to do is actively listen, and possibly ask questions to clarify, further draw things out. Don't look for spaces with which to spit out your game, it puts you in your head and transmits that your wanting something, wanting is never good. You want to be the non-judgmental, fun, easy going boy-toy who will be discrete.

[OGNorCal707]

(07-09-2010 01:21 AM)klasik Wrote:  

Last night I went on a date with a cougar. I tried to use some of the techniques found in Bang, but could never find a gap. She dominated the conversation; I only spoke about 20% of the time. On the plus side, I didn't have to work very hard to keep the conversation going.

What's the best way to respond to this situation?

As long as she sucks your cock, who cares, she certainly won't be talking much then. That's probably the best way you can get her to shut up.

[Caramel Communist]

-if someone else does all the talking, let them...on a sales call I let my clients/coworkers talk themselves to death..why? because eventually they will hear only themselves. It's a polite way of telling them to shut the fuck up...
truth is that the conversation is only a symptom of the incompatibility..it's a energy issue as well....sounds like she is high energy...if she is fine, then let her talk and listen offering the occasional question or response...

[oldnemesis]

(07-09-2010 01:21 AM)klasik Wrote:  

Last night I went on a date with a cougar. I tried to use some of the techniques found in Bang, but could never find a gap. She dominated the conversation; I only spoke about 20% of the time. On the plus side, I didn't have to work very hard to keep the conversation going.

Which should not be a surprise. Bang describes a "overcoming the resistance" kind of game, which is based on assumption that the girl does not know or isn't sure what she wants from you, and generally resists everything because of her nature or some moral issues. The older is the woman you're dealing with, the less the chance she'd fit into that pattern. She'd typically know what she wants, and has no moral concerns about it. She also may have limited time, and not in the mood to play games.

From my experience they generally looking up to test the following before banging you:

1. Your expectations are real, and you do not expect her to have a 18yo body once she strips down. You can pass it by sincerely complimenting her. I know Roosh doesn't recommend it in Bang, but in those scenarios it works quite well. You can either make a sincere compliment about her appearance, or you can play something like "You're really hot" and she typically says something like "C'mon you're kidding", or something like that. Then you tell her that you're a mature man and it would be naive to expect her to look 18, and neither do you - but you like what you see. Note that this will only work when she's visibly older than you.

2. You are confident and secure, and you won't bring any drama or get needy. This one is easy - control your emotions and body language, and do not get over-excited. Having sex is not a big deal for you.

3. You are mature and discreet. This is important because a lot of them are quite high in corporate hierarchy, and the last thing she may want is to get your sexual experience described in some blog while mentioning her real name. Do not talk about your past sexual encounters except in highly anonymous matter, and when she tests you by asking more details, tell her that you never discuss those things with anyone.

Another thing to look for is that if you're looking for a bang, you need to make sure she's interested too, and not just boosting her self-esteem by talking to a hot guy. Escalate by touching like described in Bang. If she is open for physical actions, her reaction will be positive or at least encouraging. If her reaction is neutral (i.e. she seems to ignore your touching attempts) then your chances may be slim.

I also found out that if everything goes right, you can escalate things fast by throwing in time constrain, like "in three hours I should be sleeping as I'm waking up early tomorrow". If she ignores your comment, she is not ready/does not want it. If she however plays it off like "me too" or asks you for elaborate ("so?"), be ready to offer a way to continue ("you mentioned mentioned you have a nice picture/photos from your trip/a funny costume, it would be fun to see them"). An offer to go to your place to taste some exotic alcoholic beverage ("a bottle of 18yo rum I brought from Jamaica") may work as well.